What is wrong with some women!

Many many years ago (in my mid 30s) I went out after work with a few colleagues, one of whom definitely fancied me, and I sort of fancied him too.

We went to a bar near Bank/Liverpool Street where a few hammered and hard faced Essex/east London girls were quite aggressive towards me, one even said to me “is he yours?!” and gestured to the man next to me. As I valued my looks, I shrugged my shoulders and luckily after hanging around she wandered off. I did end up going home with the man but it didn’t last as he just wasn’t my type. Maybe I should’ve handed her to Ms Grab a Man.

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Oh I don’t think that at all. I mean if this is true, what’s OP supposed to do, what would any of us do? We’d like to think we’d have had words with the woman in question but how do you say it without coming off as unhinged?

I’d probably burst into song with Jolene though 🤣! Or some bad girl song which states hands off! 🤣

Ha I can well believe it! Dh had this from an old female friend of his when we got engaged sort of “don’t marry her have me” conversation on a night out! Mortifying.

Why?

Have you had women make friends with your wife in the toilets, then spend time chatting to both of you at the bar and then make a pass at you that your wife couldn't see or hear despite her being sat right next to him? Were you both "horrified" and also dead chuffed?

Because that's the scenario we've been given to believe.

It was just awful.

Funny

To follow mumsnet advice one word....

Dementia!

Well according to some pp's, OP's husband should have told OP straight away so a dramatic scene would unfold and she would have had more of a story to tell us 🙄

I've noticed that some people (male or female) seem to get a kick out of chasing somebody who's obviously in a relationship.
I actually know of a woman who is open about always going for married men.
YANBU to be peed off. I would be!

I’m sure if we stick around long enough we’ll see people suggesting she may have mental health problems or a hidden disability that makes her unable to not ask for the numbers of married men

😂😂😂The OP's husband should sleep with her - "be kind".

Quite. A young man many years ago told me he didn’t care about my husband, he was only interested in me.

I didn’t actually have a husband, but thought that’d put him off. Nope, he didn’t give a hoot.

It's a people issue, not a woman’s issue.

@Alltheshoes74 I will ask again, because I haven't seen you confirm or deny. Did you actually HEAR this woman hit on your husband/ask him for his number?

This post says it all. The place has gone even more bonkers than normal mumsent recently.

I don’t know what’s wrong with some women, but I’m guessing this one fancied your husband and possibly her luck 🤷🏽‍♀️.

Doesn't matter though, as I’m also guessing he’s not interested.

My husband genuinely has a number of women who fancy him quite openly (at our shared hobby so they know
le too!) It used to really bother me but now it’s a running joke in our house and with his family! I trust him and just think it’s a bit desperate of the other women - I clearly have the upper hand - he married me! Have a laugh about it.
on the other hand I have met a disturbing amount of men on nights out who have wives and girlfriends who made it quite clear they are happy to do more than flirt. So I think your title should be people and not women!

Sorry OP, but you've refused to tell us what your DH claimed she said other than requesting a contact number. That may or may not be a come on.

You say she was sly about it but also blatant. He was horrified but also it buoyed his ego. None of it adds up.

Maybe he was avoiding you giving her a piece of your mind precisely because she didn't in fact say anything? Or maybe she asked to keep in touch with you?

Does he allow you to have friends?

All of this is giving me manipulative bloke vibes.

OP, some women are absolutely AWFUL. And the woman you describe is one of them.

I reckon she was touting for business OP.

Brutally OP, the only people who have an obligation to respect the marriage vows you and DH made to each other are you and DH

Nothing to do with the rest of us. We can merrily request numbers all night long if we want to. It won't matter a bit so long as you and DH stay true to each other

Social mores try to cultivate deference to a visible partner or wedding band, but don't really succeed, because society at large hasn't made you any promises, and has no responsibility for your marriage

Whilst this may be true, who the fck would want a man who cheats so easily on his partner with a stranger?- like, really, you think thats such a prize example of a real man?

Bloody hell some people's standards are lower than the floor.

WTAF.

Sometimes it’s not funny though 🤔. My DH is a very handsome half Italian man (fuck knows what he’s doing with me 🙃). We were in a pub one night and the barmaid (who was his mum’s neighbour and had talked to his mum about how attractive DH is) glared at me all night and then when I went to the bar she turned her back on me and walked away. It was a very uncomfortable night for me!

I went to a ticketed New Year’s Eve party with DH a few years ago. There was a woman sat next to him that he happened to have dated briefly in his teens. She was leaning her head on his shoulder and saying “I wonder what would have happened if we’d stayed together, I wonder what our kids would have looked like!” Fortunately I’m not the jealous type and just found it a bit tragic.

100% agree - sorry, OP - random woman owes you nothing.

I fancied an older (much more senior) colleague at work before– I was about 27, he was prob about 40. I liked his personality – he was a good egg, funny, sociable – he was successful (nowt to do with money, maybe more to do with status, respect for him professionally, the self-assurance and energy that comes with it), and nice eyes, not the same looks wise as guys my own age, but I found him attractive.

Perhaps not quite as big a gap as OP is talking about.

I didn’t start an affair with him! And wouldn’t pursue someone married. But was interested when he got divorced a bit after.

Also dated someone about 37 when I was 19 – just because he was fit and I fancied him (didn’t see him as suitable relationship material with the gap – obvious inadequacy on his part to be not dating someone closer to his age).

Most of my boyfriends have been about 5 years older (ie pretty much the same age).

How old is your husband, op?