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People who you don't know, but you find them irritating!

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ADHDposs · 13/05/2024 14:25

There a guy who lives near me, who I cannot stand, and I don't even know him. He's late 60's and has a Head Teacher vibe. He walks his dog at 7am with a neighbour, and the pair of them chat in BOOMING voices, as they stroll along the path. Tough luck if you are still in bed.

He had a lovely little dog, but it was never on the lead and was always miles behind or ahead of him, so much so, that I almost thought it was a lost dog and almost took it home. I presume he's not picking up the poo.

HIs wife took to Facebook the other day, with a long ranting post about how someone had deliberately put down poison and now the dog is dead. I obviously didn't comment, but I'm thinking Nah mate, you just don't watch your dog. I can't believe that anyone would have done that on purpose, but of course there were loads of comments supporting this version of events.

Silly me thought he wouldn't be out early in the morning anymore, but no, there he was this morning, at the crack of dawn, laughing at the top of his BOOMING voice with another local lady who HAS TO SHOUT ALL OF HER WORDS even when the person is stood right next to her. Don't people think they should keep at down when it's so early?

To top it off, a neighbour had a cherry picker delivered this morning. For some reason it has to emit an ear splitting BEEP when it's turned on, even if it's not moving. It started at 740am. Is this not really antisocial? I was walking the dogs, and as I went past the driveway, there was a MAMIL getting ready to go on an early bike ride, and I actually said to him that he'd probably woken up the whole neighbourhood. He mumbled sorry.

I don't know whether IABU, or just the older I get, the less tolerant I am of these types of people, who seem to have no regard to anyone else's peace.

Has anyone else felt similar irritation (not necessarily about noise)?

OP posts:
MrsClatterbuck · 14/05/2024 23:52

Brandnewskytohangyourstarsupon · 13/05/2024 20:40

A woman next door but one.
Pulls her bin outside her house on bin day then stands and surveys the street, left to right, up and down. For many minutes.
She honestly looks like she owns the street and is looking to see if anyone passing needs her permission to use her road.

And this next one , tell me you wouldn’t hate this woman:
At the airport approaching the security belt about 10 people in front of her near the belt, I’m about 4 people behind her. The queue is steadily moving forward, not static.
Decides suddenly that she needs her liquids in a plastic bag.
so
lays case down and opens said case across the entire lane.
proceeds to search through every section of the case to find liquid bottles. Lines each liquid bottle up on the floor. More and more bottles recovered from various compartments of the case. I counted 12.
Then, starts to search whole case again until finding the teeniest plastic bag.
Begins to put bottles into tiny bag with not a chance in hell of fitting the bottles into the bag.
Then starts to zip up every section of the case and try to close it. It won’t close due to the clothing sticking out, so pushes clothing which repeatedly flips back out and is overpacked so can’t close said case without great effort.
Then tries to stand up holding teeny bag, hands full of extra bottles, 2 mobile phones, one iPad, one set of headphones, one passport and ticket and the handle of the case.
Meanwhile, the people in front have well gone, no fucker can get past her, step over her and case and lined up bottles, the queue behind is huge.
Then gets to the belt, throws everything into the tubs, lady at security gives her another 2 bags.
Alarm goes off as she goes through the body scanner and guess what… her bag doesn’t get through but gets shoved to be opened and examined!!!

I just know with no evidence whatsoever that she would also be a fucking nuisance when getting on the flight holding everyone up putting her bag in the overhead bin, then taking it down to get stuff out holding up the other people trying to find their seats then when landing fucking around putting all her shit back in holding everyone up who needs to get off.
I felt furious with that stranger at the airport.

Not as bad but 2 girls in front if me in security started going through their cases at the actual conveyor. They didn't seem to know or pretending to not know the rules on liquids and aerosols. And were most annoyed when their cans of spray tan were taken away. Really felt like telling them to move along as they were holding everyone up. I had gotbup a 4.30am so was in no mood for their antics. Can you tell I'm not a morning person. But that's par for the course for me as I always pick the wrong queue

BitOutOfPractice · 14/05/2024 23:31

Ah, @StarbucksQueen1 you’re one of those - I’m up so everyone else should be up too! That’s a big fat “no thank you” from me.

