Will I throw this one back ... social media activity

It's true we don't know the context. But it wouldn't match my values so I'd throw him back personally. This has obviously caused a gut reaction for op so it would suggests it doesn't meet her values too.

The context does indeed matter. If they are completely random women he doesn't know. The only thing he is 'liking' are their physicality. He knows nothing else about them. The same in which he might like a car or watch it's purely visual. Why like them? Why not appreciate they are attractive without liking them? Scroll past. Has he even given it much thought or is that kind of behavior automatic to him?

If he knows them then yes it may be different intentions. Perhaps there was comments too of supporting his female friends/relatives. Who knows. It certainly didn't give op that impression.

There's enough people in the world that we can find someone who shares our values or stay happily single.

I put porn in the same category as abusing drugs and alcohol for how damaging it is. So that would be a hard no for me. We are all different but it doesn't need to be a joke/shocking for someone else's values to be different to yours.

Sorry you’re getting such a hard time here op. Having been round the dating app circuit too many times with far far too many people who were not who they seemed, I think looking up their socials before meeting is perfectly reasonable.

I don’t think liking a couple of pics of women he finds attractive is a red flag, I do think you are being a bit overly cautious to think it is… but that’s why you came here to test the water.

I hope your date goes well x

EDIT: Date not fate 🙈

Here's where you might be being less than cautious - you have absolutely no knowledge of whether his reasons are genuine other than what he has told you.

If you've been catfished before please don't believe everything you're told without question.

Also sorry but we’re talking about him viewing woman as objects but here you are using the words ‘throw this one back.’ Imagine a man saying that about a woman, you’d all for sure have your knickers in a twist about that. But hey, men are the enemy right MN? 😂

Ah ok, so if I liked a pic of male celeb or model shirtless/open-shirted that would make me classless ??

The point is moot anyway as I don't do socials but if I did I would and not give a shiny one.

Agree, we are all grown ups we all know that men like looking at naked women. But for me it screams thick as pigshit - like buying the Sun.

Yeah I’m sorry but you sound like the weirdo here 🤣 stop creeping through peoples things and get to know the guy in person. I can see why you’re single if you are constantly picking people apart like this.

Some of my male friends sm is downright bizarre, sometimes smutty and bears no resemblance to their real lives. They’re really lovely solid safe people. Liking a photo is no red flag to me.
A lot of my female friends sm however leave me wondering ‘who’s that?’!!!! Rare to find a true photo without being heavily filtered. I don’t recognise them.
Nothing at all wrong with checking someone out on a public platform. It shows common sense. Employers do it.
Go check this guy out - he might be the person you are looking for.

@MightyGoldBear Omg seriously? How is liking around 3 photos of good looking women (we don't know in what context he has liked them or who they are) suggestive of him viewing women as objects? I think 99% of men (and a lot of women, (shock horror) watch porn at some point too, whether they admit to it or not!!

Don't blame you for being cautious and checking. I'd meet him before you decide.

I'd be more worried about you fb stalking him to have been able to see out of 'hundreds' of likes there are about 3 of big breasted women!!

I don't thinknits a good look. I mean, it's not hard to save looking at women for other accounts and apps, doing it on fb which is family friendly is a bit of a sign it's so normalised he thinks it's acceptable. My cousin used to post women pics and his mum was so embarrassed she told him she wouldn't be his friend on there if he continued. No one wants to see what a 20st 40yo gets his rockers off to when he's just had a baby.

Yeah it's so basic isn't it, like "ugg ugg" 😂

I mean, no guy with an ounce of class is going to be liking photos of beautiful busty women on social media. It's not classy, it's not respectful. As a pp said it's basic behaviour and I would not be interested in someone like that.

Yes, WHY just why? You can enjoy the pictures but to publicly reaffirm your enjoyment with a "like" baffles me.

When peoples social media profiles are public why do it? I wouldn't bother wasting time on him frankly.

I'd picture him on a date, sitting at a restaurant table, scrolling his phone.. Enough to put me off for good. Nah loser!

It's pretty standard advice to have a look at someone's socials when OLD. The OP does not say she spent hours. Why claim she is doing anything unusual?

He just sounds basic. Not a pervert or anything but dull and low end. Your instinct is telling you something and it isn't necessarily that he's awful, just unrefined. Find someone who will keep you interested. You're not going to want to stay up talking all night to this man, I suspect

I don’t think there’s any issue with this at all and his ‘likes’ are indicative of absolutely nothing whatsoever . For me though you’d be a massive red flag. You come across as very intense. IRA sympathisers and police haters are not even comparable to a person who finds women attractive liking pictures of attractive women . You seem very uptight

I would see this as a red flag. My ex did this and I convinced myself I was being overanxious. I was always uncomfortable about it, but quieted my discomfort and wrote off my gut instinct.. mainly due to feedback like what your getting from some posters here - that I was crazy.

He turned out to be a man who used prostitutes and cheated. I think it really signifies someone who objectifies women. And your gut is telling you something - so trust it.

Matthew Hussey once said, why would you want to commit time do a guy a commits his spare time to that? There are plenty of blokes out there with more more emotional intelligence/ respect for women / better hobbies. Go find them.

That's exactly the type of creepy weirdness that most men will want to avoid.

Yes, I thought it was a bit cheeky of the poster to assume you’d ‘spent hours’ looking on his social media. The suggestion was that you are a bit obsessive and have loads of time to waste. It doesn’t take long to have a look at someone’s Facebook or similar.

Meet him in the flesh the old fashioned way and see how you feel, nothing to lose

I mean it shows he's a red blooded male perhaps?

I'd be relieved. Especially if you have big boobs like you'd said, so urs not some kind of paranoia that he has a "type"

I'd give him a chance in person before writing him off as a weirdo because he's liked a couple of attractive big breastfed women.

Men are just human like the rest of us. 😅

on another thread i was on 😕

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What are you talking about that poster hasn't said any of those things?

Bahahahahaha!