If you’re gorgeous and you know it..

And the question is disingenuous. As if anyone says “yes I am absolutely beautiful.”

You can simply say an unadorned “thank you” and move on.

I’ve got the feeling your post was worded to elicit endorsement of the “ oh don’t be so silly, no- not really … but what makes you say that/please keep insisting cos I’m loving it” charade?

I think you’ll find there’s quite a few Scottish, Irish and Welsh people on here as well as others from different countries. What a stupid comment.

Back to the OP. I normally answer “thank you”. It’s normally my hair or my figure that get complimented on these days. I didn’t like compliments when I was younger and tended just to smile.

i just say thank god for make up!

I go for option b and just say: “ yes I really am beautiful,” Sometimes I add,”I’m not sure I’ve ever felt outdone in that regard.”

I’m not but my DD is genetically blessed and she’s quite embarrassed about it. She’s only 16, but is incredibly shy. She’s got beauty and brains too, I’d have killed for that! She has little confidence in herself which is a shame

OP you sound a little smug.

predominately English ? I have never thought that in all the years I’ve used it. Predominantly British, yes.

People used to say it about my youngest one all the time, and say she should be a model and I would reply ‘no modelling agency in the world has enough sedative to keep her still long enough to take a decent photo of that one’ or something similar. Because it was true, but also a bit deflective of an awkward conversation.

No, we really wouldn’t

Someone complimented my hair on the weekend, I'm a fat, 50yr old but I do have good hair 🤣 I thanked them as it's a lovely thing to be told, and it made my day

I don't think I'm "a stunner" but I'm told I am. If other women compliment me, I say something like "thanks, I'm nothing special". But if a man does it, it's different. I've learnt never to smile in response because men auto think they've "scored" if I do. I either say "OK thanks" and move on or if they're a creep I'm in the habit now of saying "I know I am" and loving the fact that they hate me thinking I look OK!

Agree so much.

I don't necessarily think I'm great looking. Some days better than others. But if and when complimented on appearance I'll say something like "Thankyou! That's such a lovely thing to say"

Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder. And, it changes depending on what the media is portraying as beautiful.

I'm not ordinary or plain looking and have unusual features. I'm also short and a typical Latina shape.

I have confidence in who I am as a person. I have often been complimented. I just say thank you or make an appropriate joke to deflect depending on the situation.

Best compliment I've ever had, though, was some random on my commute. He just asked if I didn't mind him saying, but he thought my confidence and they way I held myself were the sexiest thing he ever saw. I blushed fucking hard! He said bye and hopped on his train. I was left speechless. That doesn't happen often!

@Dancehalldarling I can relate, I find compliments of any sort awkward, I never know how to respond. I also feel that just saying thanks could come across as though you really think you are gorgeous. If someone gave me a compliment on my looks, I'd kinda brush it off, aww thanks, so do you, or your hair looks amazing and try and deflect the attention away from me. I appreciate the comments of course, but I just find them awkward. I've embraced a much simpler lifestyle now I WFH so I don't get many comments on my looks anymore, but TBH I prefer it this way.

I've always looked well when dressed/ made up and have received a lot of compliments from men and women over the years - generally I'll compliment in return and say thank you. In my scruffs I'd say I'm just okay looking.
I'm 60 but now have aged pretty well. Im tall with good bone structure, have subtle botox and have looked after my skin well. - I was recently at a multi generational party and a lovely 20 something year old woman i didn't know stopped me and told me I was very beautiful. I said thank you how lovely! It's pretty much made my year. Smiling just thinking about it 😀

I used to be pretty good looking when younger/slimmer. Originally I downplayed it all as in “oh don’t be silly”, and start listing faults, but when I myself compliment people I HATE when they do that, so I learned to say “aw thank you that’s a nice thing to say” or something along these lines.
Agree its nice to offer a genuine compliment back

I am no longer beautiful but I used to be. I used to always deny the compliment or make some self-deorecating remark until an older man - a friend if my parents - gently told me off for it. He said "You need to learn to graciously accept a compliment because you're going to get plenty of them. Just smile and say thank you." Which I've tried to do ever since (although it's a long time since I've had the opportunity!)

I would often feel awkward but say thank you

Others often took this as me thinking I didn’t know how good looking/attractive I was. I absolutely did and quite self absorbed/vain a guy I worked with once called this out and said HRTQueen knows exactly how gorgeous she is and others argued with him 😬

im not now but thats fine I have had my time to shine

If you’re gorgeous and you know it clap your hands..
i will because why the fuck not👏👏👏👏Although i look like crap.

This

I used to get this when younger and would just laugh and say thanks, and maybe compliment them in return. I wouldn't have agreed "Yes aren't I gorgeous!" Because well... that would be awkward 😂 but also because I didn't think so much of myself, I was quite insecure. Looking back at old photos now though I can see what they meant!

I have been told that by women. Some from different cultures.

I’m certain none of them were trying to pick me up.

I think it all depends how it’s said tbh, “thankyou” with a hair flip or a smile or something might come across like you agree, “awwww that’s sweet, thankyou” and if you think they are pretty maybe return the compliment, if it’s a woman saying it, if it’s a man that would seem flirty

"god no I’m not please don’t be stupid I look like shit”.

So, you would tell someone they are stupid for paying you a compliment? I hope you wouldn't, because that would be incredibly rude. Why would you want to tell them you look like shit if they've said you look nice? What is wrong with just thanking them?

I don't think I'm particularly attractive, but when I'm complimented (which generally happens for my clothes rather than me specifically) I'm appreciative and polite I think. I don't agree, nor do I disagree.

I find it odd when people disagree with a compliment - I get why they do it but as the compliment-giver you're then left a bit stuck, conversationally. They've basically said your opinion (that they look nice or whatever) is wrong.