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MumofHennHals · 15/05/2024 17:59

We are getting married next August,

We are going to do a rehearsal dinner - people don't need to attend, but happy for people to attend, AIBU if I ask people to contribute £50 to pay for their set menu / unlimited 2 hours worth of drinks if they decide to come to it?

How also could I word this to say it's an 'option' and it'll cost them £50

OP posts:
MissBattleaxe · 15/05/2024 18:02

It's expensive enough coming to a wedding. Id either pay and just invite immediate family or not invite people.

Matilda1981 · 15/05/2024 18:02

I don’t think you can ask people to come to some tong wedding related and then ask them to pay £50?! Surely a wedding rehearsal will just be the bridal party anyway so they’ll have to go to the meal if that’s what you’re planning but you can’t make them pay if they ‘have’ to go?

bridgetreilly · 15/05/2024 18:02

Frankly, I just wouldn’t do it, unless you can afford to pay for it. People are already paying to travel to your wedding, get something to wear, give you a present, maybe pay for accommodation. Just don’t add anything else on, optional or not.