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Whattochoosetowatch · 2024-05-16T18:55:07+00:00

😨😨😨😨 ’I’ve just shit my pants, literally’ He messaged me this today from work. He’s not been feeling well recently and complains of a funny tummy in front of our Dd, 6. Aibu to feel totally put off by this and to just not want to know? Or am I just a cold, uncaring person?!

livefully · 16/05/2024 23:51

I'd assume he was telling me because he's got some distress about the incident and I'm a safe person. I'd say something like, "Oh no, poor you," and ask if he needed some help (like fresh clothes). You know - some care and compassion like I'd want if I did something that embarrassing.

I was at a group meeting a few weeks ago and an elderly woman wet herself. I was next to her and didn't make a big deal about it and discreetly helped her get sorted. One day that old lady could be me and I'd appreciate someone with some compassion in an already upsetting situation.

CreamLampshade · 16/05/2024 23:48

No. I’d be concerned. Tell him to go to the doctors, especially if he has recurring issues. Losing control of one’s bowels is a symptom of Bowel cancer (amongst other things).

Caerulea · 16/05/2024 22:19

How would you feel if your DH collapsed, had to be rushed to hospital & they needed to know about his health - wouldn't you feel a bit of a tit throwing your arms in the air & going 'no idea! I find it all rather icky'.

It's important to talk about this stuff imo, even just in a joking manner and ESPECIALLY men who are notorious for not getting help when they need it!

toothache23 · 16/05/2024 22:15

A new boyfriend, maybe. But my husband and I are often say revolting things to one another. If you can't be comfy with your spouse who can you be comfy with?

NotTerfNorCis · 16/05/2024 22:15

Yes at one point, but my OH says things like this and I got used to it.

Hoglet70 · 16/05/2024 22:14

Lovinglife57 · 16/05/2024 22:13

I did but talking about op thread not your personal problem lol anyway yes start a thread but be serious this thread was about a random shit my pants 🤷‍♀️

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I only said it wouldn't put me off and why 😊

PossumintheHouse · 16/05/2024 22:14

Hoglet70 · 16/05/2024 22:13

Me or the other one? I've got a cup of tea.

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Not you.

Lovinglife57 · 16/05/2024 22:13

Hoglet70 · 16/05/2024 22:10

Sorry, I thought you replied to me. Haha I should start a dodgy bowel thread. Come talk here if you have shat yourself 😃

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I did but talking about op thread not your personal problem lol anyway yes start a thread but be serious this thread was about a random shit my pants 🤷‍♀️

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Me or the other one? I've got a cup of tea.

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Hoglet70 · 16/05/2024 22:10

Lovinglife57 · 16/05/2024 22:07

I’m replying to op not you and your problems …so if you want to make a thread feel free …sorry about your dodgy bowels by the way

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Sorry, I thought you replied to me. Haha I should start a dodgy bowel thread. Come talk here if you have shat yourself 😃

Lovinglife57 · 16/05/2024 22:07

Hoglet70 · 16/05/2024 22:00

As someone with very dodgy bowels, if I didn't normalise it then it would be awful. Being ashamed of bowel movements and accidents when you have a chronic condition would be horrendous. Maybe I am a bit too down in the depths though as a result 😂

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I’m replying to op not you and your problems …so if you want to make a thread feel free …sorry about your dodgy bowels by the way

StarShipControl · 16/05/2024 22:04

No it wouldn't. I'd be sending him off to the dr as it would be a very worrying thing to have happened, if he was bedridden with some extreme sickness or something.

Oldandcobwebby · 16/05/2024 22:04

Well, aren't you a charmer? A bit of compassion and empathy wouldn't go amiss, you know.

Lovinglife57 · 16/05/2024 22:01

ShadesofPoachedSmoke · 16/05/2024 21:58

@Lovinglife57 that's funny coming from the poster who quoted themselves then replied to the quote "your (sic) welcome"

I just going to assume you're really drunk now.

What are you talking about I was messages thanks I said you’re welcome …just for the record I don’t drink never have so who is the drunk one sweetie 🤔

Hoglet70 · 16/05/2024 22:00

Lovinglife57 · 16/05/2024 21:58

We all shit but I couldn’t think of anything worse than my partner messaging to say hey darling just for the record I’ve shit myself at work today love you ….er no fuck that I would run for the hills yuk I don’t want to know flush you pants down the shitter and go about your day and be sure not to message me about itv🤢🤢🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮

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As someone with very dodgy bowels, if I didn't normalise it then it would be awful. Being ashamed of bowel movements and accidents when you have a chronic condition would be horrendous. Maybe I am a bit too down in the depths though as a result 😂

ShadesofPoachedSmoke · 16/05/2024 22:00

And nobody should be flushing pants down a loo for goodness sake, super fast way to block a system. And bring everything back up with it.

ShadesofPoachedSmoke · 16/05/2024 21:58

@Lovinglife57 that's funny coming from the poster who quoted themselves then replied to the quote "your (sic) welcome"

I just going to assume you're really drunk now.

Lovinglife57 · 16/05/2024 21:58

Hoglet70 · 16/05/2024 21:55

Oh bless him! As someone with IBD who has shit my pants on a few occasions and made sure DH knows about it, I would probably laugh. We all shit!!! Hopefully not often in our pants but it does happen.

We all shit but I couldn’t think of anything worse than my partner messaging to say hey darling just for the record I’ve shit myself at work today love you ….er no fuck that I would run for the hills yuk I don’t want to know flush you pants down the shitter and go about your day and be sure not to message me about itv🤢🤢🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮

Hoglet70 · 16/05/2024 21:55

Oh bless him! As someone with IBD who has shit my pants on a few occasions and made sure DH knows about it, I would probably laugh. We all shit!!! Hopefully not often in our pants but it does happen.

GrandTheftWalrus · 16/05/2024 21:53

Janiie · 16/05/2024 21:22

'My dh had to clean up my shit after I had dd2 unexpectedly on the living room floor along with blood. He didn't complain. When I was struggling with my broken ankle and managing the loo he offered to help.'

2 valid and completely different scenarios, her dh was at work. Although tbh I'm not sure a broken ankle would stop me getting to the loo in time.

I was on crutches for the first time ever as was totally non weight-bearing and like I say I have ibs so he'd offered to help if I hadn't made it etc. He didn't have to though, I managed even after falling off them one morning and having to crawl to bathroom as I couldn't get back up.

Janiie · 16/05/2024 21:50

Whattochoosetowatch · 16/05/2024 21:45

@Badburyrings But…you…spelt it wrong 😊

Lovinglife57 · 16/05/2024 21:48

ShadesofPoachedSmoke · 16/05/2024 21:46

Well, someone has major ishooooos and it's not just OP

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Bless you sweetie

ShadesofPoachedSmoke · 16/05/2024 21:46

Lovinglife57 · 16/05/2024 20:38

Nobody …but NOBODY need to tell anyone guess what I shit myself today fuck off with the empathy and compassion who the fuck needs to know some things are just fucking private ffs

Well, someone has major ishooooos and it's not just OP

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Whattochoosetowatch · 16/05/2024 21:45

@Badburyrings But…you…spelt it wrong 😊

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