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My 2.9 year old doesn’t have enough toys?

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Toffee2 · 15/05/2024 20:37

I recently visited a friends and the house was full of toys in every room. It was a bit too much for me but I left feeling guilty my son didn’t have half the toys.
He has

  • A bus
  • A Police car
  • 3 dinosaurs
  • A wooden puzzle
  • Books
  • Crayons and colouring books
  • Tonies box
  • Building blocks
  • Handful of teddies
  • Garden digger and ride on car

Am I going crazy?
It’s his birthday in a couple months and haven’t a clue what else to buy him. FTM mum here so clearly got too much time on my hands !

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Therageisreal · 18/05/2024 19:04

Toffee2 · 15/05/2024 21:26

My son is definitely happiest in the garden barefoot digging mud and collecting sticks haha We are renting so I can’t go mad in the garden but I will look into second hand garden bits

Have a look at mud kitchens or on Pinterest for DIY mud kitchen - all you really need to a bit of old furniture or a bench to put a washing up bowl on and some old kitchen utensil/metal tea pots from a pass on sites or if you’re near an IKEA their kids kitchen toys are really good.

PeloMom · 17/05/2024 19:12

I have also found food coloring fun to last for both around here- we create new colours, colour fake snow (buy from Amazon and hide the animals in it than we ‘rescue’ them) etc

KnitnNatterAuntie · 17/05/2024 13:28

HooleyB · 17/05/2024 13:26

Magnatiles, wooden train set, marble run, foam bat and ball, animal figurines, duplo, play kitchen/mud kitchen are all things I'd consider staples for that age. His toys do seem really very limited.

Have you seen the OP's recent update? She's bought some more toys which her DS is delighted with . . . .

HooleyB · 17/05/2024 13:26

Magnatiles, wooden train set, marble run, foam bat and ball, animal figurines, duplo, play kitchen/mud kitchen are all things I'd consider staples for that age. His toys do seem really very limited.

recklessgran · 17/05/2024 13:25

Ah this is so lovely to read OP, bless you.
Enjoy your darling boy and stop worrying you are his BEST Mummy!

KnitnNatterAuntie · 17/05/2024 13:23

Toffee2 · 17/05/2024 13:17

Just wanted to update that I bought him brio set, kinetic sand set, more
wooden puzzles and a farm set with scheich animals
They’ve been an absolute hit and a real breathe of fresh air! glad I posted here thankyou!!

That's really lovely . . . such a broad selection. Schleich animals have been very popular here . . . I'm sure your DS will have good fun with them

We love puzzles of all sorts and I think they're really good for developing a lot of skills

So lovely to see an OP who has taken on board what all the PP's have said and has ended up with such a happy outcome

Toffee2 · 17/05/2024 13:17

Just wanted to update that I bought him brio set, kinetic sand set, more
wooden puzzles and a farm set with scheich animals
They’ve been an absolute hit and a real breathe of fresh air! glad I posted here thankyou!!

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bridgetreilly · 16/05/2024 01:17

Absolutely get him some of the great ideas suggested here, but please don’t worry that he hasn’t got enough. Most children I know have way too many toys so that they are overwhelmed and constantly distracted. Fewer toys will stimulate more imagination and play with non-toy things. He’ll be fine.

iPreferBooks · 16/05/2024 00:44

Agree with train set
Those village/Town Map rugs can be a great addition too

Cantrushart · 15/05/2024 23:37

Add a cardboard box, wooden spoons and pans, some playdough, paper and crayons, and a puddle and he'll be fine.

PickAChew · 15/05/2024 23:08

Too many toys can be overwhelming at that age. Better to have just enough well loved things to rotate and keep it interesting and fresh.

Letsbuildazoo · 15/05/2024 23:04

I'd love a minimal amount of toys but with a big extended family it's been impossible to achieve, and alas I have a home full of plastic tat.

Play dough would be my suggestion though, it's one of the few things my son will actually sit and do for a while.

Knockknockknockety · 15/05/2024 22:54

Apparently less toys is supposed to be healthier. I have many happy memories of pretending marbles were little people at my Grans house. My DD is a similar age though and has waaaay too much as she has an older brother and all his hand me downs. If you're looking for ideas I agree with a ball and playdough or kinetic sand. Maybe something for role play like a kitchen. My DS has always loved hot wheels cars. He still plays with them now at 7. My DDs current favourite toy is her sand pit, one of those cheap plastic shell ones.

Madamlulu · 15/05/2024 22:52

Toffee2 · 15/05/2024 20:37

I recently visited a friends and the house was full of toys in every room. It was a bit too much for me but I left feeling guilty my son didn’t have half the toys.
He has

  • A bus
  • A Police car
  • 3 dinosaurs
  • A wooden puzzle
  • Books
  • Crayons and colouring books
  • Tonies box
  • Building blocks
  • Handful of teddies
  • Garden digger and ride on car

Am I going crazy?
It’s his birthday in a couple months and haven’t a clue what else to buy him. FTM mum here so clearly got too much time on my hands !

