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To think friends decor is gross?

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walkthroughtulips · 15/05/2024 20:43

Stayed at a friends house this weekend with mutual friends and they raved about how nice her living room is and I was baffled.

It’s an extremely dark grey with one wall with equally dark grey wallpaper. Brown sofas and a yellow armchair. Huge jar with pampas grass. Grey carpet with a cream rug. Black plastic tv stand, concrete side tables.

She must think my deco is gross and shit. But I genuinely was so baffled by their reaction.

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Hadjab · 16/05/2024 10:41

walkthroughtulips · 15/05/2024 21:47

Who has pampas grass in 2024?

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If you don't know that pampas grass was and still is a decor trend, then you probably shouldn't be slagging off your friend's decor...

PrettyFlyforaMaiTai · 16/05/2024 10:35

My go to line when I don’t like someone else’s things (if I am asked, coz if I’m not asked I won’t say) is “oh it’s nice but it’s not really my style. But the important thing is that YOU like it”.

We all have different style and tastes and thank goodness for it, or it would be a dull world indeed.

SloaneStreetVandal · 16/05/2024 10:15

buttnut · 16/05/2024 09:51

Fair enough I just remember when it was the ‘in thing’ a fair few years back when Mrs Hinch had her whole house grey. So many of the grey homes I saw on Insta (including Mr Hinch!) are now all the same identical cream/beige and sage green decor. I think crushed velvet grey and mirrored furniture is now seen as quite dated.

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I like cream and beige (most of my house is painted the same malt chocolate colour!). I like reds/orange and golds too. I suppose by sticking with my favourite key colours there'll be periods of time when I can feel I'm on trend 😂

buttnut · 16/05/2024 09:51

SloaneStreetVandal · 16/05/2024 09:21

It very much IS still a thing. I was browsing city apartments this week, and grey crushed velvet is very much still in abundance! Blue velvet is jostling for pole position too though 😂

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Fair enough I just remember when it was the ‘in thing’ a fair few years back when Mrs Hinch had her whole house grey. So many of the grey homes I saw on Insta (including Mr Hinch!) are now all the same identical cream/beige and sage green decor. I think crushed velvet grey and mirrored furniture is now seen as quite dated.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 16/05/2024 09:39

Workaholic99 · 16/05/2024 09:12

I'm buying a house at the moment and every house I've looked at had grey walls and grey carpet! Please enough with grey it's such a dreary colour

Good job you can put what you like in your house once you've bought it then.

Somepeoplearesnippy · 16/05/2024 09:32

"gross' is a very judgemental word.

I would be very hurt if I had hosted someone who spoke about my house like that. They would definitely not be invited again.

SloaneStreetVandal · 16/05/2024 09:31

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 16/05/2024 09:16

I can’t say I’ve ever judged friends decor especially if they’ve specially decorated recently.

I mean I might not have liked colours but then they’re probably exactly the same about my taste so it all evens out.

It would be a very sad world if we all liked the same things.

PS OP you remind me of Cathy in Two Doors Down going to Michelle and Alan’s new decorated house and complaining that the living room was “so beige”. (It was lovely actually!). Do watch that on Iplayer if you haven’t already.

Cathy is a legend! 😁 Cathy does though have grey walls and pampas grass in HER gaff 🤔😂

SloaneStreetVandal · 16/05/2024 09:21

buttnut · 16/05/2024 09:04

I never see this anymore, was very ‘on-trend’ maybe 7/8 years ago but not really now.

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It very much IS still a thing. I was browsing city apartments this week, and grey crushed velvet is very much still in abundance! Blue velvet is jostling for pole position too though 😂

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Katiesaidthat · 16/05/2024 09:16

Yeah, I agree it is awful decor, but a) you don´t have to live with it b) you didn´t have to pay for it, so in the big scheme of things, who cares?

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 16/05/2024 09:16

I can’t say I’ve ever judged friends decor especially if they’ve specially decorated recently.

I mean I might not have liked colours but then they’re probably exactly the same about my taste so it all evens out.

It would be a very sad world if we all liked the same things.

PS OP you remind me of Cathy in Two Doors Down going to Michelle and Alan’s new decorated house and complaining that the living room was “so beige”. (It was lovely actually!). Do watch that on Iplayer if you haven’t already.

