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Was I in danger at hospital?

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wellington77 · 16/05/2024 11:43

Hi everyone, I gave birth 7 weeks ago and I have been reflecting on my time during labour. The last trimester I was given extra scans as they said my baby was measuring big they said I would need a planned c section as with a big baby there is the usual risks of tearing or baby’s arm being broken to get her out. Or worst case death. They could only book one in 4 days before my due date as they were booked up , that worried me as I didn’t think I would last that long, which I didn’t, went into labour 1 and a half weeks early and I said would I be having the c section, they couldn’t do it as two women were already in theatre. In the end I gave birth naturally with gas and air and age actually wasn’t a big baby. I have been wondering since, what if she was a big baby??!! Is this normal care from the nhs or actually was this dangerous as if she was a big baby and I didn’t have a C-section it would have been medically dangerous. What does everyone think? Genuinely curious as it’s been in the back of my mind

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OrlandointheWilderness · 16/05/2024 12:01

Normal care from the NHS?! You mean a pregnancy overseen by highly skilled professionals and a birth in a safe, warm, dry place with effective pain relief and immediate emergency care in case anything went wrong?!?
Sometimes I think it would do people good to see how childbirth CAN be. Yes the NHS is massively flawed and struggling, but please do remember that we are so incredibly luck to have access to advanced medical care.

The risk would have been mitigated due to your earlier delivery. Big babies are perfectly fine delivered naturally, it just increases risk my a tiny amount. If they had deemed it to be a significant amount you WOULD have been prioritised for a C-Section.

Congratulations!

wellington77 · 16/05/2024 11:59

Thankyou guys you are right

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Toddlerteaplease · 16/05/2024 11:58

As a PP said? You'd have got your section if it was an emergency. They'd have made it happen.

Therageisreal · 16/05/2024 11:56

Most health trust will have a birth reflections services where you can discuss this.

SilentSilhouette · 16/05/2024 11:55

Everyone goes over the what ifs of their birth.

I gave birth with just gas and air to DS1 who was just shy of 10 lbs. I asked for an epidural but all anaesthetists were unavailable. That's just the way it went.

Giving birth to big babies is usually fine. It's a very small additional risk.

My second baby was twins, the placentas got very stuck and I nearly ended up with a hysterectomy as infection was setting. It all worked out mostly fine in the end. It is what it is.

No birth is with out risk. C-Sections aren't without risk. But people keep having babies so it's a risk worth taking.

You and your baby are both safe and well which is what is important.

OpusGiemuJavlo · 16/05/2024 11:54

I would take it that if she was measuring big for gestational age then if you hadn't gone into labour naturally and she continued growing for 10 days or so beyond her due date then she might get so big that there were the risks you were told.

However as you went into labour 10 days or so before your due date that's 20 days less growth compared to the scenario they were worried about.

So no I don't think you were at any risk.

TomatoSandwiches · 16/05/2024 11:54

It will do you no good to wonder, it didn't happen and if you were genuinely in trouble the likelyhood is that they would have made the section happen one way or another.

wellington77 · 16/05/2024 11:50

Thankyou yes you are right, just wondering really

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