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Mum screaming F you at another car outside nursery

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unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:26

I was just picking up my child when I saw another mum exit the nursery with her child.

They were going to a car parked on the road and there was an altercation with another car. The mum was putting her child into her seat and a woman in a car that was passing them, started shouting at the mum for putting her child in her seat in the road.

The mum then proceeded to shout 'F You ' twice to the lady, who then drove off. The mum then looked and me and said sorry and drove off.

AIBU to think this is totally unacceptable outside of a nursery ? Thankfully my child didn't hear, but her child did !

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liveforsummer · 16/05/2024 16:56

unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:52

We've received emails before about parents parking on double yellows outside and residents complaining. I'm sure they'll send out an email reminding people to mind how they behave as it's a residential street.

It's legal to park on double yellows though. Not so much to have a little swear!

saoirse31 · 16/05/2024 16:55

The mother apologised to you, not really sure what more you want.

Charl1991 · 16/05/2024 16:54

Complain about what? We all have bad days it’s just language and wasn’t directed towards any children!

liveforsummer · 16/05/2024 16:54

Oh bless! I'm afraid in the real world people swear! It's not ideal but hardly a criminal offence so nothing to report.

WhereAreAllTheBendyBusses · 16/05/2024 16:53

Bluevelvetsofa · 16/05/2024 16:28

Not a good idea to have the door to the road open. Better to park so putting the child in the car is on the pavement side, or scramble across.

But, altercations outside a nursery or other educational establishment are never a good thing.

I had a woman shouting and swearing at me. I was putting my dc in the roadside. However I also had a passenger in front and 2 dcs already in the back. Sometimes no choice but to go roadside. I also can't lean right over and secure them all in from the pavement due to back issue.

I had taken seconds and she was screaming and swearing at me.

bluetopazlove · 16/05/2024 16:53

Oh some people love a good bit of gossip 😏

Original poster
unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:52

We've received emails before about parents parking on double yellows outside and residents complaining. I'm sure they'll send out an email reminding people to mind how they behave as it's a residential street.

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MourningMyFormerSelf · 16/05/2024 16:50

I lost it under similar circumstances once. I don’t feel great about it but I’d just found out DS was terminally ill. He died 7 weeks later.

You don’t always know what’s going on in people’s lives and sometimes there’s a place for just cutting them some slack.

Rosebel · 16/05/2024 16:50

Yeah complain to the nursery. It's a hard, thankless job so this will give them a good laugh!

HisNibs · 16/05/2024 16:49

I feel pretty confident that complaint will instantly be filed under 'B' for Bin (or 'N' for Nutter).

ReggaetonLente · 16/05/2024 16:46

We have regular sweary shouting matches outside our inner London primary, and the occasional physical fight. This morning a dad was screaming at another parent, from what I could hear it was a disagreement that started in the pub the previous evening.

I have also seen a dad urinate up school building wall, and before we started there was a drive by shooting at pick up time…. Thankfully no one was hurt.

Hundredthmillionthdiet · 16/05/2024 16:46

buckingmad · 16/05/2024 16:34

What about when you have two children?

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This. There was no reason for the other driver to shout. Since its outside a nursery, I presume the road wouldn't be 60mph and so cars would be driving slow and able to take care and avoid car.

What I'd the car was passing a cyclist? Would they have shouted at them too for being on the road ?

brownbreadd · 16/05/2024 16:46

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Spirallingdownwards · 16/05/2024 16:45

I would love to be the nursery worker who takes this "complaint" 🤣

Wolfpa · 16/05/2024 16:42

unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:30

I think I might complain to the nursery. This is just not ok.

What does it have to do with the nursery?

Relocate89 · 16/05/2024 16:42

unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:30

I think I might complain to the nursery. This is just not ok.

Complain to the nursery because somebody swore in the vicinity of your child? 🤣

Notreat · 16/05/2024 16:42

Bluevelvetsofa · 16/05/2024 16:28

Not a good idea to have the door to the road open. Better to park so putting the child in the car is on the pavement side, or scramble across.

But, altercations outside a nursery or other educational establishment are never a good thing.

That isn't possible when you have more than one child

PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 16/05/2024 16:42

Complain to the nursery about what? That a grown adult, not on their premises, swore? What would you like them to do?

JacketPotatoFoodOfTheGods · 16/05/2024 16:41

unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:30

I think I might complain to the nursery. This is just not ok.

Really?

Puppuccino · 16/05/2024 16:41

unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:30

I think I might complain to the nursery. This is just not ok.

Don't be such a busybody. Who fucking cares if she swore? So what?! How can this be real

rwa818 · 16/05/2024 16:40

unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:30

I think I might complain to the nursery. This is just not ok.

What are they going to do?

Sounds like the mum was stressed and didn't behave perfectly in that moment, we've all been there.
Maybe she'd had a bad day and is beating herself up about losing her cool already, are you really going to make things even worse for her by complaining?

MumChp · 16/05/2024 16:40

unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:30

I think I might complain to the nursery. This is just not ok.

@unicornlady
What do you want them to do?
Move on.

SanFranBear · 16/05/2024 16:39

You can't complain.. what will you say? Someone who uses your services but wasn't on your property at the time said FUCK twice - not loud enough for my children to hear, by the way, but I'm sure hers did! Tell her off, please 😆

Do you complain to Asda when you walk passed people swearing outside? Or outside a pub in their beer garden? Have a word with yourself... !

PitterPatter3 · 16/05/2024 16:38

I certainly would never aspire to behave like that but am not sure what realistically you can do about it. Nursery could send an email out to parents asking them not to swear in earshot of children I suppose (assuming it was definitely one of their parents and they were prepared to get involved in something which happened off the premises) but would that make a difference do you think?

Bearbookagainandagain · 16/05/2024 16:36

I'm your child will recover from the trauma of hearing a swear word... Twice!