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To think only my baby doesn't sleep

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tigerlily0 · 14/05/2024 02:49

11 month old and always been a crap sleeper. Literally since birth. Took us a long time to gently sleep train and stop sleep associations, worked well but then we went on holiday and it's all gone to 💩. She's also been teething or is poorly which has made it worse and we have done a full 360.

Her day routine is fine for her age, I still give her a feed at night sometimes 2. I'm just so tired. Everyone else's baby's just sleep, even with sleep associations - they just stay asleep. Currently lying here with baby at 2.40am while she looks at my face, she's only had 3 hour sleep and been awake nearly an hour, I gave up trying to put her back to sleep

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Helplessandheartbroke · 14/05/2024 04:27

I've been up since 12.50am with my 4 year old....

Chaosx3x · 14/05/2024 04:15

I’ve got three and they’ve all been awful sleepers. Middle one was the worst I think, around the age of yours she would wake up multiple times a night and often not go back to sleep for 2+ hours no matter what we did 🫠 she’s 3 now and generally sleeps through but is going through a phase of getting up at 5am every day so that’s fun. You’re not alone.

Mammma91 · 14/05/2024 04:12

Another 1 wide awake feeding a non sleeping baby. 7 weeks in and he’s bloody nocturnal like his eldest sibling was. I feel your pain OP - my eldest is 5 now and only started sleeping through when he was 3!!

Cindy1802 · 14/05/2024 04:10

You aren't alone OP. My baby is only 5 months but still sleeps like a newborn 🙃 my first baby was sleeping almost all night at this age, a phenomenon I can't even begin to imagine this baby doing now!

ineedtostopbeingdramaticfirst · 14/05/2024 04:09

My son slept terribly until around 18m. To survive I'd go to bed around 8pm. Dh would stay up til 12ish. I'd try to get around 5!hours, then from 1-7am it would be snatched sleep.

We tried everything. Two things helped it, stopping night feeds and getting rid of the dummy. As these were the reasons he was waking up.

But the main thing was teaching him to fall asleep himself. So if he did wake he could get back off to sleep.

Once we mastered that he slept 7-7.

Mt563 · 14/05/2024 03:44

Pretty common, the narrative that by 6 months/1 year most babies sleep through just has us all despairing in silence 😞

Overthebow · 14/05/2024 03:31

11 months is still so young, lots of babies don’t sleep well at that age. My almost 4 year old is still up in the night a lot. Also, look at us posting at 3am in the morning, you’re not alone being awake!

Flittingaboutagain · 14/05/2024 03:23

Babies are so different. My first was up every hour or two until 18 months. My second was doing longer stretches by 6 months. Sleep isn't linear. It's not bad then good. It's up and down until about 3. We're just sold a myth to get us back to work earlier.

YaMuvva · 14/05/2024 03:20

It feels like that but most people struggle I reckon. I remember at 13 months DD would wake every 90 minutes and stay up for 30 minutes so if I was lucky I got and hour in between. It nearly broke me.

Bit my advice is find people going through the same. To send a “Is baby keeping you up?” Text at 2am and getting a “yes” reply somehow makes you feel like you’re not going mad. Avoid the smug parents of sleepers. Their time will come in some way!

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