AiBU to decline sun hol with relatives due to food timings?

Seriously, that's what you want to say???

It might seem trivial to you, but it's still a real life situation that OP has to navigate.

Have a little more empathy, please.

First world problems?

Just don't go on the holiday as it really doesn't suit you. Keeping to your current weight is good for your mental and physical well-being, so carry on doing this.

You're an adult or small child needing permission?

Good grief just don’t go! It all sounds very stressful!

Oh dear, why are you letting them dictate to you like this?
Make it clear that you don't eat breakfast - ask for a room only tariff maybe?
Who cares if ordering more wine looks greedy? If you want wine then order it (and be prepared to pay for it).
If they make an issue of it, tell them clearly that they are making you uncomfortable to the point that you have to reconsider going on holiday with them.
Also your last point above is good - just tell them that.

Why not go self-catering for autumn holiday?

Buy in all the breakfast, lunch and alcohol to make yourselves, when you want to eat and drink

With the money saved, buy dinner - either going out as two couples separately or all together.

Or consider going on a April/May holiday instead of Sept/Oct holiday - so you have all summer to lose weight?

It all seems incredibly petty and fussy for everyone going away on holiday to have such exact timings that you don't even follow anyway, regardless.

A very odd post, just eat when and what suits you. You don’t have to eat breakfast just because others are and you can grab a sandwich or something for lunch even if they’re not? Can’t see the problem.

This sounds like a really miserable trip so don’t go.I totally get where you are coming from- I loose fitness over holidays and I don’t really think it’s worth it.

Just don’t go. It’s your holiday too and it sounds like they’re dictating or at least making you feel uncomfortable for having different habits to them.

How is it wasteful, you are not getting it then scraping it into a bin, if you choose not to have breakfast, that's your choice. Also, order as much wine as you want. Why are you behaving like a child, seeking their approval. Who put them in charge of you.? It all seems very controlling, and you are allowing it. Be an adult and stop letting them walk over you.

It’s hard to describe the hell of other people performing a running commentary on what you’re eating and drinking if you’ve never experienced it, often down to the level of an olive or peanut from a gratis bowl of bar snacks.

Everything, including timings, becomes a tedious and increasingly unbearable litany of pointless moral judgement in the midst of a supposedly ‘relaxed’ trip.

Yes, because she needs space for her toiletries and that’s outrageous.

Also, who eats lunch? Who doesn’t love going ten hours with no food?

Dear lord - STOP worrying about what other people think!!! Do what YOU want to do on holiday and sod what your relatives say or think!

We often go on holidays where elaborate breakfasts are included. I’m never hungry till I’ve been up for a few hours. I generally have coffee and very little to eat, but take a collapsible bag and take yogurts, cheese, fruit, a hb egg, from buffet, wrap them in napkins and then eat when I’m hungry around noon or early afternoon. Then a nice dinner

This! I’m surprised the other people involved aren’t on here asking how to uninvite the OP!

Eat what you want when you want it.

You want breakfast, have it, if you don't, don't.

Same with lunch, dinner and wine.

If they comment tell them you have reached your own eating habits for your health and won't be changing them on holiday.

So you actually want to go?

Don't go on the holiday. Sounds like its stressful for you, so why bother. You have a lot of anxiety about weight gain I see and if your relatives can't accommodate you, just stick to the one with your dh and kids. If you must go on this 2nd trip, then you can't really complain about it as you know what you're in for and you do it anyway. Don't go

Look this all sounds a bit stressful to me! I’m 46 had a baby at 42 and can’t lose the baby-weight ! I categorically wouldnt give up a holiday over eating times ! Maybe just my view but life is too short ! I run and work out 3 times a week but seriously not gonna restrict my diet on holiday!

Sounds like food controls your life.

I voted that you are NOT being unreasonable - just don't go. It really doesn't sound like a relaxing holiday, squashed in one room with relatives who you don't seem to be comfortable around and who do not seem to think your needs are important. If you do go, you should just eat and drink when and what you want to according to your own choices. But crumbs, it sounds like a nightmare. Wouldn't you rather just stay home?

It sounds like you have a slightly tricky relationship with these relatives. If you can afford it, you would probably find it easier to have your own room. Space for you and your belongings, and a mini fridge that you can stock with lunch items.

Then you can just have tea or coffee at breakfast (or skip it altogether). Then retreat to your room for a ‘nap’ or to ‘cool down’ when you get hungry. No fuss or bother.

The wine at dinner would bug me. Best thing would be to casually fill up both your glasses before you go to the buffet etc.

Much ado about nothing. You’re an adult. If you don’t want breakfast don’t eat it!

FGS holidays are supposed to be enjoyed. It sounds like this one is going to be a nightmare so don’t go.

I’m exhausted just reading that. Holidays are meant to be relaxing so I don’t think I’d bother going on one that was going to cause me that much stress.