All men cheat

Agree

Research suggests that, given equal opportunity, men and women cheat equally. The differentiator is really that women are more likely to be weighed down with caring responsibilities and/or financially dependent and thus have less opportunity.

I think that, like most things with humans, behaviour is complicated. Given the right stimulus and opportunity, the vast majority of humans are at least capable of cheating. Some have a lower threshold than others.

There does persist this impression that a kind, mild-mannered person somehow can't possibly succumb to sexual temptation - which itself exists in many forms.

I'm very sorry that happened to you.

I don't know...if there's one person prepared to sleep with and spend time with you, no reason to imagine there couldn't possibly be any others.

I reckon most people are ultimately self serving enough that there's an offer out there good enough to swing anyone, it's just that most people would probably never get that offer

😂

If I may....my opinion may be unpopular.
My husband is three decades older and we have been married for 20 years. No cheating whatsoever on his side.
But here comes the however: I personally never felt I wanted to stay "intimate" with one and only person through my productive age, regardless of how old they are.
So from this point of view, I kinda understand these men, not mentioning morality and duties towards family.
We are all human beings with relatively short lives.
Yes, personally I don't condemn the urge to "cheat".

I think that people move in circles where either lots of people cheat or lots don't and so you assume your experience is normal. For example, I know people who work in some professions or industries say there's loads of affairs at work. Whereas, I know of only one definite affair and a couple of creepy men at work but otherwise it's not common at all (and everyone was shocked at the affair and the man's boss was quite vocal about how unprofessional he thought it was). So the social structure at work is quite disapproving of affairs so there is not the opportunity that there might be in other workplaces.

Ooooh OP, I said the same to a friend, that my husband would never cheat, I trust him blah blah... Utterly smug about my marriage
Turns out he was cheating.
You never ever know

Not all men cheat, not all women cheat. However, I believe that in the right circumstances, with the opportunity presented at a particular time that more would cheat than you think, including some that you would never expect. I think it's very naive to think that someone never would under any circumstances at any point in their life.

How awful for you.
It doesn't diminish my confidence in my own relationship though.

It's a load of bollocks. I hate this 'all men' crap. How offensive it would be to say, 'All women nag,' or 'All women are materialistic'.

Men and women are individual human beings. Some of them are decent, with decent moral standards. Some of them are not.

She's deluding herself if she thinks 'he can't help cheating because he has a penis'.

Whatever you think let her say whatever she wants in relation to it. I’ve had two different boyfriends cheat on me years and years ago, both you would have expected it from tbh😅Personally I’d think the percentage to be lower than most people think but it’s not something you can argue with a lot of women as they have had bad experiences

Thanks @Porageeater

I’m so sorry that happened to you.

I was married for 26 years and I also knew my husband inside and out. We had a lovely, strong marriage and were each other's best friends. He was very much a "bloke's bloke" and interested in cars, real ale and growing vegetables. He wouldn't even know how to flirt with a woman even if he wanted to. I was a hundred trillion, gazillion per cent certain he would never cheat. Actually it never even crossed my mind, not even remotely.

Then I discovered him talking to someone online. He'd been meeting her when he went away to work. That day my world fell apart. Everything I thought was real suddenly wasn't. My knees gave way and I passed out on the kitchen floor. To be honest I'm amazed the shock and pain of it all didn't kill me.

I don't thinkbits given that all men will cheat, but I think everyone, men and women, will cheat given the right set of circumstances. What they are will be different for everyone for some it will be because they can, for others it will take a lot more.

For example, a situation where someone offers a listening ear at a time when you're under intense pressure at work, partner is distracted with issues of their own, the relaionship is a having a shaky patch, a shared interest, a feeling that someone "gets" you, then add in some alcohol...no-one will ever know, this is kinder than breaking her heart and telling her I want someone else....

I always used to say that my partner of well over 10 years would never cheat, he was the kindest, most mild mannered man you could ever meet. Would be the first to offer to go shopping for elderly neighbours, was loving, gentle etc. 10 years and a baby on....and he cheated.

Obviously this is only my personal experience, but I don't always think there's a type.

It's impossible to know the mind of another, you can take very educated guesses but you can't know

I wouldn’t do it, the idea of a one night stand or having sex with someone I’m not in a relationship with doesn’t appeal to me in the slighest.

Is it not true that the majority of relationships experience cheating, but is that having sex with someone else, or is it also kissing, emotional affairs etc.

Not all men cheat.
Not all women cheat.
But a lot of people cheat.

I have ZERO tolerance for it personally.
Happens once, you're gone forever.

My husband did, and it wrought devastation on our family. One of the many reasons that I 100% know that my sons, all in their 30s, would not.

I'm not sure that's true. Anecdotally I think a lot do. Especially if you'd count a drunk kiss a cheating. And if you count partners as well as husbands I'd bet it's over 50%

I think your friend is correct and you are very naive

Of course not all men cheat. Many arseholes do. But there are plenty that would never dream of it.
Shes trying to make herself feel better by saying this.