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Is he paying enough?

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Havett · 16/05/2024 15:15

Ex earns over double what I earn. He’s on 85k.

Cms calculates this as 860 a month. He pays 1,000. Nursery is 1,200.

I feel like he should pay more given his high salary. I know legally cms says 860 and he’s already paying more. But he does zero for dd. Literally nothing. Would you ask for more given he’s earning so much

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Havett · 16/05/2024 15:25

He often says money is tight. He has a 1.5k mortgage and then pays me 1k. But surely he has more spare? I don’t earn close to that so I don’t know

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Danikm151 · 16/05/2024 15:24

Cms isn’t counted towards UC eligibility so if you’re not already claiming see if you can get help towards childcare.

TheAceWoman · 16/05/2024 15:23

You are paying for everything for your daughter. The least he could do is pay for her nursery to enable you to work to pay for everything for her. I would ask. He may say no but he is her father and can afford to so he might say yes. I would if I were him.

Willyoujustbequiet · 16/05/2024 15:21

They are bringing in new legislation so that CMS won't be based on income only but can also include things such as savings, property and other assets. Long overdue.

It may be worth waiting until its in force.

AlexaPlaySomeHappyHardcore · 16/05/2024 15:20

By all means ask for more but legally he’s only expected to pay £860 and he’s currently paying £1k. I’m not giving him any credit for that but I will say I know/know of a depressing number of non resident fathers who would reduce their maintenance payments down to the bare minimum. Basically you might end up with less. So personally I wouldn’t bother unless I was really, really struggling.

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Havett · 16/05/2024 15:18

@Notamum12345577 he knows what cms would be. He agreed to 1,000 due to how much nursery is but it still means I am paying towards nursery and all other costs

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Notamum12345577 · 16/05/2024 15:17

If you ask for more, and he got funny about it, he may then go through CMS and pay you the 860

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