LLMn · 16/05/2024 09:15

And that is why I never invite adults to my humble abode - my dc friends are welcome anytime, they pour in after school as if it were their own home, but adults? Eh, no.

Workaholic99 · 16/05/2024 09:12

I'm buying a house at the moment and every house I've looked at had grey walls and grey carpet! Please enough with grey it's such a dreary colour

LLMn · 16/05/2024 09:11

'That is why they have menus in restaurants' (c) Donald J Trump

TheCatJumps · 16/05/2024 09:05

OP, you seem to be concluding that, if your friends who admired this friend’s sitting room were sincere, both they and she must think your decor is ‘gross and shit’. Maybe they do, but so what? Are you so entirely unfamiliar with the concept of subjective taste?

buttnut · 16/05/2024 09:04

SloaneStreetVandal · 16/05/2024 06:54

I was just observing in general terms the trend - a grey crushed velvet sofa, or bed, often accompanies the grey walls/carpet.

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I never see this anymore, was very ‘on-trend’ maybe 7/8 years ago but not really now.

Novemberweather99 · 16/05/2024 09:03

It's not your home so therefore none of your business. How awful of you to come on here and be so mean! My decor is rather quirky but I love it and I'd be so hurt if a 'friend' of mine was doing this behind my back. Just leave her be

Uricon2 · 16/05/2024 09:02

JaninaDuszejko · 16/05/2024 06:29

That's completely different. All the friend has done is use a fashionably dark colour for her sittingroom, that's different to ripping out original features.

@walkthroughtulips other friends might well describe the host's house as 'oh it was gorgeous. She has a lovely sittingroom colour drenched in F&B downpipe, with a toning feature wall with Timorous Beasties style wallpaper. Then she's lightened it with a berber rug, vintage tan aniline leather sofas, a mustard occasional chair and introduced some texture with concrete side tables and one of those big fluted vases with some creamy pampas grass. It was so cozy and comfortable, we had such a great time'.

Maybe @walkthroughtulips has taste stuck in the 90s and has magnolia walls and a fading red sofa from IKEA.

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I was imagining that sort of styling too. Someone I know did his sitting room in F&B Down Pipe with tan leather sofa/chairs, long before the grey trend was a thing. It looked wonderful.

OP, as others have said, it really isn't pleasant to go online to slag off a "friends" taste, whatever you think about it. What you've written about is fairly distinctive and would you want her to see this and be hurt?

Babybreath · 16/05/2024 08:59

@Engaea of course people are allowed to not like it but it's kinder to keep those thoughts to yourself rather than spitefully putting it on the internet.

Mummy2mybear · 16/05/2024 08:55

You sound like a terrible friend, who needs enemy's with friends like you? I hope she reads this and never lets you stay in her house again.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 16/05/2024 08:54

My first thought, OP, was that the other friends maybe thought the same as you, but pretended to love it. I’m sure we’ve all done that at some time, not just decor but someone’s new dress or hairstyle…. How many of us would be 100% honest, especially if actually asked what we thought?

Engaea · 16/05/2024 08:50

I don't care about fashion but that sounds ugly... she should do what she wants but people are also allowed to not like it.

ClairDeLaLune · 16/05/2024 08:47

walkthroughtulips · 15/05/2024 21:47

Who has pampas grass in 2024?

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People who are confident to have what they like and who don’t give a fuck what is or isn’t in fashion.

People like me. I also have 80s style black furniture and I don’t care what anyone thinks.

ilovesooty · 16/05/2024 08:42

walkthroughtulips · 15/05/2024 21:47

Who has pampas grass in 2024?

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Your friend does. I expect she'll be an ex friend if she ever finds out about your mean spirited post.

BoudiccaOfSuburbia · 16/05/2024 08:37

I really like the sound of the concrete coffee table.

If only I had the means to live in the spacious minimalist warehouse apartment to support such an item.

But the pampas grass can get in the sea.

And would my friends take to MN to slag me off? Should I play it safe from Next?

PoppyCherryDog · 16/05/2024 08:31

lightsandtunnels · 15/05/2024 21:08

Really? Some friend you are OP coming on MN to slag off your friend's decor. Everyone else liked it so perhaps it is you with bad taste! Either way it's none of your business is it.

This

Its just different taste not bad taste