to turn supermarket delivery away when they ring on my door bell two hours early?

I can't see the problem in him asking. You might have been happy to have the delivery earlier. And it was helpful of him to put the stuff in your bags for you.

He didn't coerce you into anything. You either needed to say it wasn't convenient or accept the delivery, which is what you chose to do. He asked a question. You could have said no.

I completely understand this. I am disabled, housebound, had a delivery booked which did the same to me too. I had no one there to take order in at that time, and had to ring my mum to come over and help. The delivery driver was very pushy saying he could come in house and put shopping away, which I refused. I felt very uncomfortable.

U order at a particular time for a reason so I.understand where yiu are coming from OP

Totally agree with this. Just get him to leave it and take it in when you can and are ready. Its really not a big deal in my view, things won't go off if they have to spend 30 mins outside. Why are we all so precious these days?

You sound like hard work, just take the delivery fgs.

You should make a complaint.

This is why I order for after lunch on the Day i know I’m to be in. Different issues but I too due to chronic illness/disability really struggle in the morning. It takes a while before I’d be well enough to move shopping so iBook a 2-3pm slot which means even if it did come early I’d b ready. I shouldn’t have to feel that I need to but it makes me feel better and more in control to have a buffer.

the truth is we shouldn’t be put in that situation!

I had one lately that turned up an hour early and then refused to carry my cat litter bags and multipack cat food tins to the door. "I’m on a timer love, you'll have to help me, I’m not lifting that"
I carried all of the heavy items on my order from the van to the door myself, plus two crates of other bits. He took a lightweight crate containing small items and was gleeful telling me that his next delivery was to a flat who'd ordered several crates of beer and he wasn’t going to bother. He called me ten mins later thinking I was the guy he was next delivering to. Upon telling him I was his last customer he chuckled telling me that he'd cancelled the guys delivery, he'd have to wait to be refunded.
Really pissed me off. I don’t mind helping but it's only this guy that refuses to bother. I've had him before with smaller orders and he's always had something to say that criticises. Don’t do the fucking job then!

I've been getting my Tesco deliveries 1 or 2 hours early too. I feel pressured to accept it early as I'm actually at home, but it's been in the middle of giving my toddler dinner, or sometimes cooking it, or even during the school run for older dc, so the timing is pretty crucial. Generally I arrange it for after DH gets home, so he can deal with the groceries and I can keep an eye on the dcs. They do always phone or text ahead but it's still annoying. We get a week's worth of shopping (for a family of 5) in one delivery so it takes quite lot of time to put away, and I have to deal with fridge/freezer stuff immediately.

Of course you can tell the driver you don't want to take it early. You're a customer that's a good enough reason, you neednt disclose your disability.

I also wouldn't get upset at them though. For a lot of people, they might find it handy having it come early so it'd be a win win.

Please don't feel bad about either yourself or the driver it's just one of those things, nothing personal on either side ❤️

Only unethical if you install without telling them.

If my neighbour wanted to do this for the reasons you have given, I wouldnt have a problem with it. But then I really dont get why people lose their shit about "invasion of privacy" over a Ring doorbell. Unless you are doing something illegal, what does it matter?!

I quite enjoyed "ablutions" and "decanting." 🤓

OP, let management know of your dilemma and thank them for their thoughtfulness to drop off early with regrets that you can't accept the delivery before X. Perhaps they can deliver across the road later?

Can you not just put the bags ready in the porch for him if he does arrive early. Leave note advising him and tell him to secure the porch door when he leaves.
Don’t really get the big deal, or the need to complain.

Fair enough. Your point doesn’t change my mind.

Tesco always rings first to ask if they can deliver early. They are very considerate. Could you swap?

Tesco bring mine, they are my superheroes. I struggle a bit in supermarkets, delivery is a lifesaver for me. Sometimes they come early but they always phone and ask first. Occasionally they are late and they always let me know. A while ago there were massive roadsworks near us, our one way street was closed for more than a month with a very complicated diversion. They got to us every week bar one when they took it back to the store. They offered to try again but we took pity and picked it up. It was all packed and ready for us so not a big deal. I'm grateful every time the van pulls up

I had this a few times and I phoned customer services and complained. They were brilliant and couldn’t apologise enough. Also got a voucher off my shopping and I’ve not had an issue since.

Last year when I had a really bad back so found it hard to move and definitely couldn't put shopping away. I ordered a late afternoon delivery because I knew my adult DS would be there to.put things including frozen food away. The Ocado delivery driver tried to deliver at 11am. I struggled to get to the door but he kept banging. I told him I was unwell and he'd have to return at 4pm as I ordered as my DS was coming over to put my shopping away. He didn't look happy and mumbled about wasting fuel and bad for planet Earth. Normally I'd have accepted it but he did irritate me because I was in a lot of pain.

@eatsleepfarmrepeat very tone deaf and rude comment. The dressing gown obviously wasn't the problem, the disability was the barrier here. Lucky you, not to understand how disabilities can be in real life. And it is just that, purely luck alone, which means your are able enough to run after animals. Best not to throw casual judgement around because who knows how life pans out?

You are completely within your rights to not accept a delivery hours earlier than you booked regardless of the reason.

For what it's worth I think your reasoning is absolutely valid and the whole point of this service is to make your life easier not to make the delivery driver's life easier.

For those who are happy with the flexibility they can choose a 4 hour slot rather than a 1 hour slot.

I work from home and book my delivery for my lunch break but generally I'm happy to accept deliveries earlier but if I have a teams meeting I wouldn't answer the door and would expect them to come back at the time I had booked.

I'm just here to savour the delightful use of the word "dishabille" in the wild, thanks op 😁👌🏻 So much more pleasing than "in me old string vest and baggy bed leggings" ♥️

Some supermarkets.charge a cheaper rate for a green delivery because they're in the area anyway.

Yanbu at all to say no. It put you in a difficult position. I totally get it.

People who are not getting it don't understand disability and chronic illness.

I am a Tesco driver, and would get an absolute bollocking if I tried to pull this! We aren't even allowed to deliver out of order. Complain! He won't try that again.

I agree it's really annoying. I always book mine for 9-10 when the kids are in bed. The amount of times they turn up at 8pm. However I then found out on Tesco you can put a note on with instructions and I put do not come early without calling. This works for most of them. Aside from the idiot that turned up at 7.30 last week when I was at a school concert.

well other than not opening your doow, complain to the supermarket, and as suggested above, make a note in the delivery instructions that you are not able to accept early deliveries.

I don't do online supermarket deliveries often - don't you get cheaper deliveries if you order one close to another delivery nearby, or accept a more flexible delivery slot?