If you’re gorgeous and you know it..

It would be very odd to be told ‘You are very beautiful’ except in a dodgy pick-up situation. I am often complimented on eg my hair, clothes, skin. I always say thank you. I can’t imagine saying ‘I agree’!

I think you should say thank you and accept the compliment. I have never had this problem as I'm fairly hideous with a terrible personality but if I did, I would just smile and thank the person. I'd find something nice to say back, too.

Age and a love of carbs have taken all my looks but I still have a winning personality.

"Thank you, that's so kind of you. A small compliment really can make your day". No false modesty, self congratulation or awkwardness.

Same.

I am beautiful, and complimented often. I just smile and say thank you, and don't dwell on it. It is what it is. I am not vain, just honest.

I used to be, i was never traditionally attractive, but more quirky attractive, I'm fat and old now and it came as a real shock when I stopped being attractive.

If anyone complimented me I'd always just say thank you. I would sometimes make a joke out of it, but most of the time I'd just accept the compliment.

I wish more women would just accept compliments. If I see someone with great hair or an outfit I like etc, I'll always compliment them, but the amount of people who simply don't know how to respond means we don't like to acknowledge ourselves or it's seen as being big headed

I saw thank you it's the stress! (As people compliment my slim post baby figure. It's true!)

I don’t think saying oh thank you that’s really kind of you, is agreeing , it’s just a polite response. There is no need to put yourself down.

i just say thank you that’s really sweet of you and then often something like you look great too, I love your hair/shoes/skirt or whatever.

if a man does it it is slightly different, giving a compliment back can turn it into a flirt session, it depends on who it is and their intent. But sometimes a compliment is just a compliment.

for example on Holiday a few years ago, the waiter said to me, “you have a very beautiful face , everyone is talking about it”. And gestured to the other staff, He wasn’t flirting, I could tell not just from his demeanor, but as I had seen him with his boyfriend. I just said thank you , smiled gently, and brushed it off. Saying something like no really I look like shit, or hey your face is lovely too, would have been inappropriate.

I agree.

Say thank you. As with any compliment

Oh fgs OP

You can't really disagree with them, though, because it's their opinion. Not yours.

I've learnt over many years that a simple "thanks that's kind of you to say" is the quickest way to deflect from the attention on you and move on.

I don't know but I wish I had known and appreciated that I was very pretty in my 20s/30s.

People did tell me and I just laughed it off.

I feel like I could have achieved more in life had I known and capitalised on my looks.

I used to get embarrassed regardless of who the compliment came from, male or female. I learnt to accept them and now just respond with a “Thank you” and move on.

More tricky to deal with is when people ask how or why. My stock response is “Genetics”.

Rejecting someone's compliment is rude!
The kind thing to say is just, Thank you so much, with a gracious smile, and then move on.

Now, there's a lot of subtlety and complexity around whether something is a genuine compliment intended to give pleasure to the receiver without anything being expected in return, or whether it's actually a way of pestering someone. Obviously lots of men compliment women and then get annoyed if they don't get more than a gracious thanks, which is unacceptable but happens all the time.

But we aren’t just talking about men, women compliment each other too. In fact I’d say I get more compliments from women than I do men.

It does when it comes from men and it gets tedious.

I was never interested in what random men thought about what I looked like, so I didn't thank them, as my generation of women were taught to do. It isn't much different to seeing street harassment as a compliment.

If it's another woman saying that you look nice etc, then yes, you thank them. But again it can become as though how you look is the sum total of you. I own mirrors, I knew that I was beautiful.

In Western and especially British society, it's considered socially desirable to be slightly self-deprecating or simply appreciative when given a compliement.

For example, if someone says to you "Wow, you're really intelligent!" it's considered polite to say "Well, in some ways" or "Not really but that's kind, thank you!"

It would be considered arrogant and socially awkward to respond "Yes, I really am."

Another example could be "Oh my god, your house is so clean!" A socially acceptable response would be "Well it doesn't always look like this!" or "Yes I cleaned this morning, thank you!". But not "Yes, I am a superior home maker".

People don't like to be friends with people who seem arrogant which is why this strange social convention exists.

Hope that helps :-)

I mean natural beauty, not someone who's had fillers and other cosmetic tweaks. We'd all be stunning then.

I really really wouldn't want to know someone who was so full of themselves that they think they are gorgeous. Everybody has faults, whether it be physical or character faults.Being self absorbed and self congratulatory is the biggest fault of all imo.

This.

For any compliment.

I have never agreed or disagreed, and I’ve not heard anyone do that when I’ve complimented them either. Most people just say thank you. Go to a wedding, this happens all the time, people have made an effort and most people are telling each other how lovely they look!

Used to be. My reaction would depend on the context of the compliment- in a non-creepy context the polite thing is to say thank you (whether you agree or not)- beauty is after all in the eye of the beholder. Paying a compliment in return is a nice thing to do as well if you can do it with style (not just "you look nice too"). Saying thanks is not the same as saying you agree, we're not in Mean Girls.

Denying it is very awkward for everyone as a lot of people then feel they have to say it again so it's almost like fishing for compliments. Much more polite to smile and say thanks.