Would you date someone who was HIV positive?

If I had a friendship that slowly blossomed into love and the person was hiv positive, I would go talk to my doctor and see what the risk would be with my particular health situation.

just meeting and going on a date, no. The odds of this person being the one are low to begin with. It’s not worth the risk.

No I wouldn't

No they felt guilty telling him so blocked him instead. It is the cowards way out but that said, whilst I'm fully aware it's completely treatable and no longer a death sentence, as a partner your completely reliant on that person keeping up with meds. Personally I'm terrible at remembering medication so if they were too and passed it to me, it would litterally change my entire life. My life would depend on me taking that medication and I'd become neurotic over it. So Personally I would walk away, which is so sad because in reality any of us tomorrow could become him and this upsetting reaction may sadly result in him not divulging in the end, in the beginning at least, or ever his condition

I'm really sorry for the person in this situation but if I'm honest it would put me off.
I'm in my 50s and I know it's a very different situation now to when I was in school in the 1980s and tbf as a heterosexual middle aged woman the chances of this scenario arising is pretty slim.
The gay community maybe more accepting/ knowledgeable but I think its understandable that it will put some potential partners off.

What happened in the 90’s ?

No, I wouldn’t. I just couldn’t put myself at risk like that.

I would. I'd just ask them to use condoms

Depending on how they caught it (as our lifestyle choices may not be compatible) yes.

It isn't a death sentence at all now, I'd expect my partner to have a normal lifespan and me not to be at risk.

Some people do not appear to have moved on from the 90s.

Yes
Modern treatments prevent it being passed on and no longer is it a death sentence for the infected person

Its obviously a valid choice to say no and shows how we are still so far behind with factual information being deseminated

I would have no issue with it. With today's meds you can live a very normal life and have zero chance of passing it on to a partner.
I have friends who live with it. One has had two kids with a partner, both kids and him are negative.

But I completely understand if anyone doesn't want a partner with the virus. It's a lot to take in.

I wouldn't say never, if I got to know someone as a friend and then really liked them I probably would, but if I knew from the start I'd probably say no as it would be extra bother. Same as lots of things in online dating, you screen out a lot of people for things that perhaps wouldn't matter that much if you already liked them.

Ultimately it's an individual choice. I would keep it to myself though. I wouldn't write on Facebook that I'd never date someone with x y and z simply because it's going to be hurtful to people who really don't need that information.

No absolutely not.

No I wouldn’t, I know medicine has moved on and that now it can be non transmissible but I wouldn’t want to take that risk with my health.

If would be quite a tough decision, but, unfortunately, it would probably change the way I felt.

I'm sorry for your friend, noone should get that abuse especially if the abuser doesn't know the circumstances.

I'm afraid I wouldn't. I'm a straight woman, so it's not something I've ever come across, I'm assuming in the gay community it may be more of a thing to think about. But I totally admire your brother for being honest and open about it.

Also you haven't heard the other side of the story. For all you know he got nasty when rejected so got blocked

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dating someone with HIV status would be something 🤔 i think i would have to turn down,

On reflection i would have to look into properly the Hiv risks and relvant research papers first and weigh up the odds risks...

I would. There's a lot of misunderstanding of HIV nowadays. Many (most?) people with HIV have an undetectable viral load thanks to the modern medications they take, and the partner can be on Prep as well. It is not possible to transmit the virus with an undetectable viral load! HIV is a manageable, chronic condition now; it's nothing like jt was in the 80s and 90s. Most people don't realise this.

Blocking him is very harsh and hurtful. He should have at least said "I'm afraid that's a deal breaker for me" or similar rather than just blocking.

That said, I wouldn't enter into a relationship with someone who already had long term health issues. My choice but I know that upsets some people. It's different if these thing happen once in the relationship but I would avoid it at the outset.

No I wouldn't. But they have both dealt with this situation badly.

I wonder how many of his friends supporting him are in relationships so the question is
pure hypothetical, so they can afford to
be outraged on his behalf?

But what other responses would there be to that FB post? He's upset about a situation that's pretty difficult to take (being blocked by someone you're invested in) over something he cant control (his status). You'd hardly expect comments telling him it's what he deserves or that he should cheer up as its a justifiable reaction. It would have been supremely insensitive for you to post the comment you wanted to.

Husband and I remember the tombstone adverts that were on the tv when we were kids. You can rationalise it how you want but those adverts put the fear of god in us. Things have moved on and I think it would depend on many factors that I might not ever be able to logically explain to anyone.

I agree with this . Quite honestly I think I’d be more concerned about hepatitis than I would HIV .

Absolutely never.

It was impolite of the other man not to reply and go straight to block, but there seems to be such a sense of entitlement these days when it comes to dating. A person can refuse to date someone for any reason at all.