BitOutOfPractice · 14/05/2024 23:30

The woman who takes her dog to parkrun every week, despite it barking continually right outside my bedroom window for a solid half hour. Every Saturday. At 8:30. And if anyone would like to tell me that’s not early, it is on a Saturday when it’s the one day a week you don’t have to set you alarm at 6am. Even if I’m already awake, even if I’m doing parkrun myself, I can feel the rage rising. Just leave the dog at home!

BuckFadger · 14/05/2024 23:22

Those fucking Octopus Energy adverts with various customers banging on about their customer service. I swear one gets played every advert break on the two radio channels I listen to. I must be up about ten times a day switching the channel over so I do not have to listen to it again.

FUCK OFF!

niadainud · 14/05/2024 23:13

StarbucksQueen1 · 14/05/2024 20:13

How old are you and when do you get up?! I mean this isn’t early! My son wakes at 6am so anything after that to me is fine!! You just seem really intolerant!
You’d hate my neighbour.. she yawns and sings it… like really loudly and I can hear it through the walls plus has dramatic sneezes 😆

And what if someone else comes along and says, "My son wakes at 5am so anything after that to me is fine!!"?

🙄

Auburngal · 14/05/2024 22:35

There’s a customer who keeps asking myself and colleagues “is this vegetarian?” When he shows something in the reduced section or is a clearance line.

i know he has asked about - pork pate, fish pie mix, burgers made with plant protein and beef.

Then he asks what to do with (product) and the latest one was papaya. If you are unsure what to do with a papaya, you buy just one to see if you like it, NOT all of them (6-10) in the reduced section!

Auburngal · 14/05/2024 22:27

ADHDposs · 14/05/2024 22:00

Thank goodness for you. Personally I’m up at 630am seven days a week. I take the dogs out and I literally creep around the block because I know not everyone is up. I cannot stand these selfish pricks! I think a lot of mums on here are up at the crack of dawn and they’ve forgotten how long they slept before children came along.

I do 7am starts 3 times a week and one 8am a week. On later shifts and days off, I’m up and about at 6:30am latest.

Hate it during hot summer days people at the back of me play their crap music til 2am. No consideration for those who need to be up early, the elderly or the sick.

Bahhhhhumbug · 14/05/2024 22:25

I work a couple of mornings in a local shop of a well known chain. Every week a smartly dressed woman with a very patronising tone comes to the counter and makes a real song and dance about handing over a £20 note as if she is holding up the Magna Carta. 'Right' she says whilst slowly teasing it out of her purse and wafting it in front of whichever cashier is unlucky enough be serving her. 'Are you ok with a TWENTY POUND NOTE '
God l hate her so much can barely give a civil answer.and manage to mutter a curt yes at best.
I know one day the voices will make me say 'Yes l've fucking seen one before'
A much braver colleague who's known for taking no prisoners once suggested to her that maybe she should consider paying by card as she seemed so worried about handing over a note. I thought she was going self combust and complained about colleague but it went nowhere as the manager can't stand this customer either.

Auburngal · 14/05/2024 22:24

Men when grocery shopping using a list written by their OH, ring their OH and ask what you do you mean by rice? White rice, basmati, microwave rice pouches…..

Then a few minutes later, down biscuits section what biscuits do they want.

If your OH keeps ringing you when they are food shopping, either write down the type of rice, biscuits you want, buy groceries online or do the shopping yourself!

ADHDposs · 14/05/2024 22:00

SabreIsMyFave · 14/05/2024 20:35

YANBU @ADHDposs And I am SO sick of the bloody '7am isn't even that early' brigade! With their 'most of the world is wake at that time' blatherings. You don't get to dictate what is a 'reasonable' time to be awake. Most people in MY world aren't up and about at bloody 7am. So just stop with that generalisation!

I don't wake til 8 to 8.30am. Some days I start work around 9.30am - flexible hours WFH - and some days I work from 5pm (or 6pm) til midnight, and I don't wake til 9 to 9.30am. But I am NEVER up before 8am. And that is my right. To lie in til 8am. It's still bloody early FFS!

ALSO, my DH works shifts, and sometimes works til midnight, and doesn't get to bed til 2am. (And he lies in til 10am then.) We would lose our fucking SHIT if someone kept waking us at 7am with their loud booming voice outside the window! DH would squirt them with the hosepipe!

This is the second thread today where inconsiderate individuals make life miserable for others! (There's one currently running where a poster's next door neighbour smokes outside - next to the OP's window!) Why are some people SO selfish?

