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Flute56 · 15/05/2024 22:41

I work in an office and the majority of the peole wear casual and by that I mean jeans and t shirts and trainers. I always dress smart for work. Some who have tatoos wear short sleeves and show huge tattoos down each arm. I do not think that is appropriate for the office. I really wish i worked for a company who has a strict dress code wehre the women have to wear smart trousers and jackets and dresses and skirts and the men have to wear shirts and trousers and maybe a suit. I could not go to work looking sloppy even if there is no dress code

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EmpressaurusOfCats · 17/05/2024 19:15

I work in digital marketing - nobody in my office judges anyone by their clothes as long as you’re clean and tidy. They do judge them for not checking grammar, spelling and punctuation when sending messages.

bloodyplumbing · 17/05/2024 19:10

DrearyTeaTowel · 17/05/2024 18:48

I agree also sick of women wearing maxi floral or garish print dresses to the office with trainers. Feel like I’m at a bloody school summer fete not the office. Those dresses are like tents!

I like dressing different at work to home. I am very casual outside of work. The formality of work clothes gets me in the right headspace.

So it's only women's clothing you have an issue with? I couldn't give less of a shit if you're fed up with looking at my dresses!!

PotatoPudding · 17/05/2024 19:01

PineappleBanana · 17/05/2024 18:56

<whispers> she’s gone to work in jeans, OP.

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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

MinistryOfTragic · 17/05/2024 18:57

If that's all you have to worry about at work then you're not doing too badly. I really couldn't get worked up about what people wear, I'm more bothered by someone with such a judge attitude to their colleagues to be honest.

AmiablePedant · 17/05/2024 18:57

SemperIdem · 16/05/2024 01:41

The default for office wear where I work is - blazer, wide leg trousers, Veja or Samba trainers.

There’s the odd Gen Z outlier who will turn in wearing clothes I wouldn’t be seen outside the house in, but broadly speaking there’s an expectation that casual also means looking put together.

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Well, THIS year it is the default. In a year or so, with a bit of luck, hideous wide leg cropped trousers and trainers worn with bloody well everything will have gone the way of (insert ghastly fashion trend here). Or the casual trend will have veered in the other direction. Fashion is a moving target--that said, some styles are always elegant.

PineappleBanana · 17/05/2024 18:56

Flute56 · 17/05/2024 18:20

I do not think blazers look dated. I think they are very smart and in this video Kate is described as looking chic and I agree

<whispers> she’s gone to work in jeans, OP.

bloodyplumbing · 17/05/2024 18:55

DrearyTeaTowel · 17/05/2024 18:48

I agree also sick of women wearing maxi floral or garish print dresses to the office with trainers. Feel like I’m at a bloody school summer fete not the office. Those dresses are like tents!

I like dressing different at work to home. I am very casual outside of work. The formality of work clothes gets me in the right headspace.

Good for you!

Do you understand that others don't need those props to get into the right headspace at work?

DrearyTeaTowel · 17/05/2024 18:48

I agree also sick of women wearing maxi floral or garish print dresses to the office with trainers. Feel like I’m at a bloody school summer fete not the office. Those dresses are like tents!

I like dressing different at work to home. I am very casual outside of work. The formality of work clothes gets me in the right headspace.

FlissyPaps · 17/05/2024 18:45

Flute56 · 17/05/2024 17:33

I also own a black velvet dress which I wore to a funeral recently again, with pearls

lol. Okay Camilla.

Pipsquiggle · 17/05/2024 18:39

Sorry forgot to say I am also a woman in my 40s

Pipsquiggle · 17/05/2024 18:38

Flute56 · 17/05/2024 18:20

I do not think blazers look dated. I think they are very smart and in this video Kate is described as looking chic and I agree

@Flute56
The thing is most 40 year old women do not dress like this.
Kate dresses 'old' and 'stately' as that is her 'job.'

