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To be really, really pleased about the explicit ban on the proactive teaching of gender identity?

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BiologicsBeforeIdeology · 16/05/2024 13:35

It's just such madness that we even got here. My family has been badly affected by activists pushing this madness on my Autistic son, who now half believes he's a girl because some nitwit came into the school and told him people who feel uncomfortable and like they don't belong are trans (not maybe gay, not maybe Autistic, not maybe just Puberty, but trans)

I won't apologise for wanting to safeguard children. This is not a Section 28 thing, it really is protecting vulnerable kids.

"Gender identity
The guidance will introduce an explicit ban on the proactive teaching of gender identity. It will say that the idea that children can change their gender by using different names, pronouns and wearing the uniform of the opposite sex is highly contested. If pressed by pupils, they should instead focus on the facts of biological sex.
Teaching children about gender identity could lead to them questioning their own gender when they may not have done otherwise, the guidance will suggest. Children can be taught the law about gender reassignment — that people can legally change their gender from the age of 18 — but children will be told that that they cannot legally be classified as members of the opposite sex."

More info on the changes https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/4a2b0d57-13c9-409a-a40b-104d7a0499b2?shareToken=ed46490f36a6c9fbb0f70d6bf03c0a99

What the new sex education guidelines mean for schools and parents

The changes will ban teaching about gender identity and set out what children should be taught at each age

https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/4a2b0d57-13c9-409a-a40b-104d7a0499b2?shareToken=ed46490f36a6c9fbb0f70d6bf03c0a99

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zaffa · 17/05/2024 14:33

WallaceinAnderland · 16/05/2024 20:01

If you don't teach her sex Ed how does she know she's being sexually abused? How does she find the words to tell a trusted adult at school?

Abuse of a child is not sex that they need to be educated about. So many people get this wrong.

Sex education will cover relationships and reproduction between consenting adults and older teens.

It will be irrelevant to 7 year old experiencing sexual abuse.

This is why abuse is covered separately to sex education, in an age appropriate way, and always has been. No one has suggested that this will not be continued. Young children will still be taught the PANTS rule, who to tell and how to tell.

I disagree - I think that this nonsense of censoring what our children can and can't be taught in schools because of some people's objections is the start of a slippery slope. Not all sexual abuse will be prevented by the pants rule, and we shouldn't be limiting any opportunities to make sure children get access to as much information as they need.
It's fair to let parents choose to exclude their child from any sex Ed at school but I don't agree that they get to also exclude the rest of our children from education that we aren't objecting to.

Underthinker · 17/05/2024 14:25

@RhiWrites " The percentages mean nothing. Mumsnet is an echo chamber for this. It’s well known to be anti trans. And anyone posting otherwise is slated."

Relatively Mumsnet is way more balanced than some other online spaces. I tried talking about this subject in the Guardian comments and got banned for life. Now that's how you make an echo chamber.

GailBlancheViola · 17/05/2024 14:14

What in the? Mumsnet is PRO WOMENS RIGHTS, not 'anti-trans', unless you personally are admitting that to be pro-trans means you must be anti-women? And this site is far from an echo chamber - poll (official YouGov ones, not merely twitter and right wing sites) after poll after poll after poll show the overwhelming majority of women while supporting general trans rights (the same as everyone else's basic rights), believe the single sex spaces should remain segregated by sex. This, is the ovewhelming view of the overwhelming majority of the western world. Over the years, the pro-single sex spaces majority has increased, and the pro-gender neutral/unisex/transwomen can access single sex females have decreased each year. A recent poll in the last week showed two thirds of residents of Scotland agree with JK Rowling.

It's actually the Gender Identity Ideology view that is in an ever-decreasing minority.

Absolutely. The desperate scrabbling around by the proponents of Gender Identity Ideology is getting more desperate by the day - attempting to discredit the Cass review, bleating about Section 28, accusing anyone who disagrees with them of being right wing, far right, fascist, fundamental Christian, etc., etc.

WallaceinAnderland · 17/05/2024 14:09

As always the default to It's just like Section 28when it is absolutelynothinglike that.

The intolerance you speak of comes from the Gender Ideologues, take it up with them.

