office wear

I’m only in one day a week now but yes - women have become much more likely to wear comfortable shoes, it’s far better!

That happened to our department.

Pre Covid it was a lot smarter than it is now..definitely no blue jeans and trainers had to be very smart.

It's pretty much anything goes now..shorts, jeans, t-shirts with logos. I don't think anyone wears shoes.

The problem I have is that I no longer have any separation between work/casual/ going out wear.

I might go back to the old way, and get myself a work 'uniform'.

@EmpressaurusOfCats
Interestingly, since the pandemic, I don't see any women wearing high heels in the office. I see this as a huge step forward (pun intended). I remember in my 20s wearing such uncomfortable heels just because it was 'smarter' - such a load of bollocks

I see women in high heels at work, wonder if their feet hurt & remember one of the first aiders telling me that he was most often called out to treat injuries from women walking in high heels on stairs & tripping up.

I look at shoes, I think you can tell a lot about someone by their shoes.

I don't own any leather shoes that need polishing but when I did I used to polish them.

Of course it’s noticeable when someone doesn’t take care of their shoes. Polishing leather shoes isn’t just about appearance; it makes them last a lifetime.

I don't even iron my clothes let alone polish shoes.

Don’t wear them then.

So what? I also own a black velvet dress. I wear it with a biker jacket and leopard print creepers. If I wore it to a funeral I’d wear it with patent Mary Janes.

What you don’t seem to understand is that nobody minds what YOU want to wear. You can wear blazers and pearls if you like, because that is YOUR style that makes YOU feel YOUR best. If you feel confident and happy in the things you wear, great. But why can’t you understand that other people have THEIR style that makes THEM feel confident and happy?

The issue isn’t your dress sense, it’s the fact you think everyone else should dress like you and that you are incredibly rude and judgemental about them if they don’t. Your comments about your colleagues are really unpleasant and sneery.

In your other threads, you talk about having a bad childhood, poor self esteem and your difficulties forming personal relationships. It’s pretty obvious that you’re trying to over-compensate for your problems by trying to assume a sense of superiority over others, and that (for some reason) your clothes symbolise that in your head.

Honestly, I think the root of this fixation is that you need to have a lot of rigid control in your life to feel safe, and that for you, clothes are part of that. So you feel jealous and resentful of your colleagues because they don’t need to overdress to feel confident and capable, and have a sense of ease (with themselves and around others) that you envy. So instead of facing up to that and confronting your own issues, you try to convince yourself that your clothes make you better than them and project all your insecurities on to others.

I’m sorry you have these issues but imposing them on to others like this is not going to help you.

Ah so you're fed with all the algorithms because of that.... enough said.

Honestly your judgement of how other women dress is shocking!

As I said previously, if you look at OPs posts her friends describe her as "odd".

What do you think people say about you? More than boring bitch, because they won't care about what you're wearing, but my god they'll judge your judgemental and nasty nature.

@bloodyplumbing yes I do like to look at the showbiz section online but don’t buy the paper? Does that count? Am one step from being Margaret Thatcher now?

Brilliant!

I'll assume @DrearyTeaTowel (fitting username) is a Daily Fail reader as well!

@DrearyTeaTowel take back your judgement of how fully functioning women choose to dress because you don't like it.

No one gives a flying fuck if you like it, your thoughts and views are so insignificant it's not true.

I have never aimed, and will never aim, to look "smart" and I certainly have no desire to emulate the style of someone like Rishi Sunak or a royal on an official engagement who needs to dress in a way that won't offend the readership of the Daily Mail.

Edit - I also, and I feel many would support me in this, look like absolute shite in a "blouse" or buttoned shirt with a short waist and a 32FF chest. Why is so much "smart" wear basically "dressed like a man"?

Okay I take back the sick of. I just don’t think they make good office wear.

They think k a lot more than boring bitch! Rightly so!

But you're sick of women wearing these dresses!

Give your head a wobble!

JFC.

Of all the judgemental and embarrassing comments.

@Beezknees yes of course, it’s not really an issue, just an opinion on office wear (which is the topic discussion). People can obviously wear what they like. I just agree that a lot of clothes are too casual for offices. When I see people in floral tiered maxi dresses I think “strange choice “. When others see me in my trousers and shirt they might think, “boring bitch”! Its all a matter of taste! I prefer a more formal look in the office.

That's your problem though, not theirs.

@DrearyTeaTowel that's your issue, stop projecting your "women" should dress in a certain way.

It's old fashioned
It's demeaning

And frankly I'm embarrassed for you!

And if you're "fed up" with looking at how women in your office dress, I suggest you either get a life or get another job that offers uniform.

OPs other threads are about people calling her "odd", not surprising, I think you're probably the same category.

yes of course, just sharing my thoughts, I think they look scruffy. They look nice outside of work but are a strange office wear choice.

Pretty much, the men in my office mainly wear suits which are inoffensive. I just think those dresses look strange in an office setting. They are too casual.

OP, how do you feel about people who wear the same outfit all week? (Smart or casual)