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Coffee etiquette in the office

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hattie43 · 13/05/2024 18:16

In our office of 3 up to sometimes 6 we have long asked for a decent coffee machine so far to no avail .

This means I'm finding it difficult to go and grab a coffee without asking everyone else , but making a variety of coffee, hot chocolate, tea with our kettle takes so bloomin long .
Same with when I want a Starbucks I feel obliged to ask everyone else .

What do you do where you are , get your own or offer a ' round ' to everyone else .

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Thepeopleversuswork · 13/05/2024 19:10

@BarcardiWithGadaffia

What kind of place is it that you're expected to stand co workers coffees from a coffee shop. I've workedin loads of places and that's never been a thing.

We used to do that pre cost of living crisis in the days when most people worked in the office.

Yes it’s expensive but in theory it comes back to you. Trouble is the coffee addicts go and buy drinks outside more than the tea drinkers: no one in their right mind wastes money regularly on a Starbucks tea. So the coffee people end up spending a lot more than the tea people.

MILTOBE · 13/05/2024 19:07

What have I just read? Nobody does this, OP! Nobody! The most you might do is buy your closest colleague a coffee on her birthday. Nobody buys coffee for everyone.

Does anyone offer to make you a coffee? Has anyone ever bought you a coffee?

BarcardiWithGadaffia · 13/05/2024 19:06

RM2013 · 13/05/2024 18:58

where I work someone usually makes a drink first thing and then someone makes a round usually around 11am and 3pm. It’s usually the same people that make the tea. I’m pretty rubbish at taking my turn 🤣

Why is that funny? It's really rude to accept drinks and notr offer to make them, ime that causes office resentment

BarcardiWithGadaffia · 13/05/2024 19:04

hattie43 · 13/05/2024 18:23

That's the thing , if I get a Starbucks and offer others it's expected I'll pay as a treat , the others may offer round a pkt of biscuits but multiple coffees is expensive .

What kind of place is it that you're expected to stand co workers coffees from a coffee shop. I've workedin loads of places and that's never been a thing.

Just go to Starbucks, surely you don't have to announce your movements

Thepeopleversuswork · 13/05/2024 19:03

I worked somewhere once where there was a requirement to make rounds of tea and coffee for a team of ten people multiple times a day and it was a total pain in the arse. It took a large chunk of the day and no one ever thanked you, just moaned if their sugar quota was off by 0.4 gram. The amount of times I had to go back and remake a cup of tea.

Life is too fucking short, you can never please everyone and it’s quicker to make your own.

GymBergerac · 13/05/2024 19:00

There's usually between four and ten of us on the office. We have an urn in the kitchen with tea and coffee, and a nespresso for the odd treat. Usually someone will say "I fancy a brew, anyone else?" and will then make for whoever answers, but if anyone ever makes just their own it's no big issue.

We're miles away from civilisation but if we were near a Starbucks I wouldn't get involved in buying rounds, that's bonkers money!

RM2013 · 13/05/2024 18:58

where I work someone usually makes a drink first thing and then someone makes a round usually around 11am and 3pm. It’s usually the same people that make the tea. I’m pretty rubbish at taking my turn 🤣

TwixOwl · 13/05/2024 18:57

Just throw £15 in a pot together and buy a coffee machine!

Topsy44 · 13/05/2024 18:56

We do rounds in our office and I hate it! I’d much rather just get my own. Especially as there’s no order with the rounds so sometimes people ‘over offer’ and I feel like I can’t say yes because they made the last round but they insist on making it even if someone says they’ll do it.
I occasionally come in with a shop bought coffee but thankfully as I’m usually in before others I don’t feel like I have to offer to get someone else one, A colleague offered the other week at lunchtime to get us coffees from Starbucks and we all declined which I was pleased about as I thought please don’t start that up!!!!

pointythings · 13/05/2024 18:56

We have rounds, but all of us work hybrid so when we are together in the office we appreciate the company. If it were 5 days a week it would probably be different.

