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Would this have made me look weak?

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Dont1981 · 17/05/2024 13:59

I know I'm overthinking this but..
It was during a date, and we were talking about uni days. Can't remember the exact context but I was saying that people who were always doing X at uni when they were drunk would get on my nerves.

He said 'You've just described exactly how I was at uni."

I laughed and said 'oops sorry'

And he said 'no you don't need to apologise '

Anyway he didn't want a second date, wondering if this put him off?

I was only saying it in a jokey way but I know saying sorry makes people look weak, doesn't it?

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ErrolTheDragon · 17/05/2024 14:02

Your response in that context was fine. Him taking it as possibly really being an apology rather than a socially appropriate reply was a bit odd! Better off without that one I think.

fedupandstuck · 17/05/2024 14:01

But you were sorry, that you accidentally slightly insulted him. That's a normal response. Saying sorry all the time to apologise for anything at all that you're saying, is a sign of a lack of self-confidence or self-belief. It's not "weak" to do that, and it's not "strong" to never apologise.

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Dont1981 · 17/05/2024 14:01

NuffSaidSam · 17/05/2024 14:00

I think it was probably the fact that people who behave like he does get on your nerves more than the 'sorry' that did it.

Or any one of a hundred other things.

But no, saying sorry doesn't make you look weak.

I mean uni was over a decade ago and he said he's teetotal now so hopefully he didn't take it too badly.

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Dont1981 · 17/05/2024 14:01

IceCreamWoes · 17/05/2024 14:00

How weird. Why do you think saying sorry is weak?

I mean people who sort of use it a lot. Like in this example there was no need for me to say it, of course it's important to say it when it's genuinely warranted.

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NuffSaidSam · 17/05/2024 14:00

I think it was probably the fact that people who behave like he does get on your nerves more than the 'sorry' that did it.

Or any one of a hundred other things.

But no, saying sorry doesn't make you look weak.

IceCreamWoes · 17/05/2024 14:00

How weird. Why do you think saying sorry is weak?