Yes, take it up with homophobic Stonewall.

GailBlancheViola · 17/05/2024 14:02

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 17/05/2024 01:57

I've voted YABU as it just feels like Section 28 all over again - it was illegal to teach anything LGBT when I was at school, we couldn't grow up knowing about gay people in case we turned out gay ourselves or something 🙄 Got bandied as a "social contagion" which is the exact terminology lots on here use about trans.
It feels we're going backwards and becoming more and more intolerant as a society.

As always the default to It's just like Section 28 when it is absolutely nothing like that.

The intolerance you speak of comes from the Gender Ideologues, take it up with them.

Roundroundthegarden · 17/05/2024 14:00

Leah5678 · 16/05/2024 17:04

I really feel for all the kids who feel for this bs at its 2015-2023 peak. It's too late for so many but thank god it finally happened

I agree. It was a fashionable trend and hopefully that trend will die out and normality will resume.
Funny how when growing up there wasn't all these people trapped in the wrong body BS. Sure there are some genuine cases but not anything like what's exploded over the last few years. Also hoping that the pronouns nonsense follows suit too.

TheKeatingFive · 17/05/2024 13:38

I for one feel sorry for anyone that transitioned as a child over the last ten years I'm glad the tide is beginning to turn and the "trend" seems to be ending. Give it a few more years and law suits and documentaries will be made about it

Me too. We're heading into some very rough years with the lawsuits.

TheKeatingFive · 17/05/2024 13:36

What in the? Mumsnet is PRO WOMENS RIGHTS, not 'anti-trans', unless you personally are admitting that to be pro-trans means you must be anti-women?

Also pro children's rights to express themselves how they like - without anyone telling girls that liking stereotypically male things actually makes them a boy - or vice versa

IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 17/05/2024 13:33

Leah5678 · 17/05/2024 13:21

I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say why is it even necessary to teach that in school? I finished secondary school only 7 years ago and wasn't taught about it so I'm hardly ancient.

And don't say it's about teaching that people are different because there are TONS of more common types of different people that we don't teach in school because we're busy teaching things that kids go to school to learn about ie maths science etc.
A simple message of don't bully people because they are different should suffice.

I for one feel sorry for anyone that transitioned as a child over the last ten years I'm glad the tide is beginning to turn and the "trend" seems to be ending. Give it a few more years and law suits and documentaries will be made about it, which doesn't really need to be taught to school kids btw I wasn't taught about thalidomide babies for example till I did health care at college

It's more that children are likely to ask about it, so you need a stock answer ready. I agree it's not something that needs to be explicitly taught or brought up by teachers, but kids love to throw you curveballs, especially in RSE! I've curated quite a collection of stock answers to awkward questions over the years...

Leah5678 · 17/05/2024 13:21

KimberleyClark · 17/05/2024 09:42

I had a post deleted yesterday for asking a genuine question so I’m asking it again. What will/should be taught in schools about people who have transitioned and living as the opposite sex?

I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say why is it even necessary to teach that in school? I finished secondary school only 7 years ago and wasn't taught about it so I'm hardly ancient.

And don't say it's about teaching that people are different because there are TONS of more common types of different people that we don't teach in school because we're busy teaching things that kids go to school to learn about ie maths science etc.
A simple message of don't bully people because they are different should suffice.

I for one feel sorry for anyone that transitioned as a child over the last ten years I'm glad the tide is beginning to turn and the "trend" seems to be ending. Give it a few more years and law suits and documentaries will be made about it, which doesn't really need to be taught to school kids btw I wasn't taught about thalidomide babies for example till I did health care at college

SoreAndTired1 · 17/05/2024 13:13

RhiWrites · 17/05/2024 12:07

The percentages mean nothing. Mumsnet is an echo chamber for this. It’s well known to be anti trans. And anyone posting otherwise is slated.

The reality is that the government is now espousing an anti trans ideology to attempt to capture a fringe issue vote. It’s a small but vocal minority that believe this is a bad thing, but it’s excellent at getting its voice heard. Activism in getting people to fill out polls and consultation has really swung the pendulum. But to those reading with silent horror, I assure you it will swing back.

