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Mum screaming F you at another car outside nursery

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unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:26

I was just picking up my child when I saw another mum exit the nursery with her child.

They were going to a car parked on the road and there was an altercation with another car. The mum was putting her child into her seat and a woman in a car that was passing them, started shouting at the mum for putting her child in her seat in the road.

The mum then proceeded to shout 'F You ' twice to the lady, who then drove off. The mum then looked and me and said sorry and drove off.

AIBU to think this is totally unacceptable outside of a nursery ? Thankfully my child didn't hear, but her child did !

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SnowFrogJelly · 17/05/2024 00:52

unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:30

I think I might complain to the nursery. This is just not ok.

Ridiculous.. everyone loses it sometimes
Butt out

bagginsatbagend · 17/05/2024 00:28

My son used to call his blankie his ‘wanker’ (he has autism & was very delayed with his speech) you’d have had a fucking field day seeing us come out of nursery school thinking he was screaming wanker at me 😂😂

Noseybookworm · 16/05/2024 23:16

unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:30

I think I might complain to the nursery. This is just not ok.

Really? What do you think the nursery are going to do? They're not the swearing police! 😂

Anonymous2025 · 16/05/2024 22:48

So you think your kids will never hear a swear word 🙄😂
Get a grip . Road rage happens to the best of us .
The nursery will only think you are crazy

buckingmad · 16/05/2024 22:26

RubySloth · 16/05/2024 18:06

They scooch over, it's really dangerous and annoying when people have their door wide open on a road. Especially in the evening, black car and clothing.

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How on Earth do I train my 17 week old in an isofix car seat to scooch over 😂. Both of my children are in fixed isofix seats so there’s no scooching to be had.

ShadesofPoachedSmoke · 16/05/2024 22:22

zaffa · 16/05/2024 18:45

We have actually had letters from nursery about this sort of thing, reminding all parents that these sorts of altercations effect their children and to mind their language and behaviour outside nursery so presumably people have complained - so you definitely wouldn't be the first. (We also had an email about someone spitting and were reminded not to spit in the street ....)
I don't see why you shouldn't mention it, but I'd be sure to highlight both parents were out of line here.

I'd be telling that nursery to fuck off, how ridiculous trying to control everyone's behaviour.

By the tjme they are all in primary school they will have heard every swear word going anyway. Each class has that one feral fucker aged 6 calling the teacher a cunt for telling them to sit nicely on the carpet.

ShadesofPoachedSmoke · 16/05/2024 22:13

unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:30

I think I might complain to the nursery. This is just not ok.

What the hell can nursery do about grown adults behaviour outside the premises, on a public road?

Don't bother.

SnobblyBobbly · 16/05/2024 22:06

So she lost her temper, probably wasn't her shining moment, and you feel the need to add to that?

I doubt the nursery kids will remember the dark day one of the mums launched a double F bomb. Jeez Louise.

SpringerFall · 16/05/2024 22:05

unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:30

I think I might complain to the nursery. This is just not ok.

What do you want to happen? They put her on the naughty step?

HugeCwtch · 16/05/2024 21:56

unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:30

I think I might complain to the nursery. This is just not ok.

So you want the nursery to police how people act in public areas?

Sure, its not nice to hear that when you have small children with you, but you say your DC didin't hear

earther · 16/05/2024 21:48

My kids have heard me say a lot worse.
Sorry op but we all lose it sometimes.

lotsofpeoplenametheirswords · 16/05/2024 21:47

Don't ever attend a football match with your child OP, your arsehole will drop out!

earther · 16/05/2024 21:38

Only on mums nett.
I hear its almost illegal for a parent to swear and kids must never see parents or any other parent lose their temper.
WELL WE ARE HUMANS.
And kids will see and hear things.

Travelismything · 16/05/2024 21:37

Even having read “Uranus” - I think this OP wins as either the best windup or biggest fucking pearl clutcher of the day

Firsttimetrier · 16/05/2024 21:37

WhereIsMyLight · 16/05/2024 18:41

@MaryFuckingFerguson please tell me you name changed just for this thread?

I hate to tell you OP that your kid is going to hear swearing, you can’t police the entire world. They’re also going to say fuck when they’re actually trying to say frog or some other completely innocent word. And you just need to style it out rather than having another mum reporting you to nursery.

our toddler doesn’t pronounce the “se” of horse, just says “hor” despite us trying to over emphasise 😂

think that’s much worse than fuck 😂

AffableApple · 16/05/2024 21:28

RubySloth · 16/05/2024 18:06

They scooch over, it's really dangerous and annoying when people have their door wide open on a road. Especially in the evening, black car and clothing.

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Not always possible, depending on age though. And then they need buckling in.

AffableApple · 16/05/2024 21:23

Bluevelvetsofa · 16/05/2024 16:28

Not a good idea to have the door to the road open. Better to park so putting the child in the car is on the pavement side, or scramble across.

But, altercations outside a nursery or other educational establishment are never a good thing.

I've had people scream at me for this too. They can't see the other twin already in. I'm not Mr Tickle, I can't buckle the second one in from the other side!

OhshutupBrenda · 16/05/2024 21:21

Lol

Polishedshoesalways · 16/05/2024 21:08

You have no idea what she is going through - so I wouldn’t judge. I’d be checking she was okay? It sounds like the last straw.

Otherstories2002 · 16/05/2024 21:00

unicornlady · 16/05/2024 16:30

I think I might complain to the nursery. This is just not ok.

What do you expect them to do?! Amazing 😂🤣

Tospyornottospy · 16/05/2024 21:00

Dibbydoos · 16/05/2024 20:01

Ah the language Anglo Saxon shall ner be forgotten cos the French when they invaded sent it underground.... Oh how we still get upset about its use today, many centuries later... I think we all need to be Gen X about it and stop giving a sh1t about the use of Anglo Saxon!

@unicornlady I more concerned about the behaviour not the language. She shouldn't have been putting her in roadside but it happens so 1st mum was ooo saying anything, 2nd was ooo reacting as she did but we all have our crosses to bear so maybe she was having a bad day.

Best to smile and move on methinks.

So thoughtful of you to be concerned about this awful behaviour

SpidersAreShitheads · 16/05/2024 20:47

I was in a rush at Morrison's last week and the stupid bloody self checkout kept going wrong. I was really, really pushed for time as I needed to get home to meet someone and I was running late. The people that help at the checkout kept wandering off so it was taking ages every time there was a problem.

I may or may not have muttered "stupid bastard fucking machine" when it refused to acknowledge the item on the belt for the millionth time.

It was one of the those long self-checkouts as I had a full trolley of food.

I may or may not have looked up and seen a family with a young child on the other side of the checkout that I hadn't noticed while I was furiously scanning my food.

It was not my finest moment. But it was a stupid fucking bastard of a machine. Sometimes these phrases just slip out.

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 16/05/2024 20:29

bloodyplumbing · 16/05/2024 19:39

Unless she's going to home school I'd say!

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seriously - 😂

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 16/05/2024 20:27

Hobnobswantshernameback · 16/05/2024 18:12

I'm sure the nursery will make those narsty chavs write out
"I will not say rudey words"
100 times and do a weeks detention

They may enjoy that because😂 they may see it as a medal

bloodyplumbing · 16/05/2024 20:23

Treacletreacle · 16/05/2024 20:11

This reminded me of the time my son (six at that time) heard swearing on the bus and stood up i asked him what he was doing and he said "im going to tell those bigger boys off one of them said fuck and there are kids on this bus" 😂

Brilliant 🤩! What a character!