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To ask what’s the best decision you’ve ever made?

195 replies

Thispinks · 16/05/2024 15:37

Some positive thoughts! It’s easy for us to think about what we’ve done wrong or could have done differently. But we’ve made some great decisions in our lives too! What are they? x

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DenimHiker · 16/05/2024 21:39

Leaving California. So much happier in Florida. Better off too.

Arraminta · 16/05/2024 21:22

Saying yes when my husband proposed. We met quite young and people warned me off him, but I saw the man he really was inside. He's my Rhysand [if you know, you know] he's even got the black hair and tattoos 😆

Daisylookslost · 16/05/2024 21:00

Going after the man I wanted

MySocksAreDotty · 16/05/2024 20:36

Definitely travelling with work. Priceless memories.

ladygindiva · 16/05/2024 20:25

Every bloke I ever dumped

SlothsNeverGetIll · 16/05/2024 20:05

Buying a crappy little flat as young as we could (25 years old), having saved our deposit. All of our friends were travelling and having fun instead and I was pretty envious!
That was 2010 in a city that became very trendy, and the amount of money we made from that flat and our next house (a 2 bed terraced house) has set us up for life. We're 40 now and feel the benefit of that decision every day.

GratitudeGoddess · 16/05/2024 20:02

Divorcing

GingerPirate · 16/05/2024 19:59

Staying child free.
Giving up alcohol.
Not giving up on my now husband (of 20 years).

Bluesky91 · 16/05/2024 19:55

YankSplaining · 16/05/2024 16:59

Not having sexual intercourse until I was married. I see so, so many stories on this site about badly-timed or unwanted pregnancies. I didn’t want to live with the stress of worrying about contraceptive failures; I didn’t want to have a baby before I was ready to have a baby; and abortion is not a choice I could live with.

Wow. In this day and age!
Are you a devout Christian? Was your DH ok with this?

ArcticBells · 16/05/2024 19:52

Getting on the housing ladder when and where I did. It's the best decision I've ever made

Polishedshoesalways · 16/05/2024 19:48

Becoming vegetarian 37 years ago, by far the kindest thing I could do for myself, the animals and the planet.

ShanghaiDiva · 16/05/2024 19:38

taking the first step to live overseas and staying for 25 years.

Heucherarowan · 16/05/2024 19:36

Paying thousands to self fund a qualification that wasn't linked to my job at the time. I met one of my best friends and it got me out of a really terrible job. I don't work in that field, but it boosts my otherwise sparse credentials (dropped out of A Levels).

Quitting a toxic job with nothing to go to.

Saying yes to a night out where I met my husband.

Making the conscious decision to read at length to my child daily. I did it for their development, but it's given us such a lovely period of time together daily and will probably provide memories that last their whole lifetime.

Mostlycarbon · 16/05/2024 19:29

Not marrying my first fiancé.
Marrying DH.

mycatsanutter · 16/05/2024 19:26

To change jobs after 28 years , I worked in a toxic small office but the hours and money were good and I thought I wouldn't find anything else , I'm a GP receptionist now within a great team and I absolutely love it .

Oneearringlost · 16/05/2024 19:25

To decide I was in love with (my now) DH, on the tube one day, in 1992, looking at the distorted image of myself in the reflection.
30 years later, still the best decision of my life.
I got very lucky.

Alittlefrustrated · 16/05/2024 19:18

LateButNotTooLate · 16/05/2024 17:28

To begin a casual volunteering role 7 years ago that turned into a salaried role 2 years ago and has grown steadily since then. It's completely changed my life.

Can you share what your new job is please?

Deadringer · 16/05/2024 19:18

Fostering. It changed my life for the better.

mumoftoddlerandteen · 16/05/2024 19:18

Leaving my job to work part time for more money in something that gives me loads of flexibility, buying our ‘doer upper’ with a big south facing garden even though it needed a complete overhaul. Main one though was a last minute change of degree course on induction day which saved me an extra year of study and £10,000 in fees - complete game changer!

Neurodiversitydoctor · 16/05/2024 19:16

Learning to drive at 33, passing my test at 34 with 2 small children, not easy but totally worth it.

NoImNotCurvyImFat · 16/05/2024 19:16

To return to studying when ds was little I am now in a job I love and have job satisfaction

right now I am feeling that taking Mounjaro (weight loss jab) is one of my best decisions I feel so much better both physically and mentally

Maneandfeathers · 16/05/2024 19:11

Keeping my third baby.

I wasn’t going to because of financial reasons and also because I was terrified of having 3 children (2 under 2) I didn’t think I could cope so booked an abortion but got cold feet at the last second. Hes a dream and the whole family adore him! I’ve sailed through the whole baby stage this time much to my surprise, along with juggling the other children, work, pets and husband. I’ve even managed to do an open university type degree at the same time. It’s made me realise I’m stronger than I thought!

Horses7 · 16/05/2024 19:09

Marrying husband donkey’s years ago - a bit of a cliché but true.

Alittlefrustrated · 16/05/2024 19:08

Paid mortgage off very quickly
Early retirement at 55.

Cloverforever · 16/05/2024 19:05

arethereanyleftatall · 16/05/2024 18:21

I read your question and it took me about 0.000000001 seconds to think

Divorce. Absolutely my divorce.

Same here. Definitely the hardest decision i've ever made, but by far the most positive.