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Ooh! I have a question what merits a genuine parking diagram! The larks!

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SarahAndQuack · 14/05/2024 20:55

Yes, I may be too excited about this. It's actually not full of righteous indignation, but I'd still appreciate thoughts.

So, the context: I live in a small village, next door to the village school. Never had an issue. The school car park is tiny, so it's only for staff, and parents park on the street. Obviously, if I happen to be coming or going at drop off/pick up time, I know better than to expect to park outside my house and that is totally fine. I have a dropped kerb allowing access to a parking space by the side of my house. There is no shortage of on-street parking outside of school drop off/pick up times, but I do tend to have visitors park there, and I value having that access.

I don't get het up about people blocking the dropped kerb; a few parents have asked/apologised and I've always said don't worry, it's just a few minutes. This is especially true now as there are two sets of parents whose children have difficulties and need the car close so it's easiest to get them safely in; I don't have an issue with them parking over the dropped kerb. They are only there for a few minutes.

But, here's the thing. Recently, school have started putting traffic cones up outside the space running from the far end of the playground to the dropped kerb. I've heard from a parent on the PTA that this is because someone (not from the school, apparently?) complained about the school buses parking on the yellow zig-zag lines outside the school. The buses have always parked here, right by the gates, so children can get on and off with minimum fuss. TBH, I thought that was part of the purpose of those lines, but I am probably wrong! Now, the bus has to find a space, so school are reserving it with cones. They've been doing it for several days, and I'm finding each day the cones are closer and closer, and the last couple of days, if I'd wanted to cross the dropped kerb, I'd have had to move them. The cones stay out all the time, and I'm actually a bit annoyed.

I do love my DD's school and I am sure they're not being dicks for the sake of it, but I also don't want to end up in a situation where my gate constantly has traffic cones sitting in front of it!

AIBU? And indeed, WWYD?

Ooh! I have a question what merits a genuine parking diagram! The larks!
OP posts:
Sharptonguedwoman · 15/05/2024 09:15

Motnight · 14/05/2024 20:58

Contact the school and explain the issue.

10/10 for the diagram 😬

This. Ring the school and ask to speak to Admin or whoever. Personally, I'd go and see them and explain.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 15/05/2024 01:58

minou123 · 14/05/2024 22:17

Well I have to say @SarahAndQuack you not only not only let us all down, but you have let yourself down.

This is not what we expect of a good ole fashioned parking thread.

We need drama.
We need full.on passive aggressive arguments with the school mums.
We need strongly worded letters to the school.

And.....to top it all off, you give us a lovely, well drawn diagram, that we all understand.

Come on @SarahAndQuack , sort yourself out.

Sadly I viewed the diagram before reading. I saw the triangles and thought why is someone putting cones out. Then to be disappointed by tales of understanding and politeness. Sheeshh what is mumsnet coming to?!

@SarahAndQuack bring baked goods to the school staff and casually mention your small problem.

SarahAndQuack · 14/05/2024 22:20

minou123 · 14/05/2024 22:17

Well I have to say @SarahAndQuack you not only not only let us all down, but you have let yourself down.

This is not what we expect of a good ole fashioned parking thread.

We need drama.
We need full.on passive aggressive arguments with the school mums.
We need strongly worded letters to the school.

And.....to top it all off, you give us a lovely, well drawn diagram, that we all understand.

Come on @SarahAndQuack , sort yourself out.

Grin

I do apologise. It's just not right.

I guess I could put a passive-aggressive note in the local FB group asking who had the nerve to complain about the parking? (Quite tempted).

OP posts:
minou123 · 14/05/2024 22:17

Well I have to say @SarahAndQuack you not only not only let us all down, but you have let yourself down.

This is not what we expect of a good ole fashioned parking thread.

We need drama.
We need full.on passive aggressive arguments with the school mums.
We need strongly worded letters to the school.

And.....to top it all off, you give us a lovely, well drawn diagram, that we all understand.

Come on @SarahAndQuack , sort yourself out.

SarahAndQuack · 14/05/2024 22:12

LordSnot · 14/05/2024 22:08

Because it's a small village; I love the school; DD goes there. It is in the OP!
And what, you'll be shunned and the WI will refuse to sell you jam at the fete because you said please don't block my drive with cones?

Grin Oh, that made me laugh! Thank you.

No, just it feels ungracious, given they are lovely people whom I know, and as I understand it, they have been put in a difficult position. I don't know who complained about the school buses parking outside the gates, but it seems so silly - it's the most logical place for them to park.

OP posts:
LordSnot · 14/05/2024 22:08

Because it's a small village; I love the school; DD goes there. It is in the OP!
And what, you'll be shunned and the WI will refuse to sell you jam at the fete because you said please don't block my drive with cones?

SarahAndQuack · 14/05/2024 22:01

Motnight · 14/05/2024 20:58

Contact the school and explain the issue.

10/10 for the diagram 😬

Grin Thank you for the score!

I talk to the teachers most days and we have a friendly, chatty relationship - which actually makes it harder! Especially since what I want to say isn't really 'don't block my driveway' but rather 'um ... don't block my driveway, but also, how long am I going to sit staring at traffic cones from my garden?'

I know I don't own the road outside my garden, hence the AIBU bit.

OP posts:
SarahAndQuack · 14/05/2024 22:00

lljkk · 14/05/2024 21:21

"Please don't block my driveway with cones" : why is it more complicated than that?

Because it's a small village; I love the school; DD goes there. It is in the OP!

If they'd done it out of their own initiative, I'd feel fine saying I'd rather they didn't, but I do see that it must be complicated if the complaint has come from someone who doesn't have to do with the school.

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lljkk · 14/05/2024 21:21

"Please don't block my driveway with cones" : why is it more complicated than that?

LadyThistledown · 14/05/2024 21:10

It's illegal for them to block the entrance to your property OP. Technically it says 'no parking' but avoiding blockage is the spirit of the law.
https://www.gov.uk/guidance/the-highway-code/waiting-and-parking-238-to-252 (Rule 243).

I'd send them this and ask them to stop.

I don't see anything about zigzag lines w.r.t buses. It just says not to park there. A quick Google search says that sometimes they're for loading/unloading
https://www.emesa-m30.com/yellow-zigzag-line/
https://www.driving.co.uk/car-clinic/advice/illegal-park-zig-zag-lines-outside-schools/

Anyway, parking the bus isn't your problem. It could always park on the other side of the street with lollipop people doing their jobs and walking people across!

HappiestSleeping · 14/05/2024 20:58

Can you call the school and ask them not to put cones in front of your drive?

Motnight · 14/05/2024 20:58

Contact the school and explain the issue.

10/10 for the diagram 😬

Letsgetouttahere2023 · 14/05/2024 20:57

Couldn't they put the cones at the school field end?

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