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Stay or go? **Trigger warning** Sexual assault

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JustSaltPlease · 15/05/2024 16:44

Hi all

I typed out a very long post then decided I didn't want to risk it being revealing so am just going to make this quick.

Would you stand by your DP if they were accused of rape but then no evidence found, case dropped and no charges brought.

No sign he slept with her, and he denies sleeping with her or having any sexual contact with her. Claims a completely false accusation. Night out with several other work colleagues, a lone woman stated she needed a room for the night so they allowed her to crash in their air B&B

YABU - Yes
YANBU - No

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DivergentTris · 15/05/2024 17:03

sprigatito · 15/05/2024 17:00

I believe women unless proven otherwise. Virtually no rapists get charged, never mind convicted - and false accusations of rape are vanishingly rare, whatever the misogynists in the tabloids and on Twitter would have you believe.

I agree with the false accusation being rare, even if it did occur I would generally question the circumstances around how the false accusation materialised. The general circumstances could still be concerning.

sprigatito · 15/05/2024 17:00

I believe women unless proven otherwise. Virtually no rapists get charged, never mind convicted - and false accusations of rape are vanishingly rare, whatever the misogynists in the tabloids and on Twitter would have you believe.

SouthLondonMum22 · 15/05/2024 16:57

Only if it was proven to be untrue.

Other than that, not a chance. The majority of rapists get away with it.

DivergentTris · 15/05/2024 16:55

Why wasn't he charged? Proven to be untrue, insufficient evidence or did the victim retract their complaint and stop engaging with police?

The first, possibly, but the latter, no, as all it means is it may have happened but they can't prove it or the victim doesn't wish to go through the trauma and without them the investigation stalls meaning it may possibly still have happened. Both of these would leave to many what ifs, buts and maybe's.

terrariumlover · 15/05/2024 16:46

I wouldn't leave.

No charges. It wasn't just them 2 alone, there were other people present.

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