Caught DD vaping

Agree with everyone else - it is her choice to vape.

It is your house though - so it is your choice what happens in it.

You can absolutely insist that she does not vape in your house. Would a smoke detector detect vaping? If so I would put a very loud one in her room. If not, just barge in without warning. You are not invading her privacy if she has shown that she cannot be trusted not to vape in your house.

Once she has stopped vaping at home, drop the subject entirely. What she does (as a 17 year old) outside your home is not your business. I would probably tell her that too. Just enforce the "my house, my rules" thing stringently.

I would cut off all money supplies I says no way I would be funding vaping. And then an outright ban in the house or garden any breach of this would result in all vaping paraphernalia being binned.
I say this as an exsmoker who wished their parents had done more.

As annoying as it is at least it’s not cigarettes or drugs? I’m a vaper though and have used it as a way of quitting smoking so I’ll never understand why people start vaping just for the hell of it.

ask your daughter for name of shop, contact Trading Standards in your local council and tell them they are selling to underage. They will shut them down.

Tough love from me. Allowance stops immediately and any vapes found in the house are binned. Shop involved would be reported for underage selling.

We already know that this is very damaging to health, and teens taking it up are not doing it to get off cigarettes. I’d go in hard just as I would on drugs.

I made it clear to DS23 when he was 18 that if he got a tattoo on holiday or anywhere else he would be funding himself through university. Well, he’s 23 now and still has no tattoo. His mate who got one is saving up to have it removed. I’m a believer in trying my best to protect teens, even 18 year olds, from doing things that they might well regret later. I’d class vaping in that category.

This. You can tell her risks such as popcorn lung etc.

Watch the documentary 'big vape' originally designed to stop adults smoking, (juul anyway) they were then advertised as 'cool' so teenagers started smoking them. They are highly highly addictive. More so then cigarettes. Then big tobacco started getting in on the action. Yes probably better for you then smoking though but who knows. I would be horrified if mine started but too young now. Hoping it dies off by the time they are interested.

Sorry to be blunt but sadly OP you need to let her destroy her lungs herself to learn this lesson. It’s a grotesque habit with unknown long term health impacts- hopefully she gets a wake up call or scare sooner rather than later.

Vapes are horrible. At least when we were young couldn’t just sit in your bedroom smoking. People would smell. You may get away with one or two but not a pack of 20. they can lie on their beds, puffing away constantly. They can also puff quickly to give themselves a high.

I’d also check the vapes. There are 7000 and 9000 ones which are illegal to be sold to anyone, not just under 18s.

also if not just a regular Elf bar, take them apart. I read on mumsnet about this and I suspected son was at this.
and unfortunately son had spice vape (which he did admit but he thought it was THC vape).

I’d just tell her not to do it in the house, and stop giving her money if it’s going towards vaping. And not make a big deal of it, just remind her of the health risks. If you turn it into a battle she will dig her heels in more. Tbh there are many worse things she could be doing.

That was legal.
This is illegal. Not wanting illegal activity in your house is particularly valid.

I think the more you show your disappointment, the more she'll think of it and smoke.
Im a smoker, and my mum told me she knew by giving me a can of air freshener to put in the bathroom that said 'anti-tobacco'. I never smoked in the house again, but my poor dog had lots of walks.
maybe tell her her breath smells of smoke, sorry no helpful advice!

I thought this thread was about a 12 yo vaping but at 17 yo, I'm afraid there's little you can do. I smoked at 17 if that makes you feel better and gave up when in uni.

I just kept throwing them out anytime I found them.

DD went to Oz for a year and couldn't afford it anymore.

Her excuses included the fact she was left standing alone anytime they were out as everyone wanted went outside to vape.

I have no idea if she's started doing it again or not now she's back - I hope not.

My nephew vaped so much he lost his ability to taste so stopped eating. He goes to the gym but is rake thin and moved onto tobacco pouches that sit between his gums and his teeth?!?

There is no easy anywhere, sorry op.

Yes, I concur. Vaping is endemic and very difficult to police, but I do think there's a middle ground between 'yeah cool' and 'oh the horror'.

I think it's important for teens to know they are accountable to someone, just so they can check themselves occasionally and be reminded that someone is looking out for them. And actually, to listen to your views also.

So that would be my approach. You want to vape? More fool you, but I'm not going to make it easy for you (will keep reminding you of the harm to health and environment, won't allow it in the house, won't give you extra pocket money if you choose to spend it on vapes etc...)

You can’t stop her but if you finance anything she has you can cut that . You f it was me no money for absolutely anything , food , mobile , clothes . I would buy her stuff myself but she would have no access to money .

She wouldn’t be allowed to vape in house/garden etc.
It’s endemic in the young people around here. Vape shops everywhere. It’s definitely not been used by YP to stop smoking.
I’ve told my children that if they start vaping or smoking that as they are old enough they can move out.

Sadly you can’t stop her doing it, all you can do is stop her doing it in the house by enforcing whatever consequences you decide are appropriate.

If you know where she is buying them you could report the shop to trading standards for selling to underage people but she will no doubt just buy from elsewhere.

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Mine’s 18 and I wouldn’t like it. I’d be clear not in the house. Money wise are you being too generous if she can waste her pt job money on vapes. Cut back what you give her. If you know where us selling to her underage I’d report to trading standards. Shops that sell underage often sell illegal vapes so extra health worries, fire risk too.

Where does she get the money? Does she work?

I would really talk about health.
does she know what she is really breathing?
does she know that vaping was creating as a way to actually stop smocking?
doesn’t she care of the fact that she might be breathing substances that at best they will give her wrinkles and yellow teeth when she is in her thirties and mesothelioma in her 50s?

I’vedone how old are your kids out of interest?

There’s probably nothing you can do to stop her but you can certainly make it difficult and enforce rules and boundaries.
No vaping in the house.
No vaping on or near the property at all, so that includes the garden.
No vaping around you or anyone else in the family.
No vaping in the car.
Any vaping paraphernalia left lying around anywhere but in her room will be binned.
Unless she is earning her own money, nor will you be funding her vaping.
At the end of the day if feels she is old enough and mature enough to vape but doesn’t like your rules, then she’s old enough and mature enough to live somewhere else.