Oh my goodness you have such a better balance. My boys loved their toys when they had a just a few and sadly this was ruined over time with generous gifts and it becomes
overwhelming and honestly less imaginative. Do not buy more!

Notthatcatagain · 15/05/2024 22:51

Things that can be added to are good. Brio trains and Duplo or Playmobile

Mannyshy · 15/05/2024 22:48

That doesn't seem many toys at all for a child nearly 3. It sounds like about 4 actual toys, and the rest books, puzzles and blocks. They don't need insane amounts, but 3 or 4 toys doesn't seem like he can use his imagination much.

Ineedaholidayyyy · 15/05/2024 22:46

@Hoolagan adding you feel sad for him isn't really necessary is it. OP has stated her child has lots of activities outside of the home, he's not stuck at home all day.

She has just seen what a friend has toys wise for her child and is now considering if she should add to her sons toy collection. It doesn't sound as though her son is unhappy and people need to feel sad for him..

Shoopdelangdelang · 15/05/2024 22:44

Reugny · 15/05/2024 22:32

The fact you can easily list his toys is odd.

One "toy" my DD has consistently liked is a very large cardboard box she can fit into.

She also likes balloons, bubble mixture either from wands or guns, and balls.

I've noticed boys tend to like the same things.

I could list my son's toys up to the age of one year old. Up to that point he only had a wicker "treasure" basket (full of various wooden bits and bobs, sensory toys and kitchen utensils), some board books and some teddies. Otherwise he "played" with baskets of laundry or Tupperware from the kitchen cabinets.

On his first birthday he got a big chunky toy dumper truck and a scuttlebug. That was the start of a new era! Wheels everywhere now. The absolute majority of boys are just nuts for vehicles of any kind.

OP I'd recommend the container concept if you want to expand his toys but keep things from getting out of control. I can't remember the woman's name on YouTube but she talks about this as a way of controlling minimal collections of things from becoming out of control clutter.

So my son loves little matchbox or hot wheels types of cars but he has one box for them and no more. Same goes for his brio, Duplo, playmobil etc. They all have a box or a basket and once it's full it's full. We don't buy more.

transformandriseup · 15/05/2024 22:40

Wait until he has his first birthday party at school/nursery, we were drowning in toys from that moment on.

I would say more role play toys ie Farm or school and more puzzles. You can buy a whole tub of dinosaurs in Argos quite cheap. We also have dinosaurs you can take apart and put back together with a plastic screwdriver which is great fun.

PeloMom · 15/05/2024 22:38

Check out lovevery for ideas- I found their kits amazing and developmentally appropriate however you can get most of the stuff (or similar) off amazon

Notreat · 15/05/2024 22:36

Id get him more puzzles, some Duplo or other construction type toys, and some role play type toys , cooking set, toolbox etc

Reugny · 15/05/2024 22:32

The fact you can easily list his toys is odd.

One "toy" my DD has consistently liked is a very large cardboard box she can fit into.

She also likes balloons, bubble mixture either from wands or guns, and balls.

I've noticed boys tend to like the same things.

Daisybuttercup12345 · 15/05/2024 22:31

Google educational toys for his age group. Plenty of ideas will come up.
What about a sturdy garage or kitchen
More puzzles
Duplo
Toy farm and tractor
Interactive toys
Magic painting
Outdoor ride on toys
Ball
Playdough

Mochudubh · 15/05/2024 22:29

Toffee2 · 15/05/2024 21:07

He loves cars and dinosaurs!
These suggestions here are really helpful thankyou
I really like the idea of balls, DIY toys, dressing up outfits and a train set!

I was just coming on to say he needs more cars and dinosaurs . 😀

Charity shops are great for really good value second hand toys, just give them a hand wash in soapy water and let them air dry. I've noticed there's a recent trend for massive charity shops on retail parks and the ones near me, mainly Cancer Research and Barnardos have loads of great toys for a couple of pounds each.

Ineedaholidayyyy · 15/05/2024 22:23

It does sound a bit limited for his age but equally you don't need to go OTT. I think he would benefit with a bit more variety , for example I note he has a bus and police car, could you add some monster trucks, small hot wheels type cars , fire engine etc so he's got more of a variety?

At that age my son loved and we had:

Wooden tracks and train sets
A varied mix of vehicle toys
Magnetic tiles
Duplo
Balance Bike
A ball
Playdough/ kinetic sand
Paints and craft sets
Car track set

You can pick up a lot of good quality second hand toys on vinted/ebay and from charity shops.