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Male friend/colleague went completely cold on me

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Softshock · 16/05/2024 13:19

Trying to rack my brains thinking why, but it's upset me tbh.
We used to talk almost every day and I've sensed him going cold for a while. I tried to ask him about it in a nice, casual way but he said no of course I don't mind talking, drop me a msg whenever.
When I see him round the office he's nice but now, if I don't talk to him first he'd never speak to me or initiate anything whatsoever.
I still don't know why, we've never fallen out or anything. As I say I tried to bring it up in a very casual way but he just made an excuse, so I doubt I'd get the truth.
It hurts seeing him close with other people, it's like I am of no use anymore.
The only thing I can do is just be civil but ignore him otherwise, there's no explanation.
He used to start a lot of conversation and then just went funny.
Has this happened to anyone else?
Honestly it makes me want to keep my distance from people as it hurts when you become good friends then they do this.

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pinkfondu · 16/05/2024 13:27

He's not single and started to get feels?

dastardlyglobetrotter · 16/05/2024 13:23

I know it’s a bit of a trope but was there any romantic element?

does he like you in a way you don’t like him?

or maybe he’s just a bit of an arsehole who picks people up and drops them when he feels like it? They do exist.

or have you said something to upset him?

doesn’t sound like you’ll get an answer which I totally get is really annoying and not great for self esteem.

Softshock · 16/05/2024 13:20

I tried to make an effort like I invited him to a gig I was attending with a few other colleagues and stuff like that but there's zero point of any of that.

I just try to let people come to me now, not many so but the occasional one might.

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