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Caught DD vaping

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CherryLimePie1 · 16/05/2024 08:34

Caught DD (17) vaping last night vaping. She says she's been doing it for a while is going to keep on vaping no matter what. I want to put a stop to it and stop her vaping. DH thinks there is nothing we can do stop her and she'll just keep vaping no matter what we say or do. Caught her vaping when I walked into her room last night, she knew I was coming in as she had asked me to bring a bottle of water up for her when I come up. DD described it as "just a vape" but I'm not happy about how laid back she is about this. What would you do? Would you just let her vape or would you try to stop her vaping? How do I stop her vaping?

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Infinity234 · 19/05/2024 11:32

You can’t stop her, the more you go on about it the more she’ll do it I’m afraid!

ivedonejuryservice · 19/05/2024 11:31

My kids would be under the patio by now if I caught them smoking or vaping! & they blooming know it.

I’d be in every vape shop in town pointing out they’ve sold underage. LOUDLY & telling the police.

zeibesaffron · 19/05/2024 11:28

You can’t stop her!! My 17yo DD is the same - and all her friends vape too!! The only thing we say is she doesn’t do it in the house!! And that she buys them from the registered vape shops as apparently the ones with 4000/6000 puffs in them are not registered in the UK.

If you remove it she will just get another one!

Trinity65 · 16/05/2024 12:08

Oh Noooo
The Horror 😆

Ontarioontario · 16/05/2024 11:10

She is underage…how is she buying them ? What money is she using to buy them? If you are not smokers or vapers yourself then you have every right to say not in your home and give some form of consequence. Even if it cuts down her opportunities to vape it will help, nicotine is so addictive people usually struggle to come off them.

Muffin101 · 16/05/2024 09:14

You can’t stop her really, she isn’t really a child anymore, but I would be laying down the law about vaping in the house. That’s not really on.

Greenflamesburn · 16/05/2024 09:11

My 17 year old has started vaping.
Can't say much as a smoker myself apart from explaining the side effects to them.

However I don't smoke in my house. We sit in the garden under a little shelter.
17 year old has had many vapes snapped and thrown in the bin as that is the consequence for using it in my house.
They are at college and have a part time job (6hrs on a sat) for extra pennies. I can't and don't dictate how they spend that money it's theirs they earned it.

Even if they paid rent they wouldn't smoke/vape in the house as its not fair on the young siblings.

Couldyounot · 16/05/2024 08:51

Beezknees · 16/05/2024 08:41

You can't stop her vaping, even if you want to. She's almost an adult.

But you can ban her from doing it in your house. If she does it anyway then enforce consequences.

This is what we had to do with DS18. Obviously we can't stop him consuming the wretched things altogether but we made it clear that we will not have them in the house (because there is then a risk that his 7yo brothers could get hold of them), and if any were found here, they will be disposed of. We have had to do this on a handful of occasions.

Fortunately he has now managed to give up of his own accord. Fingers crossed that he stays off them.

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CherryLimePie1 · 16/05/2024 08:51

Solidlump · 16/05/2024 08:45

Agree with this.
Have you talked to her about the dangers of vaping ? And talked about how addictive it is?- I've heard many people say giving up vaping is harder than giving up cigarettes.

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I'm going to speak to her about this tonight.

I'm also going to make it clear that she can't vape in the house and they'll be consequences if she does.

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Solidlump · 16/05/2024 08:45

Beezknees · 16/05/2024 08:41

You can't stop her vaping, even if you want to. She's almost an adult.

But you can ban her from doing it in your house. If she does it anyway then enforce consequences.

Agree with this.
Have you talked to her about the dangers of vaping ? And talked about how addictive it is?- I've heard many people say giving up vaping is harder than giving up cigarettes.

needsomeadvice22 · 16/05/2024 08:43

You can't stop her, you can ban it from the house but nothing stopping her sitting outside and vaping.

Beezknees · 16/05/2024 08:41

You can't stop her vaping, even if you want to. She's almost an adult.

But you can ban her from doing it in your house. If she does it anyway then enforce consequences.

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CherryLimePie1 · 16/05/2024 08:39

avata · 16/05/2024 08:35

She's 17, you can't stop her from vaping.

You can tell her you don't want her doing it in the house.

DH thinks we can't stop her from vaping too but I don't want her vaping.

I will tell her it can't be done in the house. Don't know how I can stop her doing it in her room as she'll just do it?

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avata · 16/05/2024 08:35

She's 17, you can't stop her from vaping.

You can tell her you don't want her doing it in the house.

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