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Scared of going to Paris Alone

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Aquarius1234 · 16/05/2024 15:40

I have booked a short trip to Paris for two nights, to go to the French Open Tennis for one day.
There is no one close to me that likes Tennis enough to join me, so I randomly booked solo and a single ticket.
But now I am worried about going there alone. Unable to get refunds.

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Msmumm · 28/05/2024 14:23

You will be fine. Lots of tennis fans will be leaving Roland Garros at the same time once the matches are over and will quite likely be heading in the same direction or even to same hotel as you.
I went to Paris a couple of years ago for 4 days with my children and felt perfectly safe.

Mencia · 28/05/2024 14:20

I think you worry too much. I go to Paris (Eurostar) every month for work and also 3/4 weekends per year, on my own, shopping / culture trip. Never had any issues with transport (metro), cards, food, etc. It’s the First World, anyway.
well, I’ve had issues with cyclists, many more than in London and sometimes riding wild at night.

CleanShirt · 28/05/2024 14:08

99% of places will take card. I only came across one place that didn't in my last few trips, and that's because their machine was broken.

Aquarius1234 · 28/05/2024 14:07

Card and Cash ok?

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Aquarius1234 · 28/05/2024 14:06

Radiatorvalves · 28/05/2024 13:12

I was in Paris in February for a work do. I walked from Gare du Nord to the hotel (half an hour) and had a long walk one evening by the river. Absolutely no issues… and gare du nord is not v nice. Lone female with a wheely case. I find the metro /RER more confusing and smelly than London but it’s functional. Relax and enjoy!

Did you walk to avoid the metro? Or taxi

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Radiatorvalves · 28/05/2024 13:12

I was in Paris in February for a work do. I walked from Gare du Nord to the hotel (half an hour) and had a long walk one evening by the river. Absolutely no issues… and gare du nord is not v nice. Lone female with a wheely case. I find the metro /RER more confusing and smelly than London but it’s functional. Relax and enjoy!

Aquarius1234 · 28/05/2024 13:05

WhereAreWeNow · 28/05/2024 12:56

I can't think of much nicer than a couple of days alone in Paris! You'll have a great time OP. Plan some things to do/see as well as the tennis. Research nice places to eat. Getting around is really easy on the metro. Enjoy!

Turns out now I wont have much time, maybe should have booked another night. Ah well.
3 nights for another place in the future maybe!

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WhereAreWeNow · 28/05/2024 12:56

I can't think of much nicer than a couple of days alone in Paris! You'll have a great time OP. Plan some things to do/see as well as the tennis. Research nice places to eat. Getting around is really easy on the metro. Enjoy!

Aquarius1234 · 28/05/2024 12:54

HelterSkelter224 · 28/05/2024 12:22

You'll be fine! I lived in Paris in my 20s and always felt safe going about on my own. I also traveled there alone for work 3/4 times a year and never felt particularly threatened. Of course like any big city you need to remain vigilant, avoid dodgy areas etc. Where are you planning on staying? The transport in Paris is great so you'll find getting around pretty easy.

I thought Paris was harder to get around compared to central London.
West Paris Boulogne-Billancourt. Im sure I can find a Cafe for late breakfast.

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HelterSkelter224 · 28/05/2024 12:22

You'll be fine! I lived in Paris in my 20s and always felt safe going about on my own. I also traveled there alone for work 3/4 times a year and never felt particularly threatened. Of course like any big city you need to remain vigilant, avoid dodgy areas etc. Where are you planning on staying? The transport in Paris is great so you'll find getting around pretty easy.

emsyj37 · 28/05/2024 12:14

I am going to Paris alone tomorrow! I travel for work alone quite often. If anyone reading this is in Paris tomorrow evening and looking for a dinner companion then message me!!

OnlyFrench · 28/05/2024 12:03

I go alone all the time. I even spent Christmas there and it was brilliant. There were four tables in a row of lone women! I recommend the Bouillon restaurants, cheap French classics and a good atmosphere

CleanShirt · 28/05/2024 11:49

Ohgoodlord · 28/05/2024 10:57

Don't do that either 🙈 You really don't need to at all. It's all easy to understand and you can use your phone to translate anything you font understand. Just go to the nearest cafe/bistro/restaurant. I lived in Paris a couple of years ago and ate out all the time and never found bad food.

Might be useful for OP though if she is particularly anxious

Ohgoodlord · 28/05/2024 10:57

CleanShirt · 28/05/2024 08:00

You're in Paris, home of some of the best food in the world! If you're feeling very anxious look for places with English menus.

