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Is it stranger she offered me her seat?

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wenotlikeus · 13/05/2024 22:16

I met up with two friends at the weekend, we don’t live close and we all stayed over at one their houses.

In the morning I came downstairs and both friends and my friends boyfriend (they live together) were sat in the living room chatting. The only spare seat was next to her boyfriend and she instantly said “would you like to sit here” offering her seat.

Was this odd?

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coxesorangepippin · 15/05/2024 02:09

Nope.

PeachCastle · 15/05/2024 02:07

WimseyofBalliol · 13/05/2024 22:22

Not in the least. Do you not offer guests a seat as a matter of course?

you've misunderstood

PeachCastle · 15/05/2024 02:06

GRex · 13/05/2024 22:32

Just checking in to get the explanation later about why OP's a bit funny about the boyfriend.

no, you've misunderstood

itsgettingweird · 14/05/2024 07:32

Sounds perfect.

I'd much rather have a seat to myself 🤣

35mph · 14/05/2024 04:51

It all depends on the seating really. I'd always prefer my own seat rather than share a sofa. You can't really talk to someone who's sitting next to you as well as you can face to face. I'd probably have done the same thing as the friend.
Offered a guest his/her own chair.

Having said that, I'm only saying this because I've been forced to think about it.
In the actual situation I wouldn't have given it a second thought/would have assumed the host was considering my comfort.

thebestinterest · 14/05/2024 04:27

wenotlikeus · 13/05/2024 22:30

Why would you offer a seat when there’s one already available?

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Knee-jerk reaction op 🤦🏾‍♀️

Jesus, now you’ve got me thinking about the many times I’ve offered a friend my seat whilst there was a free seat!

thebestinterest · 14/05/2024 04:24

What? Why would that be odd? 😂

ineedtostopbeingdramaticfirst · 14/05/2024 04:22

So as an example

You walk in

Friend A us sat on a chair
Friend B is sat on a chair
B's bf is sat on a two seater settee

There's one seat available on the settee next to B's bf. B immediately jumps up and offers her chair to you and then sits next to her boyfriend?

I do think it's slightly weird. Surely you would sit next to the boyfriend?

Either -
She thought you might feel uncomfortable and was trying to be nice
Or
She feels uncomfortable at the thought of her bf sitting next to you

bloodyplumbing · 14/05/2024 03:21

You're massively overthinking this!

LauderSyme · 14/05/2024 03:21

Totally understandable given your devastating sexual allure and pure animal magnetism. There's no way her poor mere mortal of a bf could have withstood the siren song of close proximity with you. Her quick wits saved everyone a lot of embarrassment.

YaMuvva · 14/05/2024 03:11

What a bitch

She’ll be offering you a cup of tea next

Topseyt123 · 14/05/2024 03:10

Not odd at all. It's a perfectly normal thing to do.

You are odd for thinking that it is odd though.

Paninaro94 · 14/05/2024 03:07

Are you that attractive to men that she cannot risk you sitting next to her boyfriend even though there are lots of people around?

Seriously though OP, it sounds like she was just being a good host. Don’t overthink it.

LongLegSpider · 14/05/2024 01:38

Nope! My sister made a huge deal when she had to sit next to DH at the table a couple of times. I made sure this never happened again and plonked myself down next to her and DH sat further away.

I was so embarrassed for DH with the way my sister carried on (you wouldn’t think she is almost a decade older than us). No way was I subjecting DH to her crazy again.

Maybe there was a reason she offered the seat from some kind of issue in the past?

Ginkypig · 14/05/2024 00:44

wenotlikeus · 13/05/2024 23:24

Doubtful. I couldn’t be less interested in him in that way and although I can’t speak for him I’m pretty certain he feels the exact same way about me.

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I didn’t say you or him were interested I said it sounded like you thought SHE might have thought that.

to be honest I think it would be easier if you said what you thought was going on as from your responses on this thread we all seem to be missing something.

pinkdays · 14/05/2024 00:38

Sounds like the host was trying to make you feel comfortable.

You're coming across as quite prickly on here tbh, so maybe that explains her offer?

MoonKiss · 13/05/2024 23:45

How well do you know him? It’s a bit odd if you’ve met him loads of times . If you’ve barely met I can understand her logic more.

BadLad · 13/05/2024 23:37

steff13 · 13/05/2024 22:56

Maybe OP's a pervert and that's why the boyfriend didn't want to sit next to her. 😉

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Lynn, these are sex people.

MBappse · 13/05/2024 23:28

Depends on type of chair... a small sofa where each side ends up sinking towards the other is uncomfortable for some people, hence the host offering you a better, in her view more comfortable all round, chair for you

KrisAkabusi · 13/05/2024 23:27

You haven't explained why you think it's odd. 97% of responses so far think it's a perfectly normal thing to do, so why do you think differently?

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wenotlikeus · 13/05/2024 23:25

steff13 · 13/05/2024 22:56

Maybe OP's a pervert and that's why the boyfriend didn't want to sit next to her. 😉

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What a lovely thing to accuse someone of being.

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wenotlikeus · 13/05/2024 23:24

Ginkypig · 13/05/2024 22:40

Lots of people have told you they would do the same thing but you still seem to think it was odd.

it sounds like you think she didn’t want you next to her partner because she didn’t trust one of either you or him to be close together.

Doubtful. I couldn’t be less interested in him in that way and although I can’t speak for him I’m pretty certain he feels the exact same way about me.

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steff13 · 13/05/2024 22:56

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 13/05/2024 22:41

Absolutely sickening. She's sounds like a pervert.

Maybe OP's a pervert and that's why the boyfriend didn't want to sit next to her. 😉

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 13/05/2024 22:41

Absolutely sickening. She's sounds like a pervert.

Ginkypig · 13/05/2024 22:40

Lots of people have told you they would do the same thing but you still seem to think it was odd.

it sounds like you think she didn’t want you next to her partner because she didn’t trust one of either you or him to be close together.

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