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Mum screaming F you at another car outside nursery

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unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:26

I was just picking up my child when I saw another mum exit the nursery with her child.

They were going to a car parked on the road and there was an altercation with another car. The mum was putting her child into her seat and a woman in a car that was passing them, started shouting at the mum for putting her child in her seat in the road.

The mum then proceeded to shout 'F You ' twice to the lady, who then drove off. The mum then looked and me and said sorry and drove off.

AIBU to think this is totally unacceptable outside of a nursery ? Thankfully my child didn't hear, but her child did !

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Aquamarine1029 · 16/05/2024 18:49

I imagine the op was a hall monitor in her earlier years.

enjoyingscience · 16/05/2024 18:48

Never mind the nursery, I’d be straight on to the chair of the parish council, probably log it with the local bobby and maybe put a quick note to the coast guard too. Can’t be too careful.

Who knows what the consequences might be next time someone accidentally hears a swear word. There could be anarchy. Total chaos. Insubordination. Frogs raining from the sky.

SemperIdem · 16/05/2024 18:46

Stop being such a pearl clutching weirdo.

zaffa · 16/05/2024 18:45

We have actually had letters from nursery about this sort of thing, reminding all parents that these sorts of altercations effect their children and to mind their language and behaviour outside nursery so presumably people have complained - so you definitely wouldn't be the first. (We also had an email about someone spitting and were reminded not to spit in the street ....)
I don't see why you shouldn't mention it, but I'd be sure to highlight both parents were out of line here.

MaryFuckingFerguson · 16/05/2024 18:45

WhereIsMyLight · 16/05/2024 18:41

@MaryFuckingFerguson please tell me you name changed just for this thread?

I hate to tell you OP that your kid is going to hear swearing, you can’t police the entire world. They’re also going to say fuck when they’re actually trying to say frog or some other completely innocent word. And you just need to style it out rather than having another mum reporting you to nursery.

lol. No.

Curb fan 😬

bloodyplumbing · 16/05/2024 18:43

unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:30

I think I might complain to the nursery. This is just not ok.

You do that.....

It'll achieve nothing.

FrancisSeaton · 16/05/2024 18:43

I just think some people have had a blessed existence if they think a kid hearing swearing is the worst thing they can be exposed to 😢
I've heard some horrible things on the course of my career that kids have experienced day in day out and honestly this doesn't even register

holjam · 16/05/2024 18:41

What do you think complaining to the nursery is going to do? 😅

WhereIsMyLight · 16/05/2024 18:41

@MaryFuckingFerguson please tell me you name changed just for this thread?

I hate to tell you OP that your kid is going to hear swearing, you can’t police the entire world. They’re also going to say fuck when they’re actually trying to say frog or some other completely innocent word. And you just need to style it out rather than having another mum reporting you to nursery.

JanglingJack · 16/05/2024 18:39

I was effin and jeffin for ages at some silly cunt that actually reversed in to my daughter.

I wouldn't care who you told.

FrancisSeaton · 16/05/2024 18:37

unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:52

We've received emails before about parents parking on double yellows outside and residents complaining. I'm sure they'll send out an email reminding people to mind how they behave as it's a residential street.

lol is it an exclusive residential street ? Is the Bouquet residence nearby?

MeadStMary · 16/05/2024 18:35

unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:30

I think I might complain to the nursery. This is just not ok.

🤣🤣🤣🤣
Please don't do this, it would be ludicrous! In the nicest possible way, you need to get a grip OP.

twohotwaterbottles · 16/05/2024 18:31

We've all had parenting days where we lose our shizzle. Forget it and have a nice cup of tea

yeesh · 16/05/2024 18:28

lol, get a life

Halfheadhighlights · 16/05/2024 18:28

Withswitch · 16/05/2024 18:25

Just explain to your child "you shouldn't say fuck darling, it's a fucking bad idea and you look fucking shit so just bear that the fuck in mind ok sweetie?"

Abso-fuckin-lutely

PrincessOfPreschool · 16/05/2024 18:27

unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:30

I think I might complain to the nursery. This is just not ok.

What would you like the nursery to do about it? Ban parents from swearing in public places?

You will come across as very petty to the nursery. But if you are, you may as well come across that way!

Withswitch · 16/05/2024 18:25

Just explain to your child "you shouldn't say fuck darling, it's a fucking bad idea and you look fucking shit so just bear that the fuck in mind ok sweetie?"

Jk987 · 16/05/2024 18:21

TomeTome · 16/05/2024 18:12

What glorious day it would be to be reprimanded for swearing off premises by your child’s nursery.

Don’t be so fucking ridiculous.

Hehe😂

Jk987 · 16/05/2024 18:20

unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:30

I think I might complain to the nursery. This is just not ok.

It's not the nursery's problem to deal with! It wasn't even on their premises!

Arguments happen everywhere, it's beyond your control. Are you worried your child will start swearing too?

LoveSandbanks · 16/05/2024 18:17

You’re not looking good here OP. You have no idea what that woman is going through. She may well be a sweary chav, in which case she’ll take no notice of your complaint so your time will be wasted. She may well be a woman at the end of her rope who is clinging to her sanity by her fingernails, in which case, you’ll be an utter bitch in her already stressful life. Why not have a bit of compassion for a fellow mum instead of being judgey and stuck up

TomeTome · 16/05/2024 18:12

What glorious day it would be to be reprimanded for swearing off premises by your child’s nursery.

Don’t be so fucking ridiculous.

Hobnobswantshernameback · 16/05/2024 18:12

I'm sure the nursery will make those narsty chavs write out
"I will not say rudey words"
100 times and do a weeks detention

DaisyChain505 · 16/05/2024 18:10

You don’t know what sort of day she’s had or what she’s going through. We all snap sometimes and do things we look back on and regret.

DottieMoon · 16/05/2024 18:07

PossumintheHouse · 16/05/2024 16:58

Go on then, complain to the nursery. They'll only laugh at you behind your back.

It's 'fuck' twice. Not exactly music to the ears, but I can think of worse trauma.

Agree

RubySloth · 16/05/2024 18:06

buckingmad · 16/05/2024 16:34

What about when you have two children?

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They scooch over, it's really dangerous and annoying when people have their door wide open on a road. Especially in the evening, black car and clothing.