Don't do that either 🙈 You really don't need to at all. It's all easy to understand and you can use your phone to translate anything you font understand. Just go to the nearest cafe/bistro/restaurant. I lived in Paris a couple of years ago and ate out all the time and never found bad food.

sugarbyebye · 28/05/2024 09:04

I've travelled solo for business for decades. I always take a book or magazine with me to the restaurant. No one has ever batted an eyelid. I've never been chatted up either. You see all these films about women being approached in bars or hotels by other business men, or being bought a drink or something. Never happened once! People just leave you alone in the evening. I'm more likely to have some friendly chat at the breakfast table in the hotel with other guests.

Youdontevengohere · 28/05/2024 08:03

Aquarius1234 · 27/05/2024 23:27

Bumping this.

Anyone been recently alone?
Seems hard work going solo.

I moved to Paris alone when I was 20 for an internship. It’s a really easy city to navigate. What specifically makes you think it’s going to be ‘hard work’, over and above any other city?

Ginmonkeyagain · 28/05/2024 08:03

I can understand the idea of a traditional formal Parisan restaurant is not appealing whwn you are alone. However Paris has a lot of informal cafes and bistros as well as wider dining options.

CleanShirt · 28/05/2024 08:00

Aquarius1234 · 27/05/2024 23:43

Not sure what I'll do for food in the evening. Maybe I'm worried about getting lost which is stupid I know.

You're in Paris, home of some of the best food in the world! If you're feeling very anxious look for places with English menus.

Ohgoodlord · 28/05/2024 07:56

Aquarius1234 · 27/05/2024 23:43

Not sure what I'll do for food in the evening. Maybe I'm worried about getting lost which is stupid I know.

Don't eat in your hotel room alone for goodness sake. You're in Paris....experience it. Just go to literally any of the many, many restaurants and sit on a roadside table and watch the world go by. You can't get lost if you've got a phone and a tongue in your head.

mitogoshi · 28/05/2024 07:51

Lots of little bistros in Paris, choose a side street smaller place rather than huge and bustling, take your phone and a book.

Nouvellenovel · 28/05/2024 07:41

It’s an adventure op.

Be a warrior not a worrier.

DracoDormiensNumquamTittilandum · 28/05/2024 07:35

Anxiety is horrible but honestly the best way to overcome it is to do the thing. I'm an over thinker and over planner too and honestly I've made trips worse by over planning and then being rigid and not flexible when we get there, but I always do the thing. Covid set my confidence back a bit but I've travelled alone with DS a couple of times since then and am getting more confident. Be nervous but do it anyway :)

EastEndQueen · 28/05/2024 07:29

OP don’t worry you will be absolutely fine. I just got back from a mini-break there with my 7-year old DS (so not ‘technically’ alone just tbh more stressful than alone as I had to care for him, not lose him on the metro, find last min loo stops NOW etc 🤣). I was apprehensive also as I haven’t been to Paris since a school trip 20 years ago. It was my DS choice and I tried very hard to move him onto a city I knew better.

It was completely fine - the metro felt clean and safe and straightforward. Googlemaps does everything for you now, you just put in the destination and it tells you which metro lines, how many stops, when to change etc. The stations are well signposted. We also got a station taxi on arrival at Gare de Nord and a handful of Ubers, all of which were totally fine. Don’t cancel! Good luck

Iamnotalemming · 28/05/2024 06:56

OP I was thinking about you and this thread yesterday because I am solo in Paris right now. Weather is a bit humid but otherwise grand! I got the metro and RER at 11pm a couple of nights ago and it was fine.
If you are anxious about eating out alone in the evenings, you can get deliveroo to your hotel but dinner out would be nicer. I'm sure your hotel would recommend something nearby.
I hope you have a lovely time!

songaboutjam · 28/05/2024 00:08

I've visited multiple countries solo (going on another solo trip next week, and I've had a few little wobbles). My suggestions would be:

  • Check your SIM plan to see if you can get data without roaming charges. If not, see if there's any chance of upgrading for the month.
  • Put your itinerary on a Google doc. Make sure you can access it on your phone and have a printed copy tucked away somewhere safe. Install any travel, map or translation apps you need but don't have. I'd also get the Uber app just in case you become completely lost and need to get somewhere fast!
  • Make sure you have paper copies of your ETIAS approval, your travel insurance and your accommodation. Keep them in a plastic wallet and be prepared to present to officials.
  • Probably common sense but when in an unfamiliar place, always allow more time to get somewhere than you think you need.
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