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to LOATHE the word "Situationship"?

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PyongyangKipperbang · 15/05/2024 00:40

Its nonsensical!

Surely its "Going out with...."

So you have Dating ( going on dates, maybe sleeping together but not exclusive), then Going Out With (not living together,but not seeing other people and developing/developed feelings), then Relationship (for me this is more than 6 months but less than 2 years because...) then Long Term Relationship (whether living together/married or not).

Its a bloody stupid word. To me it would mean, if I had to define it, people who have been in a LTR but have to stay in their current arrangement for practical reasons, such a cant afford to run two homes or their house wont sell or similar. The first few times I read it, I assumed that that was what it meant and had to Google it.

Probably going to be told IABU but it really bugs me!

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OfcourseitsaNC · 15/05/2024 06:12

I agree. It's a stupid word.

But you've missed out so many options @PyongyangKipperbang 🤣

By your definition, I'm in a LTR with my FWB. I'm really not, as it's not exclusive (another word I hate) and the word relationship implies we have commitment to each other. We don't. We hang out to have fun and have sex.

I tell people "The man I'm seeing..." Suitably vague.

ChockysChimichanga · 15/05/2024 06:12

Totally with you on this. I hate it too. Just say you’re dating someone, fgs.

AngeloMysterioso · 15/05/2024 06:12

LaPalmaLlama · 15/05/2024 06:08

It’s one of those words which have become meaningless because it’s been used out of context so much- originally it seemed to imply a relationship or friendship that is highly dependent on circumstances and wouldn’t endure beyond those particular circumstances. An extreme example would be you both work on a 2 man oil rig with no Wi-Fi 🤣. Or that person you chat to for an hour when your dc has ballet, but you know if your dc quit ballet you’d never see them again.

This is how I’ve always thought of it too. A relationship (not necessarily romantic) that is driven mainly by the situation around it.

BranchGold · 15/05/2024 06:09

I can understand if you don’t like the word.

But then the fact you offer ‘Going out with’ as the legitimate alternative probably just tells me you grew up in a certain era and haven’t accepted that life moves on.

The reality is most ‘situationships’ are most definitely not ‘going out’ anywhere together. It’s mostly a hanging out at each others homes on and off and a relationship conducted over messages that doesn’t really develop.

Beefcurtains79 · 15/05/2024 06:09

It’s for people who are a booty call but can’t admit it.

LaPalmaLlama · 15/05/2024 06:08

It’s one of those words which have become meaningless because it’s been used out of context so much- originally it seemed to imply a relationship or friendship that is highly dependent on circumstances and wouldn’t endure beyond those particular circumstances. An extreme example would be you both work on a 2 man oil rig with no Wi-Fi 🤣. Or that person you chat to for an hour when your dc has ballet, but you know if your dc quit ballet you’d never see them again.

lemonmeringueno3 · 15/05/2024 06:03

It was easier when you were asked on a date and thereafter were boyfriend/girlfriend until you lived together (partner) or got married.

VestibuleVirgin · 15/05/2024 05:38

It's another word that is used to give the impression of intelligence where there is little, and to try and label every aspect of life
Completely nonsensical

Pieceofpurplesky · 15/05/2024 02:03

I also find the term and concept of exclusive weird.

utilitarianism · 15/05/2024 01:16

I'm not certain I'd understand that differentiation between dating and going out with, but I do agree that "situationship" looks silly. I'd assume it was another version of "it's complicated" (also strange, imo) and/or a FWB situation.

alpenguin · 15/05/2024 01:02

I’ve heard it used outside of any attraction based relationship- so odd platonic situations - still gives me the cringe tho.

SwedishEdith · 15/05/2024 00:58

I quite like it and am surprised it's taken this long to become a word. It seems so obvious now it exists even though I'm not sure when it's meant to be used. I'd assume it's that stage when you're not quite sure if you're in a relationship yet. Or an affair.

DeeCeeCherry · 15/05/2024 00:55

Its a stupid word and I cringe when I hear it. Normally means theyre having sex with someone and filled with angst because they want commitment but their sex partner doesn't. & they can't accept that. Its right up there with grown men and women actually writing "It's Complicated" as their FB status.

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