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If you’re gorgeous and you know it..

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Dancehalldarling · 13/05/2024 14:28

.. clap your hands 👏 (no I’m joking.)

Nc for this. Those of you that know you’re good looking, when complimented do you agree/acknowledge you know you’re good looking or do you insist you’re not/reverse the compliment?

do you think it’s unreasonable to outright say “I am absolutely beautiful” or hold yourself in high regard?

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elevens24 · 13/05/2024 15:09

@tillytoodles1

It depends. Some people are naturally beautiful while others have surgical enhancements. Which ones do you mean?

How would you know? Lots of people have enhancements that are not obvious?

Candleabra · 13/05/2024 15:07

Being gorgeous (I mean pretty/beautiful rather than having a good figure) is just good luck though. It’s not something you’ve earned or worked for. It always seems a weird thing to compliment people on. Like saying they’re tall.

3WildOnes · 13/05/2024 15:05

No one tells me I'm gorgeous anymore but I did get complimented when I was younger. I would just say thanks and then find something to compliment them on later on.

GalileoHumpkins · 13/05/2024 15:04

I say thank you, give a small tinkly laugh and silently congratulate myself on being a stunner.

buttonsarecute · 13/05/2024 15:03

I usually just say
'Thanks, I love your outfit/make up /hair/shoes/' if i genuinely do and if i don't like any of the above I'll say
'That's so kind, I'm embarrassed now'
Or if i know them well such as friends I say
'Shut up you weirdo' 😃

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 13/05/2024 15:02

I've only heard women say it and one that is closer to home, ie our daughter. IMO, as people keep on saying that to her we hear it at every party/wedding we go to - she often tells us that and she is not joking - nothing wrong with it as long as you don't put others down that may not be as gifted as the "beautiful" ones

Our daughter takes it from my mothers side and looks like the double of one of my siblings when they were that age and many others have said that

Tanyahawkes · 13/05/2024 15:00

Dancehalldarling · 13/05/2024 14:28

.. clap your hands 👏 (no I’m joking.)

Nc for this. Those of you that know you’re good looking, when complimented do you agree/acknowledge you know you’re good looking or do you insist you’re not/reverse the compliment?

do you think it’s unreasonable to outright say “I am absolutely beautiful” or hold yourself in high regard?

I have always just said Thankyou, sometimes followed up with a jokey “but you need specsavers” depending on how I’m feeling and who the other person is who complimented me

StoatofDisarray · 13/05/2024 14:59

It's a gracious mutter but I wish they wouldn't. I don't scowl but I do quickly move on to something else.

OneTC · 13/05/2024 14:59

I don't say anything and look uneasy. it's normally a comment on my body, which is amazing, rather than my looks. I don't enjoy people commenting on or complimenting me.

flyinghen · 13/05/2024 14:58

When I was I was younger when I got a compliment I would say "thank you", I don't get them now but if I did I would do the same.

loropianalover · 13/05/2024 14:58

StoatofDisarray · 13/05/2024 14:51

I mutter thanks and hate it. Gorgeous by whose standards?

Why would you mutter a thanks to someone being genuine? Even if you don’t think highly of yourself there’s no need to be rude in your response.

StoatofDisarray · 13/05/2024 14:57

You're reading what goes through my head when people have said this to me in the past: embarrassment and annoyance.

Bloom15 · 13/05/2024 14:57

I just say thank you

Cuppaand2biscuits · 13/05/2024 14:56

When I was younger I was attractive with a good body and I knew it.
When men gave me compliments they would sometimes be a bit thrown off if I said 'Thank you'
Like they thought I was a bit full of myself.

Sunnyandsilly · 13/05/2024 14:56

StoatofDisarray · 13/05/2024 14:56

I just meant that their idea of gorgeous might not be the same as mine. Congratulating someone on meeting your personal fuckability threshold is grim TBH.

Wtaf? Saying someone is attractive or gorgeous doesn’t mean you want to fuck them.

what am I reading?

StoatofDisarray · 13/05/2024 14:56

I just meant that their idea of gorgeous might not be the same as mine. Congratulating someone on meeting your personal fuckability threshold is grim TBH.

Traitortothecause · 13/05/2024 14:54

If someone says on a beautiful warm day "I'm so hot right now" as they fan themselves and just say "So am I, but I don't brag about it".

5128gap · 13/05/2024 14:54

I'm not beautiful, but I do have two physical features that I know are considered very attractive, my hair and my figure, and I get lots of compliments on both. It would be disingenuous to pretend I didn't know they fit the mainstream of attractive, or that I didn't think they looked good myself, so if someone comments I just say 'thank you, that's really nice of you'.

Sunnyandsilly · 13/05/2024 14:52

StoatofDisarray · 13/05/2024 14:51

I mutter thanks and hate it. Gorgeous by whose standards?

By the person giving the compliment. Who else, the bloke at number 9?

StoatofDisarray · 13/05/2024 14:51

I mutter thanks and hate it. Gorgeous by whose standards?

Sunnyandsilly · 13/05/2024 14:51

TheaBrandt · 13/05/2024 14:37

This is a predominantly English site so imo most normal English women would Scoff and say “no I don’t think so” and would then try to reverse the compliment.

I have had several mothers say it about dd2 I do the above and find it slightly awkward. Looks are a genetic lottery which she has randomly won.

Not any English woman I’ve ever met, they all have manners and say thank you, not deny it then reverse it out.

Billyhargrovesmullet · 13/05/2024 14:50

I just always say thank you

Pistachiovillian · 13/05/2024 14:50

I don't feel it at the moment due to a rough few years but I am stereotypically attractive generally. Getting on a bit now though! Modelled until I was late thirties, get a lot of attention generally. I just say thank you. Sometimes I self depreciate depends how I'm feeling.

Sunnyandsilly · 13/05/2024 14:50

You don’t do either, you just say thank you. Also think of something to return the compliment on, so do you. Love your hair, whatever, as long as it’s genuine.

you don’t agree or disagree. That would be weird.

OldTinHat · 13/05/2024 14:49

I always accept a compliment with thanks.

If I compliment someone and they bat it off or argue with me, then I'm a bit pissed off. They're either questioning my personal opinion or fishing for further compliments. I have no time for either.

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