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Will I throw this one back ... social media activity

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gona · 15/05/2024 07:42

I'm chatting to a man on WhatsApp. Busy schedules have not all owed us to meet for the last couple of weeks but we have plans for next week to meet up.
Before I meet any date I do my best to find out as much about
then as I can via people and sm.

He is as true as his word regarding his plans and commitments and I can see this via social media.

I have been catfished once and if I had done my research on others I would have saved my self a lot of stress. This is why I do this.

This man has given me no reason to believe he isn't who he says he s but I had a look on his socials.

They are chock full of sports, footie, current affairs reposts. Nothing sinister but there are, out of hundreds of likes, a couple of posts/ photos of curvy women. Nothing very revealing or sexual, just women with large breasts. Possibly three likes photos out of hundreds.
Is this a red flag ? Would you throw him back?
I'm
Out of this scene for a very long time so appreciate your views. Thanks.

OP posts:
mrsdineen2 · 15/05/2024 08:16

gona · 15/05/2024 08:15

It twitter.
I have no shame in looking up potential dates so your insults wash over me. These are public accounts look into.

I am in Ireland and the last man I chatted to had one post after another about republicans / IRA etc..
Other have x rated videos liked continuously.
These are not the men for me. I rather find out early what I'm dealing with so don't waste my time or not , as the case may be
An easy decision to block them there and then .
His few are of attractive busty women.

Entirely your perogative, and I wouldn't be keen on those men either. It's a good idea. But you did lie in your opening post about why you look.

BippityBopper · 15/05/2024 08:15

FGS, OP has looked at his PUBLIC social media account. Many people do it and I think it's a perfectly acceptable way to screen a potential love interest.

OP, I really wouldn't see him liking a few pics of women as a red flag. Go for it.

Original poster
gona · 15/05/2024 08:15

It twitter.
I have no shame in looking up potential dates so your insults wash over me. These are public accounts look into.

I am in Ireland and the last man I chatted to had one post after another about republicans / IRA etc..
Other have x rated videos liked continuously.
These are not the men for me. I rather find out early what I'm dealing with so don't waste my time or not , as the case may be
An easy decision to block them there and then .
His few are of attractive busty women.

OP posts:
ForAPicnic · 15/05/2024 08:12

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This has been deleted by MNHQ for breaking our Talk Guidelines - previously banned poster.

Petesbowtie9 · 15/05/2024 08:11

RachelGreep87 · 15/05/2024 08:03

Fiona?

Lol 👏🏻👏🏻

MightyGoldBear · 15/05/2024 08:10

Yep I'd throw him back for that. To me it suggests he views women as objects not people. It's usually the tip of the iceberg of that behavior.

Just because something is normalised doesn't mean it's healthy.

It would give me strong indications that he views porn as well. Which would be a deal breaker for me. Its absolutely fine to have boundaries op even when they don't match up to others boundaries. We are all different.

MidnightPatrol · 15/05/2024 08:09

You are massively overthinking this.

pinkwaterbottle9 · 15/05/2024 08:08

Kelly51 · 15/05/2024 08:05

You're worried about him?
sent from iphone

😬

Kelly51 · 15/05/2024 08:05

You're worried about him?
sent from iphone

mrsdineen2 · 15/05/2024 08:04

DaisyHaites · 15/05/2024 08:03

How do you quickly and easily see someone’s likes on Social Media??

I'm not OP, but twitter profiles have a separate "likes" tab.

DaisyHaites · 15/05/2024 08:03

How do you quickly and easily see someone’s likes on Social Media??

Rockfordpeach · 15/05/2024 08:03

Absolutely not. I think you seem quite intense, why would liking a picture of an attractive woman be a red flag? He's literally just expressed admiration for their publically posted picture.

mrsdineen2 · 15/05/2024 08:03

If being catfished in the past was the only reason you did this, you'd be content he's real and you wouldn't be posting here.

Who are the women in these posts, OP? I'm not asking you to name them, but I have liked posts of some singers and actresses I enjoy. If you looked at them you could probably describe some of them as curvy women. But that's a bit different to him going on to some "hot models daily" type page and clicking like just because of their breasts.

Which is no bad thing in isolation either I suppose, but if we got serious I wouldn't want our family and mutual friends seeing that on his social media.

RachelGreep87 · 15/05/2024 08:03

Fiona?

Lanawashington · 15/05/2024 08:02

How can you see what photos he’s liked? I thought Facebook and instagram got rid of that ages ago. Unless you are keeping track of every post that comes up on your Facebook news feed

ThisOldThang · 15/05/2024 08:01

cherry2727 · 15/05/2024 07:54

You sound like the red flag!

Agreed.

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gona · 15/05/2024 08:01

I'm the red flag because I want to see if I'm wasting my time with a sleaze/ creep/ weirdo / catfish before I meet him??
His is a public account.
But ok .

OP posts:
GrumpyOldCrone · 15/05/2024 08:01

It’s normal male online behaviour, and therefore I’d avoid him. I’m so bored of men who think that just because everyone does it, it must be ok.

bbqsalt · 15/05/2024 08:00

gona · 15/05/2024 07:51

No I haven't spent hours . I literally skimmed through them. These are all likes, not posts not commenter not reposts.
Just some likes.

sure you did

Therapy4all · 15/05/2024 07:59

You're the red flag here

Mothership4two · 15/05/2024 07:57

2 or 3 likes of women with big busts and 100s of normal random things. No I wouldn't think they were red flags, in fact, his profile sounds positively tame.

cherry2727 · 15/05/2024 07:54

You sound like the red flag!

FuckOffTom · 15/05/2024 07:52

SocksAndTheCity · 15/05/2024 07:45

Heterosexual man likes tits shocker.

Grin
Original poster
gona · 15/05/2024 07:51

No I haven't spent hours . I literally skimmed through them. These are all likes, not posts not commenter not reposts.
Just some likes.

OP posts:
RachelGreensHair · 15/05/2024 07:50

Now I'm wondering about my "likes" pretty sure there's probably topless pics of footballers and actors that I would have clicked like on, I am single and didn't realise I'm a walking red flag cos of it.

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