Edited

Thank goodness for you. Personally I’m up at 630am seven days a week. I take the dogs out and I literally creep around the block because I know not everyone is up. I cannot stand these selfish pricks! I think a lot of mums on here are up at the crack of dawn and they’ve forgotten how long they slept before children came along.

OP posts:
phoenixrosehere · 14/05/2024 21:42

SabreIsMyFave · 14/05/2024 20:35

YANBU @ADHDposs And I am SO sick of the bloody '7am isn't even that early' brigade! With their 'most of the world is wake at that time' blatherings. You don't get to dictate what is a 'reasonable' time to be awake. Most people in MY world aren't up and about at bloody 7am. So just stop with that generalisation!

I don't wake til 8 to 8.30am. Some days I start work around 9.30am - flexible hours WFH - and some days I work from 5pm (or 6pm) til midnight, and I don't wake til 9 to 9.30am. But I am NEVER up before 8am. And that is my right. To lie in til 8am. It's still bloody early FFS!

ALSO, my DH works shifts, and sometimes works til midnight, and doesn't get to bed til 2am. (And he lies in til 10am then.) We would lose our fucking SHIT if someone kept waking us at 7am with their loud booming voice outside the window! DH would squirt them with the hosepipe!

This is the second thread today where inconsiderate individuals make life miserable for others! (There's one currently running where a poster's next door neighbour smokes outside - next to the OP's window!) Why are some people SO selfish?

Edited

YANBU @ADHDposs And I am SO sick of the bloody '7am isn't even that early' brigade! With their 'most of the world is wake at that time' blatherings. You don't get to dictate what is a 'reasonable' time to be awake. Most people in MY world aren't up and about at bloody 7am. So just stop with that generalisation!

Agree. I used to take the 6:40 train towards London to work on purpose because there were much less people and I was guaranteed a seat in an empty car when I got on and wouldn’t see anyone until 7 and by that time I was 5 minutes from getting off the train while the 7:40 train would be crowded and you would be lucky to get a seat.

dollyknocker · 14/05/2024 21:26

underarmoir · 13/05/2024 15:43

Woman at work whose entire personality is being gluten free. WE KNOW!! Every time there's a cake or a packet of biscuits or anything remotely connected to food she'll bemoan the fact she can't eat it because of the gluten.

I think this might be me 🤣🤣🤣

SabreIsMyFave · 14/05/2024 20:35

YANBU @ADHDposs And I am SO sick of the bloody '7am isn't even that early' brigade! With their 'most of the world is wake at that time' blatherings. You don't get to dictate what is a 'reasonable' time to be awake. Most people in MY world aren't up and about at bloody 7am. So just stop with that generalisation!

I don't wake til 8 to 8.30am. Some days I start work around 9.30am - flexible hours WFH - and some days I work from 5pm (or 6pm) til midnight, and I don't wake til 9 to 9.30am. But I am NEVER up before 8am. And that is my right. To lie in til 8am. It's still bloody early FFS!

ALSO, my DH works shifts, and sometimes works til midnight, and doesn't get to bed til 2am. (And he lies in til 10am then.) We would lose our fucking SHIT if someone kept waking us at 7am with their loud booming voice outside the window! DH would squirt them with the hosepipe!

This is the second thread today where inconsiderate individuals make life miserable for others! (There's one currently running where a poster's next door neighbour smokes outside - next to the OP's window!) Why are some people SO selfish?

StarbucksQueen1 · 14/05/2024 20:13

ADHDposs · 13/05/2024 14:25

There a guy who lives near me, who I cannot stand, and I don't even know him. He's late 60's and has a Head Teacher vibe. He walks his dog at 7am with a neighbour, and the pair of them chat in BOOMING voices, as they stroll along the path. Tough luck if you are still in bed.

He had a lovely little dog, but it was never on the lead and was always miles behind or ahead of him, so much so, that I almost thought it was a lost dog and almost took it home. I presume he's not picking up the poo.

HIs wife took to Facebook the other day, with a long ranting post about how someone had deliberately put down poison and now the dog is dead. I obviously didn't comment, but I'm thinking Nah mate, you just don't watch your dog. I can't believe that anyone would have done that on purpose, but of course there were loads of comments supporting this version of events.

Silly me thought he wouldn't be out early in the morning anymore, but no, there he was this morning, at the crack of dawn, laughing at the top of his BOOMING voice with another local lady who HAS TO SHOUT ALL OF HER WORDS even when the person is stood right next to her. Don't people think they should keep at down when it's so early?