I work in strategy - I don't have to dress in a blazer. When I am in the office, I do tend to wear dresses and trainers / boots with a biker jacket which I feel comfortable in.

bloodyplumbing · 17/05/2024 18:32

Flute56 · 17/05/2024 17:31

I have also been somewhere and worn a formal tailored dress with long sleeves and tights and heels and i teamed it with a string of pearls and someone said I loe your outfit

Do you always just talk about yourself?

bloodyplumbing · 17/05/2024 18:32

Flute56 · 17/05/2024 17:33

I also own a black velvet dress which I wore to a funeral recently again, with pearls

Did you clutch them?

PotatoPudding · 17/05/2024 18:30

Flute56 · 17/05/2024 18:20

I do not think blazers look dated. I think they are very smart and in this video Kate is described as looking chic and I agree

Bet she wouldn’t be seen dead in legging, though!

Beezknees · 17/05/2024 18:25

Flute56 · 17/05/2024 18:20

I do not think blazers look dated. I think they are very smart and in this video Kate is described as looking chic and I agree

The media are biased towards the royals so they'd say this even if she looked shite. She looks lovely, but this style is not for me, I find it dull. Imagine! We all like different things.

UsherPusher · 17/05/2024 18:24

Because of our role, FOH in a theatre, we have a certain dress code expectation whilst "on duty"

These relaxed post Covid to allow tattoos to be visible because so many of the people attracted to the position have them (younger and artistic types). We get customers talking to us about out tattoos as they love them.

If we are in for any other reason such as training then we are all in whatever casual is our style so jeans, dresses, shorts and vests in summer etc

Managers have suits/blazers hanging in their office so they can change from casual to their "customer face" if doing desk based work before a show

TheHorneSection · 17/05/2024 18:23

You'd love me then. Blazer, dress, heels... and several visible lower arm tattoos.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 17/05/2024 18:20

Being told you look nice is not the same as your definition of smart 🤣

And for a different PP - no one is being unkind except OP with her judgement of tattoos

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Judystilldreamsofhorses · 17/05/2024 18:04

I’m a lecturer - my main subject area is digital marketing, and my students wouldn’t expect to be taught by a person in a suit, even though I am “customer facing”. Today I wore wide legged jeans, Breton top, and navy/white Samba trainers with red lipstick and chunky gold jewellery. My top is long sleeved but lurking under it are - shock - tattoos. If I taught law I’d dress more business-y, but even that team is more relaxed post-Covid.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 17/05/2024 17:56

Flute56 · 17/05/2024 03:54

I have a jewish friend. She has to dress appropriately according to her religion. They cannot wear trousers and skirts have to be well below their knees. Does this make them any more religious. Someone posted on here about pearls and yes I own a string of pearls and wear them on the appropriate occasion, When you see Government Ministers they are always dressed very formally. The prime minister always wears a suit and a tie. The head teacher of a school always wears formal clothing. When would you ever see a head teacher turning up to run a school wearing jeans or leggings or a t shirt showing tatoos on arms,

Then become Jewish and move to work in a school or the government (although the Prime Minister doesn't always wear a tie... female PMs don't. Just to be picky)

And yes you do see teachers with tattoos. So long as they aren't offensive or inappropriate

TatToos BTW. Three Ts

SamW98 · 17/05/2024 17:53

xSideshowAuntSallyx · 17/05/2024 17:39

Last funeral I went to I wore a bright red dress. I'm sure my friend was looking down and smiling as she would have loved it.

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Yep. My friend wanted everyone wearing green at her funeral and it was fabulous to see such bright vibrant colours rather than black.

PotatoPudding · 17/05/2024 17:40

Flute56 · 17/05/2024 17:30

I went somewhere and wore leggings with flat shoes, a shirt and a sleeveless v neck sweater over the top of the shirt. Someone looked at me and said your outfit is lovely you look very nice!

Nice is not synonymous with smart.

xSideshowAuntSallyx · 17/05/2024 17:39

Flute56 · 17/05/2024 17:33

I also own a black velvet dress which I wore to a funeral recently again, with pearls

Last funeral I went to I wore a bright red dress. I'm sure my friend was looking down and smiling as she would have loved it.

CleanShirt · 17/05/2024 17:37

@Flute56 are you just talking to yourself now? Taking on board anything other posters have said?