Will I throw this one back ... social media activity

I don't know how I would feel about this. Would it make a difference if they were celebrities? Maybe one positive to think is that he's clearly not shy about sharing what he likes, and what he likes seems pretty tame.

He 'liked' a couple of pictures of fully clothed attractive women, out of hundreds and hundreds? I really can't see the issue here at all.

I've definitely hit 'Like' on more than a few pictures of male actors/musicians/sportsmen that I fancy!

I've also Liked pictures of my male friends - not because I fancy them, but just because I'm pleased see my friends' faces (male and female) in my feed. And I compliment my friends if I think they look good. A male friend of mine has lost five stone recently and posted an 'after' picture of himself with no shirt on, and I clicked 'Like' on that and told him he was looking great. My own partner clicks Like on pictures of my friends too.

It wasn’t porn though, it was 3 likes out of hundreds. Hardly a habit.

That's my view of it too - I'd have thought fairly common in real life, but we seem to be in the minority here - posters either condemn looking near an image of a woman full stop, or they're apparently totally okay with the oversharing.

Do most men look at porn in private? I'm very sure they do. But it's just supremely embarrassing to publicly 'like' this stuff, and no self-respecting man I know does it.

It's not that clear what the photos are but I'd be put off if his interests are footy, sports and tits mainly. Not very interesting.

Surely context matter in this.

I am on a I love Italy site - on there there are intermingled with the scenic shots - some of women posing, absolutely nothing to do with Italy but because its a woman posing in Italy its content...

Or are these posts off Pornhub and its women who are being posted as big busted beauties in your area now?

It all depends on what the content is and where its from - did he just like it or repost it? More info needed i think...

I'm not online dating but if I was I would deffo check our their social media before meeting if it was public!! I don't see the issue with that whatsoever.

Christ is this true, these three pics aren’t of women glamour modelling or porn, they just tend to have large boobs? And it’s 3 out of hundreds?

Fuck me, a single man likes 3 pictures of attractive women.

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Looking at what your new date has liked on social media is good practice imo. Gives you a good warning of conspiracy theorists, political nutcases, closet misogynists and sleazes who like 500 onlyfans thirst traps a day.

This doesn't sound like the last one. If it's only 2-3 out of 100s it's hardly a defining personality trait. I've liked several thirst traps in my time - friends who have hit the gym and are looking buff (in a "you go girl/boy" kind of way); singers and actors I like as artists but who have a good look going on, etc.

Crikey.

How do you know those women aren’t his friends? If they’re not sexual photos, you’re asking if a man having a female friend is ok really….

This

Nope, not one bit.

What? You have got to be joking.

The red for me is possibly the not meeting up yet. I did internet dating on and on for 10 years and its a nightmare. So many time wasters, cheaters, catfish and weirdos. Men who have zero interest in meeting but just want to talk!

I wasted so so much time chatting and building up online emotional attachments to men who never had any intention of meeting. My best advice is to do your due diligence and meet quickly. Trust me if someone wants to meet they will and only then can you tell if you click with them etc

We're talking about two different things then. I didn't think it was liking a few friends photos (who just happen to be curvy) which would be fine if single, and they weren't young strangers he'd added or thirsty photos.
So yeah if it was a mates regular photo it wouldn't be a red flag to me.

@Disturbia81

I got the impression they weren't normal friends photos, but thirsty photos.

Well as OP said they weren't sinister, revealing or sexual, I assumed they were just photos of women. He probably did fancy those 2 or 3 women. He's a single guy. Still don't see what the problem is?

Not personally as I'm married. My comments were aimed at a single man about what (I assume) women may possibly perceive when looking at a potential date's SM. My opinion as I haven't dated in decades... and you know exactly what I meant.

If your limit is less than 1% (and probably much less) of someone's overall feed then that seem (to me) incredibly strict. If the photos were salacious then that puts a different shine on it but that isn't what OP said.

Assuming this man has trawled the internet to w*nk over ordinary photos of women also seens (to me) a tad judgemental. And he is potentially 'liking' photos of women he knows.