Also there aren't that many of us, no more than about 6, and not everyone tends to want coffee/tea at the same time.

Gymmum82 · 13/05/2024 18:56

A few of us clubbed together and bought a a nespresso for the kitchen. Worked out less than £10 each. Could you suggest that?

TheDandyLion · 13/05/2024 18:53

Get our own. It's a good excuse to step away from the screen for a minute or two.

Dearover · 13/05/2024 18:41

Invest in Yeti coffee cups and fill up before you start work. It will stay warm for hours. Nobody knows if you've been to Starbucks, made a decent one at home or are hiding a secret hot ribena!

bloodyplumbing · 13/05/2024 18:41

@hattie43

You're a fool or have a ridiculous amount of disposable income!

hattie43 · 13/05/2024 18:36

ChockysChimichanga · 13/05/2024 18:29

WTF!? I wouldn’t be paying for Starbucks for six people several times a day. That’s insane. How much are you actually spending on coffee every day?

No I don't do that , tbh now I find myself not get a Starbucks because i feel awkward about coming in with nice coffee .

I ordered Deliveroo for 5 of us and it cost me about £30 , never again .

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Mossstitch · 13/05/2024 18:36

I would recommend a thermos direct drink flask, it fits three nespresso pods worth of coffee in it plus hot skimmed milk as i like cappucino. I make it at 7.00am and stays hot all morning, even at 1.00pm if I haven't drunk it by lunch time👍

TheChosenTwo · 13/05/2024 18:34

In our office there are only ever a maximum of about 3 of us, I don’t drink hot drinks but the other 2 will offer hot drinks to each other. Quite simple as it’s just hot drinks for 2, there is a machine in the office aswell as a hot tap thing.
There is a canteen downstairs that serves apparently very good coffee so sometimes one of them will go down and get coffee for them both.
I couldn’t be arsed with it all, just fill up my water bottle in the middle of the day and keep out of the drinks discussion!

karlon · 13/05/2024 18:33

I can't stand doing rounds, for pub drinks or coffee/tea. I just hate the faff of remembering orders and carrying everything. I definitely wouldnt have the patience to make up hot drinks for 6 people! So at work I just opt out of hot drinks and drink my own water ina water bottle brought from home. I enjoy hot drinks at home where I can enjoy them in peace.

ChockysChimichanga · 13/05/2024 18:29

WTF!? I wouldn’t be paying for Starbucks for six people several times a day. That’s insane. How much are you actually spending on coffee every day?

MrsMoastyToasty · 13/05/2024 18:27

I worked in a place where you weren't allowed to get drinks for others. It was so everyone took a stretch break away from the computer.

toomuchfaff · 13/05/2024 18:26

hattie43 · 13/05/2024 18:23

That's the thing , if I get a Starbucks and offer others it's expected I'll pay as a treat , the others may offer round a pkt of biscuits but multiple coffees is expensive .

Nah sod that, if someone asks for something I would off hand comment "have you got the money for your coffee you asked for, can transfer it if its easier", oh you expect me to pay hahaha my god noooo, I'm not offering to pay for everyone's coffee! think I'm made of money? it's £5 a drink!

cf

TissueInTheWash · 13/05/2024 18:26

Shift worker, and we do rounds - whoever has 5 minutes free will do it. We run on tea. Non-hot-drinks-drinkers (weirdos) are exempt.

rookiemere · 13/05/2024 18:25

I can't justify buying Starbucks for myself, never mind for other people. I bring my own coffee in now as I'm a bit of a coffee snob as well as being tight.

RimTimTagiTim · 13/05/2024 18:25

I've only worked at get your own drink places. Once though we had an engineering student who was temping and who made us a carrying tray with cup holes in, and engraved everyone's name with their drink number from the machine. That was a brilliant time.

Magnastorm · 13/05/2024 18:24

Stop offering to get other people coffee when you go to starbucks etc.

I mean, just stop doing it. It's not really hard.