To top it off, a neighbour had a cherry picker delivered this morning. For some reason it has to emit an ear splitting BEEP when it's turned on, even if it's not moving. It started at 740am. Is this not really antisocial? I was walking the dogs, and as I went past the driveway, there was a MAMIL getting ready to go on an early bike ride, and I actually said to him that he'd probably woken up the whole neighbourhood. He mumbled sorry.

I don't know whether IABU, or just the older I get, the less tolerant I am of these types of people, who seem to have no regard to anyone else's peace.

Has anyone else felt similar irritation (not necessarily about noise)?

How old are you and when do you get up?! I mean this isn’t early! My son wakes at 6am so anything after that to me is fine!! You just seem really intolerant!
You’d hate my neighbour.. she yawns and sings it… like really loudly and I can hear it through the walls plus has dramatic sneezes 😆

H34th · 14/05/2024 20:11

notedbiscuits · 14/05/2024 19:43

Why do people speaking in a foreign language on their phones have to shout all the time?

Those customers who don’t get off the phone when being served. Rude

The same reason as when people who speak in a native language need to shout, surely.

notedbiscuits · 14/05/2024 19:43

Why do people speaking in a foreign language on their phones have to shout all the time?

Those customers who don’t get off the phone when being served. Rude

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 14/05/2024 19:41

Yes to working in retail and discovering a whole new level of annoying.

When I worked on a deli in a supermarket, we would pre cut the large pies into 4x8ths 2x12ths and 2x6ths to give 3 available slice sizes iyswim. Every day, without fail, 'pie woman' would come in, straight to the deli, and ask us to cut a new pie - even if she saw you actually cutting the one on the counter, it wasn't a freshness thing. She'd say the slices weren't what she wanted - absolutely fine. So you put the knife on the pie - here? Bit bigger. Bit smaller. Bit bigger. There! Every time. 1/6th. And then, she wanted you to wrap it up and put it in the stock fridge until she'd done the rest of her shop, then she'd come back and collect it before paying. Why?! Why not take the pre cut slice?! Why not come to the deli at the end of your shop?! Just why, pie woman, why?! 😂

There's a school mum with 4 DC from Yr 6 to nursery age. They all walk down the pavement and round the narrow path round the school, holding hands, across the path in a long side by side line, at the speed of a 3 yr old and the 6th 'person' in the row is a doll in a bloody pushchair. Every single morning. While everyone else unfortunate enough to arrive after them gets caught in a pile up behind them, and no one coming the other way can get past the complete logjam they've caused.

I feel better now. Thanks.

Trickabrick · 14/05/2024 19:06

coxesorangepippin · 13/05/2024 16:11

The ' beige' family that life near us.

They all dress in beige/pale colours ALL the time. The guy always wears a beige cap. Beige jeans, beige jacket. The children are all dressed in either beige or pale pink all the time. The mother wears beige leggings all the time, even running in the snow, in the winter!

It drives me mad

This has really made me laugh as it’s entirely the sort of thing that would make me take against someone 😂

H34th · 14/05/2024 18:59

Mums at the school gate

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childlessandfree · 14/05/2024 18:52

A lot of posters i find irritating.
They must be right never wrong and pile on you for having an opinion.
It gets funny and they dont half sound bat crazy.😆

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 14/05/2024 18:41

A cat breeder registered at the veterinary practice I work at, who thinks she can swan in and expect to be seen instantly, and without an appointment.

Her cats are unhealthy and too old to be bred from, the kittens are often sickly but she thinks they're the best.

She also gets a discount, unlike our genuine pet owners who would be massively grateful for a discount.

Jinxyjo · 14/05/2024 18:04

The women who repeatedly steal from our local coop, ive literally watched them fill their huge bags with meat, cleaning products etc and brazenly walk out without paying the staff are powerless to do much. Sometimes they sit in their big expensive cars outside and send their kids in to steal these kids look under the age of ten, they come running out with armfuls of stuff and jump in the car.

ChickenDeChick · 14/05/2024 17:50

You sound like you have a bit of a persecution complex

🤣🤣🤣🤣
Op how very dare you be annoyed at all the annoying things!!

pictoosh · 14/05/2024 17:45

And OP you know, you sound pretty intolerant if I'm being honest. Maybe yesterday was a bad day for you, maybe you were keyed up and letting it out. I have days like that too. Everything annoys me.

But really...people are allowed to start their day at 7am.

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