Gender critical thinking is here to stay, like recognised homosexuality and, for that matter, the rights of women. It should be taught in schools along with age appropriate sex education and understanding of how puberty affects your body in visible and invisible ways.

What in the? Mumsnet is PRO WOMENS RIGHTS, not 'anti-trans', unless you personally are admitting that to be pro-trans means you must be anti-women? And this site is far from an echo chamber - poll (official YouGov ones, not merely twitter and right wing sites) after poll after poll after poll show the overwhelming majority of women while supporting general trans rights (the same as everyone else's basic rights), believe the single sex spaces should remain segregated by sex. This, is the ovewhelming view of the overwhelming majority of the western world. Over the years, the pro-single sex spaces majority has increased, and the pro-gender neutral/unisex/transwomen can access single sex females have decreased each year. A recent poll in the last week showed two thirds of residents of Scotland agree with JK Rowling.

It's actually the Gender Identity Ideology view that is in an ever-decreasing minority.

WallaceinAnderland · 17/05/2024 12:44

Children should be taught to be respectful of others and reject gender norms such as pink for girls blue for boys.

Maybe the adults could stop those ridiculous pink or blue 'gender' reveals to start with. That would help. The poor kid is put in a stereotypical box before it's even born! And you know those are the sort of parents that are going to perpetuate these stereotypes. That's probably where education should really start - with the parents.

OolongTeaDrinker · 17/05/2024 12:37

RhiWrites · 17/05/2024 12:07

The percentages mean nothing. Mumsnet is an echo chamber for this. It’s well known to be anti trans. And anyone posting otherwise is slated.

The reality is that the government is now espousing an anti trans ideology to attempt to capture a fringe issue vote. It’s a small but vocal minority that believe this is a bad thing, but it’s excellent at getting its voice heard. Activism in getting people to fill out polls and consultation has really swung the pendulum. But to those reading with silent horror, I assure you it will swing back.

Gender critical thinking is here to stay, like recognised homosexuality and, for that matter, the rights of women. It should be taught in schools along with age appropriate sex education and understanding of how puberty affects your body in visible and invisible ways.

Trans activists and gender ideologues can't get away with calling people who don't agree with them 'anti-trans' anymore, the days of no-debate and trying to hitch gender madness to the LGB movement are over.

I agree with you that gender-critical thinking is here to stay and should definitely be taught in school, although it didn't need a name before, it just meant people understood biological reality, and it was so obvious that it didn't need to be stated to impressionable children that sex is immutable.

Minniemooose · 17/05/2024 12:31

Children should be taught to be respectful of others and reject gender norms such as pink for girls blue for boys.

They should be told that anyone of either sex can do a any job, such as boys can be nurses and girls can be mechanics.

They should be taught that some men want to live as if they are women and some women want to live as if they were men. This is absolutely fine and we should embrace this and be respectful.

What they should never be taught is that you can change your sex by modifying your body. In the news recently there was a piece about a zoo in China, where they had painted dogs to look like pandas. They looked like baby pandas but they aren’t genetically pandas.

Madeyemoodysswiveleyedrant · 17/05/2024 12:29

IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 17/05/2024 09:49

The way I always explained it to children who asked (I was a Year 6 teacher before my daughter was born) was that some people decide to take hormones and have surgery to appear more like the opposite sex, and that they are known as transgender. I didn't feel it was necessary to go into any more detail than that.

And a lot of old school transsexuals would have described themselves this way.

None of the TRA crowd ever seemed that bothered that transsexuals' identities have been hijacked by abusive straight males. There are a few brave transsexuals trying to stand up against the cult like mantras but they do have a hard time. Remember when Miranda Yardley was taken to court for transphobia?

https://www.echo-news.co.uk/news/17475551.transgender-miranda-yardley-innocent-hate-crime/

TicklishLemur · 17/05/2024 12:25

All I can say is thank goodness my children are too old to have been taught all this nonsense and grooming

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 17/05/2024 12:24

The percentages mean nothing. Mumsnet is an echo chamber for this. It’s well known to be anti trans. And anyone posting otherwise is slated.

Any examples of this 'anti-trans-ness'? I hope you reported them.

IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 17/05/2024 12:09

SoreAndTired1 · 17/05/2024 11:36

@GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight You cannot even remotely compare LGB struggle. LGB didn't see a 6000% (six thousand percent!) increase in people saying they are LGB. LGB struggle didn't involve stopping necessary puberty, advocate children be put on hormones or have double mastectomies. LGB struggle didn't seek to put gay males in lesbian women spaces.

It's entirely disingenuous to compare the two.

I think you mean straight males, but otherwise, yes, 100% this!

RhiWrites · 17/05/2024 12:07

BiologicsBeforeIdeology · 16/05/2024 16:01

86%-14% - seems a pretty solid opinion that Trans ideology should be kicked out as a fact - how the hell do we get back to fixing it?

Did anyone see Allsorts? They literally teaching every school in Sussex pretty much - terrible people
https://www.allsortsyouth.org.uk/

The percentages mean nothing. Mumsnet is an echo chamber for this. It’s well known to be anti trans. And anyone posting otherwise is slated.

The reality is that the government is now espousing an anti trans ideology to attempt to capture a fringe issue vote. It’s a small but vocal minority that believe this is a bad thing, but it’s excellent at getting its voice heard. Activism in getting people to fill out polls and consultation has really swung the pendulum. But to those reading with silent horror, I assure you it will swing back.

Gender critical thinking is here to stay, like recognised homosexuality and, for that matter, the rights of women. It should be taught in schools along with age appropriate sex education and understanding of how puberty affects your body in visible and invisible ways.

FrancescaContini · 17/05/2024 11:57

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 17/05/2024 09:55

I agree. It should be normalised that rejecting gender norms is fine. Boys can play with dolls and wear dresses, girls can have short hair, wear trousers and play football. What they shouldn't be teaching is boys are actually girls in the wrong body and vice versa.

This WAS the norm a few decades ago. Gender ideology and its proponents have tried to take us back many, many years. It’s mind blowing that it needs to be stated.

SoreAndTired1 · 17/05/2024 11:36

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 17/05/2024 01:57

I've voted YABU as it just feels like Section 28 all over again - it was illegal to teach anything LGBT when I was at school, we couldn't grow up knowing about gay people in case we turned out gay ourselves or something 🙄 Got bandied as a "social contagion" which is the exact terminology lots on here use about trans.
It feels we're going backwards and becoming more and more intolerant as a society.

@GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight You cannot even remotely compare LGB struggle. LGB didn't see a 6000% (six thousand percent!) increase in people saying they are LGB. LGB struggle didn't involve stopping necessary puberty, advocate children be put on hormones or have double mastectomies. LGB struggle didn't seek to put gay males in lesbian women spaces.

It's entirely disingenuous to compare the two.

To be really, really pleased about the explicit ban on the proactive teaching of gender identity?
Pin0cchio · 17/05/2024 11:13

*Changing sex is impossible.
No one should be taught that it is.

No kid should be taught that Stereotypes define their gender either*

This

parkrun500club · 17/05/2024 11:05

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 17/05/2024 09:46

They should be honest and say it's impossible to transition to the other sex. They can adopt ways stereotypically associated with the other sex in terms of dress, names etc but transitioning is impossible, no matter what body modifications you do to yourself.

Time to stop lying.

They should be told that gender stereotyping is wrong and if a man wants to wear a dress and call himself Fleur instead of Frank, that is absolutely fine. But he's still a male-bodied person.

Madeyemoodysswiveleyedrant · 17/05/2024 11:00

EasternStandard · 17/05/2024 10:47

Ikr the GRA legislation has created this mess

It's piss poor legislation and needs amendment, those politicians who voted it through should hang their heads in shame.

EasternStandard · 17/05/2024 10:47

TheKeatingFive · 17/05/2024 10:37

I agree. It should be normalised that rejecting gender norms is fine. Boys can play with dolls and wear dresses, girls can have short hair, wear trousers and play football. What they shouldn't be teaching is boys are actually girls in the wrong body and vice versa.

Of course. Isn't this the most obvious thing in the world? How on earth did society get diverted from this to 'born in the wrong body'?

Ikr the GRA legislation has created this mess

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