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Fiancée going to Ibiza minus her engagement ring

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Amibeingcheated · 17/05/2024 14:18

My fiancée is going to Ibiza without me and plans to leave her engagement ring at home to keep it safe.
is this a reasonable thing to do?
AIBU ~ it’s fine she is just keeping it safe
IANBU ~ don’t trust her

OP posts:
Everanewbie · 17/05/2024 15:57

Would we all be quite so defensive of a man intent on leaving his wedding ring behind? Generally engagement rings are a lot more expensive than wedding bands, but in principle?

MermaidEyes · 17/05/2024 15:57

Reading this thread, I must be the only person who never ever takes my rings off.

IvyGrippedtheSteps · 17/05/2024 15:56

Amibeingcheated · 17/05/2024 15:16

Thank you everyone
it’s for real but more of a concern than belief she will cheat.
it just stuck me as odd and wanted to get some female opinions.

Does she know she’s engaged to someone this suspicious and paranoid?

Penguinmouse · 17/05/2024 15:54

She’s keeping her jewellery safe - look, if she wanted to cheat on you, a) I don’t think she’d tell you she was taking her ring off and leaving it at home b) she’d just take it off at the hotel c) she’d keep it on and do it anyway.

Aquamarine1029 · 17/05/2024 15:53

Fucking hell. Do you even trust her at all? If she wants to fuck another man, she's going to do it. Where her engagement ring is would be irrelevant.

You, sir, are the red flag.

gamerchick · 17/05/2024 15:52

Amibeingcheated · 17/05/2024 15:16

Thank you everyone
it’s for real but more of a concern than belief she will cheat.
it just stuck me as odd and wanted to get some female opinions.

At least be honest with yourself 🙄

I don't even wear my wedding ring in general, never mind the engagement right. They're put away. Funnily enough this doesn't strike my husband as odd.

It's not like they're some stop you cheating forcefield and if you're thinking like that then you may as well end it.

Abitorangelooking · 17/05/2024 15:50

My engagement ring was expensive, so I wouldn’t take it abroad. I don’t wear a lot of jewellery day to day but it’s all expensive so when I go on holiday I take some cheap stuff. I know someone who had a QVC diamonique ring that was relatively similar to her own ring so she’d wear that instead.

Unless she has proper insurance it wouldn’t be covered under a travel policy which has quite a low item limit.

GentlemanJohnny · 17/05/2024 15:49

DW only wears her engagement ring on special occassions.

Strawberrycheesecake7 · 17/05/2024 15:49

If she was going to cheat surely she could just take it with her on holiday but not wear it when she goes out? And I doubt she would mention it to you at all if that were the case. It really does sound like she’s just worried about losing it.

DahliaSmith · 17/05/2024 15:45

It's a ring, not a lock on her knickers or a magic talisman that renders her faithful.

What exactly is your concern?

longdistanceclaraclara · 17/05/2024 15:42

I always leave mine at home. I know I'd lose it, taking it on and off all the time, don't want it getting gunked up with sunscreen. I leave my wedding ring on because my finger is now fat and I can't get it off but it is pretty indestructible.

You may need to rethink getting married.

Marshly · 17/05/2024 15:41

Like others have said if it was to cheat, she would just take it off there and a lot of people aren’t put off by engagement rings anyway. I think she’s genuinely trying to keep it safe as it could easily be lost in the sea/pool, because of suncream etc.

5128gap · 17/05/2024 15:40

Firstly, if she thought it would hamper her cheating she'd take it off when she got there rather than arouse your suspicions.
Secondly, do you think wearing an engagement ring would put guys off from cheating with her? It would be casual sex in Ibiza, they wouldn't care if she was celebrating her silver wedding if she didn't.

Confortableorwhat · 17/05/2024 15:39

Out of interest, do you wear an engagement ring? I've long felt they're a symbol of ownership, although most here would argue otherwise, that seems to be how you see it?

SummerFeverVenice · 17/05/2024 15:39

Leaving a ring behind is not problem. Chastity belt on the other hand…

purplecorkheart · 17/05/2024 15:37

I never bring any of my good jewellery on holidays not to mind say an expensive engagement ring. I buy stuff in Primark so it is no big deal if it gets lost or stolen.

mrsdineen2 · 17/05/2024 15:34

Sapphire387 · 17/05/2024 15:31

Do you wear an engagement ring yourself? Or do you think it's only she who needs to appear 'off the market'?

I think OP is being unreasonable, but surely the response to this is - did she buy him one?

Sapphire387 · 17/05/2024 15:31

Do you wear an engagement ring yourself? Or do you think it's only she who needs to appear 'off the market'?

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 17/05/2024 15:16

Sun lotion and engagement rings don't mix. If you're that worried get yourself off to Swarovski and get something bling and fake but be prepared to have quite an upset fiancee when she realises you don't trust her at all

Original poster
Amibeingcheated · 17/05/2024 15:16

Thank you everyone
it’s for real but more of a concern than belief she will cheat.
it just stuck me as odd and wanted to get some female opinions.

OP posts:
MrsTerryPratchett · 17/05/2024 14:57

I wonder if this is a MRA thread because of the Thailand one. If it is, that's different.

KrisAkabusi · 17/05/2024 14:53

This can't be real.

If it is real, and you trust her this little before you're even married, walk away now, your fiancee will be better off.

divinededacende · 17/05/2024 14:46

Sharptonguedwoman · 17/05/2024 14:40

I saw a video on line recently. Chap with metal detector on a beach. In a verfeweeks he had found 5 seriously expensive rings with valuable stones. Your fiancée is a sensible girl.

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Shit. If anyone's looking for me, I'll be in Ibiza with a metal detector.

MojoDojoCasaHouse · 17/05/2024 14:45

Men on the pull don’t give a shit if you’re engaged or married. I’m fact they often like it as a) the challenge b) no strings attached bunk up.

Sharptonguedwoman · 17/05/2024 14:40

Amibeingcheated · 17/05/2024 14:18

My fiancée is going to Ibiza without me and plans to leave her engagement ring at home to keep it safe.
is this a reasonable thing to do?
AIBU ~ it’s fine she is just keeping it safe
IANBU ~ don’t trust her

I saw a video on line recently. Chap with metal detector on a beach. In a verfeweeks he had found 5 seriously expensive rings with valuable stones. Your fiancée is a sensible girl.

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