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To think it’s weird that they keep asking about where I live

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Starbright9 · 15/05/2024 13:27

Recently moved into the village and I got talking to a school mum and they keep asking about which road I’ve moved onto and then trying to figure out which house I’m at and asking if I know my neighbours etc and they keep saying they never see my car there. They live about a 5/10 minute walk from mine and they have no reason to go onto my road apparently but have said they’ve walked up there a few times and not seen my car. Aibu to think it’s strange that they’re so bothered about where I live

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ChilledOut79 · 25/05/2024 12:09

This made me laugh enough to register & comment!

We live in a village which sounds similar. Unless you can trace a village-connecting family lineage back 3 generations.....you will always be the outsider talked about!!

I tune them out now 😂

ellyeth · 25/05/2024 11:56

In my experience (admittedly limited to just one Suffolk village) this is typical of village life - nosy people, with some quite backward ideas - obviously not everyone but certainly a fair number. That's why I prefer city living.

Sako81 · 22/05/2024 17:30

Sounds like the village I live in!

Sunnyandsilly · 22/05/2024 11:29

I live in a village and I think repeatedly walking u0 a road they’d not normally to find your house is very odd and over the top. People did uses to ask where we lived, and we’d say and they’d know the house or the previous owners, but if someone was wondering round looking I’d be thinking they were weird.

Btwmum23 · 22/05/2024 11:23

Omg village life sounds terrible!!!!
if I had any ideas to move out of the city, this thread as shut them forever

Humannat · 21/05/2024 16:22

Ireallywantadoughnut36 · 18/05/2024 22:52

If you think this is weird, a man my husband had never seen before walked up to him in the pub last week and went "aah you live at OUR HOUSE NAME"
It's a weird small town/village thing, they're obsessed with where you live, how nuch it cost, what youre doing to the house, people here talk openly about house values. Our next door neighbour said (as she introduced herself for the first time) "we saw what you got it for, I think it's because the third bedroom is a funny shape isn't it, because you got a bargain at £xyz, we heard youd offered on (name of another house across the road) but it was on for a lot more wasn't it". We've also had a man who lived in our house 30 years ago say he might pop round for old times sake, totally uninvited....
It was a real eye opener on how nosy people are, and how open they are about it!

I understand these CFs exist , I'm just shocked by how many people in the comments think they’re forced to oblige or placate them

Humannat · 21/05/2024 16:20

Jllllllll · 18/05/2024 20:33

It’s weird you care so much and don’t just say ‘I’ve moved into …… “ 🤷‍♀️

It’s fascinating how different we all are, I find this response so unhinged 😂

laraitopbanana · 21/05/2024 14:23

It is friendly chat :)

the mum try to get you in her circle. That is actually quite nice except if you want to be left alone.

if you want the friendship, chat back, you will find out if she is nice.

Papyrophile · 20/05/2024 21:25

I live in a village, and I've been here for almost 35 years, and have lived in two houses. I know my NDN up and downhill quite well. But because we moved out of the village centre 28 years ago, newcomers to the centre assume that we are here for Air BnB. It's generally quite amusing, especially when they canvass for the parish council.

bows101 · 20/05/2024 21:07

I just love, that no matter what part of the UK, village life is the same 🤣

LT1982 · 20/05/2024 19:59

StockpotSoup · 19/05/2024 22:13

This would drive me absolutely nuts! I would be tempted to be as evasive as possible, just to annoy them. Or deflect the questions in some way - for example, with the car thing, say “Oh wow, you must have quite a memory! I can barely remember what my own car looks like, never mind a stranger’s! Let’s hope I’m never called as a witness, eh?”

Failing that, give outlandish answers to get them excited. “Oh, I don’t really live anywhere as such; I tend to just crash wherever I fall down at the end of the last bottle”.

