AiBU to decline sun hol with relatives due to food timings?

I have found that often pubs have a vast selection of wines. Where are you going to? If it’s an old man type pub, then yes, they tend to have a limited selection, but gastro pubs have loads.

I think because most people don’t go to pubs to drink wine. So the selection is often limited and sometimes the bottles are opened and left sitting.

Not sure when you last went in a pub but a huge amount of wine drinkers buying both by bottle or glass. Open bottles never hang around in a fridge long but they have air expelling tops so are good for a few days once opened anyway. Unless you're talking a local bowling club etc. a pub in a holiday resort will absolutely have a wide range of wines

Right,

Do you want to go or not? If not don't go. If you feel obligated for family reasons or something, then refuse to share a room with them. What grown woman would share with two others and be cramped, to save money when you say that's not an issue? Explain please..... So, you have your own room and can skip breakfast and join them for dinner as you like to do.

You can even escape while they're having breakfast and go off on your own somewhere. That's what I would do if I wanted to be apart and away from the food intake monitoring going on.

I know what you mean about timings on the 16/8, I use that myself, but honestly - on holiday I forget about it and get back into the rhythm again when home. You won't gain that much, just watch your portions and keep drinking the vino.

I’m not going to use the word fat but 11st at 5ft3 is overweight, I’m the same height.

This 100%

Go and eat what you want, when you want. You feel pressured because you're giving your travel mates too much power.

I would get some help for your disordered eating. Weight loss is 80% diet and 20% exercise. Calorie counting is far easier and gives you much more freedom.

Are you kidding? That was true in the 80’s, most definitely not the case now. Wine is a huge seller in the majority of pubs.
https://www.thedrinksbusiness.com/2023/11/drinking-habits-shift-as-uk-changes-to-wine-from-beer/

Who are these people to you? Your mother and sister?
You don't have to fall into the "child" mode when you are with them, you are an adult woman. The sky won't fall in if you don't have breakfast with them, or if you choose to have a solo lunch.
But you could be more flexible.. you don't have to follow 16:8 while on holiday. You could just be a bit careful ( although who wants to do that on holiday, part of the pleasure is trying different food)or you could just accept that you might put on a bit of weight - it won't be a lot over a week or less.
You could have breakfast as late as possible, and then something light for lunch, and then dinner . If it is a sun holiday and you are by the sea, have some fish for lunch.
You can be a bit more forceful about the timing of dinner if you really think it's going to make that much of a difference, but I wouldn't want to be eating dinner at 7 on holiday, it would be way too early. So I might compromise some of the time.
The thing is, you can make it work if you want to, and if you relatives want to. Maybe you should have a frank discussion with them, but if you can't be a bit more flexible, maybe you'd be better off not going. You can't really tell them that it's your way all the way or you're not going.

Goodness, it's only food OP, not a course of life saving medical treatment!

Eat what you want and eat when you want and stop worrying about what others think or say.

The best thing about being an adult is the autonomy it brings.

I weigh a lot more* *than 11 st (11st would be my target weight at weight watchers!) and any relative that nit picked so much about what I ate and drank on holiday would swiftly be told to fuck right off!!!
Eat what you want, drink what you want, if you gain a few pounds so be it - its a holiday, not a test of endurance.

It sounds like you just don’t like them. Why go on holiday with people you don’t like?

Honestly, it's bonkers not to go on holiday (presuming you enjoy holidays and care about these people) because of mealtimes - surely you can see how daft it is to allow food to affect your life this much?

Yes, this sounds more like a punishment than a holiday? Do you even want to go?

I don’t like them either, having read that they mentions other people’s weight, take up too much space and have firm ideas about what and when everyone else should be eating.

I think because most people don’t go to pubs to drink wine. So the selection is often limited and sometimes the bottles are opened and left sitting.

I don't think this is so much about food and more about the fact you don't really like these people so much and don't want to go on holiday with them. A holiday should be something to look forward to, not all this angst.

Look, I weigh 11 stone as well but you sound decidedly obsessive about your weight.

Traipsing the streets to stave off your hunger is not normal. It seems you have bigger problems than whether to go on this holiday or not tbh.

All of this does not sound like a holiday.

Is anything about it nice?

Just skip breakfast and have lunch - no idea why you think this wouldn't be strange. Explain to relatives you normally do it this way and prefer it. They obviously aren't worried about sticking to their own slightly unusual schedule so why are you?! Also how can you dislike all wine in all pubs. It will be different everywhere!

They sound awful.

I am in the minority vote. I’d not enjoy a holiday where I’m held to someone else’s eating and drinking habits. Also, pub wine is awful in many places.

Your boobs are not going to shrink they are what they are....I have 12 bottom and 18 top boobs grow every year I weigh less than when I got married but my dress wouldn't fit half my boob my surgeon (had cancer) said that they accounted for 2 stone of my weight. I was desperately trying to lose weight when I didn't need to