Salt burn makes me worry for poor kids at ‘posh’ unis.

Pretending ain’t the real deal. Their accent, overconfidence, parents politics and cash give them away as posh, privately educated … and as for ‘street’ the labels they wear to dress ‘down’ show their privilege

Based on Saltburn alone, it should be the posh kids who are scared of the poor kids 😂

'If you think you're getting away I will prove you wrong...' etc

Every single posh kid I have met recently pretends to be “street” these days and they all wear the same tracksuits and hoodies so I think the chino look/quiffy hair and show off about your hols/your school has long gone. That was a thing in the 90s. The ones we know have all toned it down massively, they actually seem to hide it deliberately.

I was an ordinary girl at a posh uni and I would just like to say… I have forgotten almost all of Saltburn, save for the willy at the end.

I know what you mean, my son just went through the Uni system and every one on his course - this was Southampton was ‘posher’ than him.
He got used to it though and although his girlfriend’s parents are very well off his lifestyle to hers is very similar, working in London in City jobs.
If you can’t beat ‘em join’em OP.

I found it odd as well, nearly 60 percent of kids at oxbridge are state school. And balls are both not compulsory and you can get dresses very cheaply. I’m fairly sure if yours so upset at rhe thought of having your bed changed by a cleaner, you can ask to take your own linen and do it yourself.

I grew up in a home that looked almost exactly like Oliver's on Saltburn (who was very middle middle, prtending to be working class) and I went to Oxford around the same time the film was set. I had an AMAZING time.

I knew the odd very posh kid - but most of my friends were pretty middle class. I would also note that there were a lot of us who'd gone to private schools on financial aid or scholarships. I went to a private school my parents could never have afforded had I not been loaded up on bursaries.

" I wouldn’t have been able to afford all the balls and gowns you were expected to attend/ buy."

Sorry, but that's just bizarre. I was at Oxford 40 years ago and it really wasn't compulsory to go to balls (and if you did want to go, you could hire something very cheaply.)

In Saltburn its mentioned that every year Felix "picks" a charity case. Some guy he feels a bit sorry for and takes him home to the family.

I think Oliver had picked Felix out as his mark from the beginning and spun his story of poverty etc in order to be Felix's chosen person for the year in order to wheedle his way into the family. I think it was all planned out because Oliver was a calculated psychopath.

I think that some of the students probably picked up on that and found him creepy as a result and went on their gut instincts and avoided him.

No matter where your child goes there will be people who are more or less privileged than them that's just reality. Your child's ability to accept that and focus on getting what they want out of the experience and being strong enough to refuse to 'keep up' is going to be what sets them up well for life in general. Because in life the same rules apply.

You watch the full film? Oliver wasn't poor he just wasn't super rich. He was ostracized for being a creep and he lied about being poor.

I don't think that there will be a huge number of the stereotypical type of person you seem to be fearing.

Plenty of kids who've been through private schools take out loans for university and scrimp like everyone else.

What about the people on giant salaries who own £1m+ houses near wonderful state schools in the home counties? Their kids will be loaded at university as they haven't had to pay school fees. Will you be fearing these kids as well? Or is it only private school kids you think are horrible.

Spoiler - People are cunts from all walks of life. Just avoid the cunts and she'll be fine.

It does give that impression but good to read it’s not like that

I’m WC and went to a ‘posh’ uni- I found my tribe and your DC will too.
The posh wankers weren’t the kind of people I would have hung out with anyway, they were often not very bright, and clueless about the real world!

Saltburn was created by a very posh woman who seems to think that all middle class people are looking at posh people in awe. I was at Bristol in the 1990s and it was full of posh kids who were perfectly nice, friendly and enjoyed going to the pub and nightclubs as much as us state school kids.

Exactly! Dd is very defensive of her best friend whose parents are mind blowing wealthy “its not her fault!” Cracks me up!

Sure, but so what? You’ll find unpleasant people everywhere. ‘Stay in your lane in case you meet someone who thinks you’re not PLU’ isn’t much of a motto for life.

Posh people aren’t all awful! My kids are privileged and go to private school, and I’d hate to think people don’t want to go to uni with them in case they weren’t inclusive. If I said I didn’t want my children to go to uni with less well-off people I would (rightly!) be torn to shreds on here!

Yes, you may come across people who boast about the privileged life they have, but don’t lump everyone into one group of snobs.

Okay. I work at Oxford University, have done for 10 years. 1) trust me, it's nothing like the film. I actually found the film annoyingly inaccurate. 2) honestly, it's like any other university, just with higher entry grades and a few odd traditions. Oxford tries really hard to shake the idea that it's just for posh rich kids (and there are some of those, but it's certainly not the majority). Also, I work with students on a daily basis and I think with everyone going a bit green and a bit more community-minded, the idea of getting in because you were rich is a bit embarrassing these days and doesn't mean you're going to be the cool kid, at all.

IME lots of students (even from "posh" backgrounds) won't have lots of money, holidays etc. Generally (and very sadly) what stands out more is a thick regional accent, certain fashion styles, attitudes etc rather than money. There might be a bit of "which school did you attend" in freshers, but most "posh kids" won't be trying to make anyone feel less than (always some horrible, as there will be from all echelons).
Generally, would say don't let it put you off. There are all sorts at all universities. Be yourself + you'll find your people (who may end up being from a different social class anyway!)

I would say don’t worry.
Our daughter went to a prestigious London uni and met some fab people. There were a LOT of very well-off international students e.g. mummy and daddy paid their rents on flats in Covent Garden when they were at university, they got allowances etc. My daughter had to work throughout uni, while many others didn’t have to.
So there was financial disparity but she made some great, probably lifelong, friends and graduated last year.
the uppity kids were the ones from academic families where mum and dad were professors at top unis. She still made friends with them though :)
btw neither of us went to uni so i can totally understand. I turned down the oxbridge entrance exam myself in the 80s because we weren’t well off enough and I didn’t think I’d fit in.

Who said it never happens? It happens, and it happens in reverse. Just not the norm.

My teen Dd is state educated but socialises
in the private school set the only awful comments have come from boys at a top name public school 🙄. The public school girls and kids from normal private schools are not like that. So it’s naive to say this never happens now.

This is exactly how social mobility has been crushed in this country for 100s of years. It needs to stop.

I went to Exeter. It was not remotely ‘posh’.