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To be a bit upset about clicky colleagues

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PrincessBananaH · 13/05/2024 16:37

We are in a team of 10, all women in our 20s and 30s. I have noticed 3-4 of them have become quite close and often do things together outside of work, go out for lunch when in the office without inviting others and have their own Teams chat etc.
I am generally quite mature and don’t get absorbed into office dynamics (I am friendly and open with everyone but I am not clicky or bestie with anyone either) but this has been bothering me a bit lately. I noticed that if only one of the group is in the office, they’d just go on lunch by themselves rather than asking me or someone else to join them, for example.
Some of these behaviours bring me back to school days, AIBU to be bothered by it?

OP posts:
Everanewbie · 13/05/2024 16:43

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existentialpain · 13/05/2024 16:42

Not BU, i'd feel the same, but keep being professional and try not to let it bother you. Don't show any annoyance, just get on with the job and be friendly to everyone like you are. People often form groups or cliques, especially if they feel a bit insecure or just want to belong, and it can feel unpleasant to be left out or not part of it, but it's just human nature for people to do this. You might be an introvert or just confident enough in your own skin to not want to be part of it. Let your colleagues get on with it.

BreakfastAtMimis · 13/05/2024 16:40

That's cliquey. You're welcome.

8Ash · 13/05/2024 16:39

I hear you. It’s the same at my office. It used to bother me but I let it go over my head now. I just keep in mind that I am there to work so I crack on and do just that, keeping myself to myself.