🤣🤣🤣

LT1982 · 20/05/2024 19:56

Not strange to ask once where you live. Very strange to be specifically looking for your car several times! Stalker alert

Should probably add I live in a city and have never spoken to my adjoining neighbour on one side since he moved in about 8 years ago and that's exactly how I like it 🤣. Sadly do see/hear my neighbours on the other side constantly

fetchacloth · 20/05/2024 19:11

Sounds typical of village life to me.
I was born and grew up in a village. I got totally fed up with everyone knowing my business and having virtually no privacy, I couldn't wait to leave 🙄
I now live in a large town and could never go back to village life.

Daphnis156 · 20/05/2024 17:00

Sounds a dreadful, nosy and petty place.
Don't answer any questions, reply vaguely, and say "very nice" a lot. Never admit to remembering anyone who speaks to you.
They are so limited they'll think you're potty, and make up all the details about you for themselves.

40plusmama · 20/05/2024 16:24

This isn't weird for village life. Coming from an abusive relationship, embrace it and make new friends. Just be on your guard for the local gossips 😂 we're about to have the villagers after us with their pitchforks... we're daring to move from village centre to, god forbid, a new build on the edge of the village 😱😱 helppppp

Doone22 · 20/05/2024 16:01

Standard village etiquette. Nothing to do with snobbery but just trying to work out where everyone is. Especially if you have kids it's important to do the same so they make friends within walking distance

sososotocvfgft · 20/05/2024 11:07

Pettyman · 18/05/2024 16:34

So they can look on rightmove and nose around the inside of your house?

They've already done this! Grin

StarsHideYourFir3s · 20/05/2024 10:32

Elderflower14 · 19/05/2024 20:34

Ds2 is profoundly dead and autistic. It's true that it takes a village to raise a child.
When I was teaching him independence skills I used to ring the shop and then walk halfway with him. I then put a note round his neck which said "Mumma knows where I am, please don't take me home." I put money in his wallet give him a list and send him off.
Our neighbour over the road became his adopted grandmother. Between her, his social worker and I we taught him what to do in an emergency. Because he couldn't dial 999 if there was ever an emergency we taught him to go Grandma Edith and she had his Granny and Godmothers phone numbers. Thankfully we never needed to put this plan into place...

This is so sweet. I want to move to a village!

bringthecactusin · 20/05/2024 08:47

I'm remembering all the other happenings now!!

If only lived there about 3 days and I got an anonymous note through my door telling me to check the gas fire before I used it, because this person knew the previous owner had problems with it, and they didn't knew if I'd been informed.

And the first time I went to the local chippy, and it was locked and closed early with the woman mopping up inside. I tried the door and realised it was locked and she gave me daggers so I shouted "It says you're open til 8" and she shouted back "We've closed early" and I asked why and she said "BECAUSE EVERYONE'S BEEN IN!" 🤣🤣

bringthecactusin · 20/05/2024 08:42

I lived in a small village several years ago, and in doing my bit to fit I went along to the village 'cheese and mince pie evening' the first Christmas I moved it. I'd only lived lived there a few months at the time. Random man I got talking to, who lived in other side of village, cheerfully informed me that apparently I was quite the enigma as no-one knew what time I usually went to bed, as I walked upstairs too quietly for the neighbours to hear. 🤣🤣

Answersunknown · 20/05/2024 00:43

Do they think you have a school place that you shouldn’t have got?

id enjoy messing with their small mindedness if they keep it up….

Alicewinn · 20/05/2024 00:04

I find that by frequently over-sharing, people stop asking questions. The more evasive you are, the more you're like crack to them 😂

Mumofteenandtween · 19/05/2024 23:33

From reading Miss Marple I am fairly certain that your exact address will soon become highly relevant in the solving of a murder…..

apeaceofheaven · 19/05/2024 23:26

I lived in a village once it lasted a year.
I blood hated it.

MiniPumpkin · 19/05/2024 22:48

Welcome 🤗 I live in a village and lots of people talk like this. Everyone know who’s bought what house (and the number of the street) and who is buying there’s and so on. The person probably knows where you live if it’s a village, trust me 😂

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