Fiancée going to Ibiza minus her engagement ring

If you don't trust her, do yourself and her a favour and split up.

If it's valuable, it seems sensible to leave behind.

If she was planning on cheating, I doubt she'd have told you she was leaving the damned thing behind - she'd just have taken it off when she got there and stuck it in a hotel safe or something. Don't be such a weirdo.

Yes I'd be leaving it at home to

I always leave mine at home, in fact barely ever wear it. Makes absolutely no difference to my commitment to DH. It's a ring.

You're not being unreasonable to ask if it's an unusual thing to do.

The answer is a resounding no, it's not at all unusual. Valuable jewellery and sun holidays don't mix.

I never take my engagement ring or wedding ring to Ibiza or anywhere else that I go on holiday with my friends. They are worth far more than my travel insurance would cover, never mind the sentimental value.

You know, if she wants to cheat, an engagement ring on her finger won’t stop her, right? It’s not as though guys stay away from women with rings on their fingers!

I suggest you start trusting her or your future marriage is doomed.

You think men in Ibiza are that noble they'll swerve a woman who's wearing a ring signifying commitment? You think that her removing it signifies her intent to shag?

If she wanted to cheat, she could do it on her lunch break, or a 2 minute shag with a randomer on a girls night out in the disabled loos.

I don't have expensive jewellery but if I did, I would leave it at home as well. Apart from loss, it could make her a target for a mugging or a mugging plus worse.

I had two precious rings stolen in Spain. I'm much more careful now.

@WhereYouLeftIt yes I agree, but then you're defending this on the value rather than trust. I.e. the guy needs to accept his jealousy is outweighed by the risk of losing the high value item, but when the item is lower value, his jealousy outweighs the item? And of course they'd be married rather than just engaged, but how much more of a serious offense is cheating on a spouse than a fiancé?

I do think the OP is being a little paranoid, but I can also see the outrage if someone's DH was off to Ayia Napa or an Algarve golf trip and decided they didn't want to risk taking their wedding ring. I still think there would be a good proportion that would tell OP to not be so paranoid, and that a ring is no chastity belt (male version?) but I still think there would be several posters who would have spidey senses tingling.

I have a bombproof platinum and diamond solitaire so I wear it everywhere. If I had a halo setting or pavé diamonds I wouldn’t wear it to the beach. I have a diamond and sapphire 3 stone ring I also wouldn’t wear to the beach so that gets left at home for activity or beach holidays. Sapphire is much more easily scratched than diamond.

A wedding band is a very different thing though, isn't it? From a purely practical point of view, they're damned hard to damage!

As such I would very much raise an eyebrow at anyone, man or woman, who left their wedding ring behind.

Are you usually as insecure as your username would suggest?

My husband calls me his undercover wife because I rarely wear my rings 😂 honestly I was always taking them on and off for cleaning, gym, swimming etc and forgetting where I put them so I just keep them in a jewellery box now. I would never take them on holiday in case I lost them.

I regularly go on holiday without my husband or my rings and have never even thought of cheating x

I haven’t worn my engagement or wedding ring for years, it doesn’t mean I’m out shagging half the town.

You don’t trust her. Even a concern (although you created an account with that username, so don’t kid yourself it’s only a concern not a belief) means you don’t trust her. Break it off with her before she goes to Ibiza and she can at least have some rebound sex.

I’ve done this but got a cheap fake ring to wear instead. I’d be so upset if I damaged it when I got a bit drunk

1 so I would reduce my chances of being approached ( didn’t knock too many guys off trying )

and 2, my hub said I didn’t need to bother getting a fake ring but I think it was just a decent thing to do

Completely reasonable.

I accidentally left my engagement ring in a hotel in Cannes. The manager was lovely and honest, and said I could arrange for a courier to collect it, but no courier would insure it.

I had to fly back to Cannes to collect it in person.

Much better leave it at home for safe keeping.

I can’t speak for everyone on the thread, I can only say my answer would be the same. Taking a ring on holiday is a risk and if it’s lost there’s no chance of finding it in the sea or whatever. Like I say, I think the fact she’s leaving it at home shows she really does think it’s a risk rather than her wanting to cheat, or she would just take it off there and leave it in her hotel room. I’d say the same to a woman worried about a man cheating or a man worried about a man cheating or a woman worried about a woman cheating - which this could be.

I think I’ve been chatted up more when wearing my engagement ring! It definitely doesn’t hold special men repellant powers.

Yeah, we don’t wear wedding bands/rings either. They aren’t magic rings of protection against one night stands. Anyone with or without a ring on can get casual sex if they want it.

No idea as i don't know your fiancee.

Wouldnt occur to me to know or even discuss if i am or will be wearing my rings with my husband and vise versa.

If you are worried that she is going to cheat then there are bigger issues here. A ring on a finger wont stop that happening!

@Marshly @Aquamarine1029 I agree with you actually. The ring wont stop him/her cheating and it could be viewed as an ownership branding. But if the hypothetical husband wore is ring 24/7, then decided he'd leave it behind for a lads holiday, are you sure that the verdict here would be quite so unanimous?

Tbh she could say goodbye to you then slip it in her pocket every day of the week.
Saying she's leaving it at home rather than take it and risk losing it or getting mugged for it is not in itself suspicious.

If she wants to cheat, she will. Whether the ring is in the same country as her or not

Has she given you reason to think she has been or would be unfaithful?

My husband's is upstairs with mine. He doesn't have to wear it if he doesn't want to.

Yeah. It’s not a nice thing to think about but my husband could be having an affair with the neighbour while wearing his wedding ring. Lots of people have affairs knowing the person is married or engaged or whatever, a ring won’t stop them. I’m sure many husbands leave their rings at home to do eg physical jobs, sports, take the kids swimming etc and some don’t even wear one at all. A ring won’t stop cheating, only your spouse/partner can stop cheating happening.

My husband doesn't even wear one, ever, and I couldn't care less. Maybe I should put a brand on his forehead to show my ownership. 🙄

I never ever wear my engagement ring when I go away. It's too precious. (And expensive).

I wear my wedding ring though.

Are there any reasons why you don't trust her?