To ask what’s the best decision you’ve ever made?

Doing a PhD. It was a dream come true.

The opposite to some becoming an sahm was brilliant for me. My job was hugely stressful a really “big” job. Spent 6 really happy years as sahm then didn’t go back to work at all but set up on my own when dd2 started school. Now earning what I was earning in my big City job! But for myself and with no boss!

Leaving my old job, took a massive risk but it's paying off and I may have shit days but they are few and far between. My old job was shit every day.

Also saying yes to a divorce, life is so much better not living in fear. I can't remember the last time someone made me cry.

Paid for a private autism assessment after the children were diagnosed and I recognised myself in them. £2k to be told I never was broken, I'm autistic, and that's absolutely OK.

To get cats. Specifically Persians. They've cost me an absolute fortune financially, and put me through the wringer, but the joy they've given me is priceless!

This is my dream

@Bewilderedallthetine Good on you. My mum has suffered within a coercive control relationship for decades. She is 76 and he's now dying. She will have a chunk of time towards the end of her life to finally be free.

Well done for escaping and making yourself a new life. It must have needed immense bravery and determination. You have given yourself and your DS the best gift. I could just hug anyone who gets away from DV. I know you don't need me to tell you, but you're amazing.

My best decision was to break up with a long term partner who was lovely but who wouldn't commit to a future involving children.

I met DH and we had our lovely DS within 4 years after that.

Lots of regrets.. But a good decision was having my Bonus Baby at 43!!

Moved out of the family home.
Took care of my ageing grandfather.
Took up gardening - great for mental health
Did some traveling - opened my eyes to new ways of being
Realised the life changing power of positive thinking and gratitude
Therapy - dropped a lot of heavy baggage
Recognised when to use passive/aggressive/assertive communication
Recognised our inherent equality as human being - despite and trappings
Feel the fear and do it anyway - nothing to fear but fear itself

Applying for a student exchange programme to do seasonal work in the UK, despite the fact that I had a very low chance to get in and I was already rejected once.
I got in the second time and 22 years later, I am still here😆.

Also getting my dog.

Leaving my boring abusive ex. Marrying my current DH.
Hopefully choosing to have only one child but we will see.

Chose to take a role at a small start up and take some shares as well as salary. It's become massively successful and I am taking early retirement this year with an amount I could never have contemplated and it's given me money over the years to treat mine and my husbands family to amazing holidays as well as do some on our own.

Started investing in the stock markets at 25, am 45 now. Making exercise a part of my life since a teenager.

Cutting my dad out of my life and getting therapy.

Getting our kids christened 22 years ago to please my husband, so I had to attend church. I became a Christian and it's the best thing that ever happened to. I'm part of a close church community which has been great as our family live a long way away and have had such wonderful times

Going to Turkey for a gastric sleeve 2.5 years ago

Doing a post grad in my mid 40s as I was re-entering the work place full time after being a SAHM for 12 years. It changed my career trajectory and I am now the most senior woman in my region, for my company. I speak at conferences and on podcasts and spend time mentoring women in business. Love my job and life and am 50, still to peak!

Marrying my husband 20 years ago.

I read your question and it took me about 0.000000001 seconds to think

Divorce. Absolutely my divorce.

Doing an amazing self development course in 1994 that completely changed my life! Not just what I learnt, which was life changing, but the incredible people that I met, and all the ideas, opportunities and experiences that came from that. I can't imagine what my life would have been like without it.

Attending a graduate fair when I was 21.

It was the first stepping stone in my career, and more importantly that first job is where I met now DH.

Marrying the right man and a career in emergency and intensive care medicine.

My manager advised me to join the pension scheme at 19 - I was reluctant but did so. (No history of this in my very w/class family). Then, I kept working p/t and paying in when I had DC. Over the years, my husband was quietly blowing our money - I divorced him when youngest finished GCSEs. I bought him out then, I was offered early retirement at 54 and took my great pension. I still have another p/t job where I wfh. Now I'm mortgage free and financially independent.

Walked into a CrossFit gym. not an exaggeration to say it transformed every area of my life.