Been together 6 years, we have 2.5 yo and 5mo. due to get married this year, have a mortgage and a dog.
We’ve really struggled I’d say sinc e our first. We got back to a good place then I had to terminate a pregnancy for personal reasons which I know my fiance resents me for (it was his baby too).
I feel like he hates me like I live with someone who hates me. He resents me I can see it
We conflict on parenting styles , he’s so strict and I’m more of a gentle touch. Our son gets in our bed because he asks for me and wakes, my fiance thinks I should leave him to cry and he’d go back asleep? I think this I absurd
anyway, he says things to me and says he’d just be marrying me for the kids. I’m making him deeply unhappy. I piss him off? But tbh it doesn’t take much. He snaps at everyone. He won’t speak to a therapist because “they don’t know what they’re fucking doing”
But he constantly throws splitting up and cancelling a wedding in my face - yet has booked his stag?
I’ve asked could we work on things. He says he doesn’t know how it’s not worth it
He says “how can I work on it” I’ve explained to him, then he just says he doesn’t know if I’m worth it
i said any relationship you’d be in would require work and he said he’d just die alone then?
we’ve both lost our sex drives. I think he forgets we have 2 young kids which demand a lot. We have jobs(I am on mat leave) a house to run erc
its a lot. But he just wants to quit