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What is wrong with some women!

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Alltheshoes74 · 13/05/2024 10:08

Went out for a few cocktails with my husband Saturday evening, we were sat at the bar having a lovely time. I went to the loo and got chatting to some girls in there. Later in the evening they passed us and said hi and stopped for a chat. One was local and one was not - the local girl was mid 30's, single mum. We are older - she could be my husbands daughter! I didn't notice anything odd then as we left it turns out she asked my husband for his number!! What on earth! I mean his ego is now bursting out but we were amazed at the absolute brazenness of it all. Am still horrified that someone would do that - even when i was young and single I'd never dream of doing that.

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Josephine0 · 13/05/2024 21:40

motleymop · 13/05/2024 21:10

Women are always flirting with my boyfriend when we're together. I know that sounds like a boast but I fucking hate it. Even when we were pushing a pram around once this girl turned around and was brazenly smiling and giving him the eye. Sisterhood - yeah whatever.

I’ve had something similar not long after having a baby and very sleep deprived. I objectively looked like shit and my husband doesn’t need makeup to look ok. It also shocked me and upset me a little too as I wondered if she thought “what’s he doing with her?” Agree that the sisterhood is a load of shit for many women.

Josephine0 · 13/05/2024 21:35

luckylavender · 13/05/2024 10:47

That's what I thought

Not sure why the OP would brag about this as it could suggest her DH was being flirtatious or like they’re not happily married. Not saying this was the case btw OP but I’m surprised by posters saying I’m you’re stealthily bragging.

motleymop · 13/05/2024 21:10

Women are always flirting with my boyfriend when we're together. I know that sounds like a boast but I fucking hate it. Even when we were pushing a pram around once this girl turned around and was brazenly smiling and giving him the eye. Sisterhood - yeah whatever.

GaryLurcher19 · 13/05/2024 21:08

SloaneStreetVandal · 13/05/2024 19:57

The OP's husband is so gorgeous, the police want to put him under arrest (iykyk 🤣)

😂

badatdecisions · 13/05/2024 21:05

Shiningout · 13/05/2024 10:17

It's not really a big deal I'd just laugh it off. Plenty of men give their numbers to others on a night out. She probably had too much to drink and had the beer goggles on

I don't see many women in their 30s asking men in their 60s for their phone number. Even less so when they're clearly out on a date with their wife.

Husband must be giving off rich vibes or she's had a bet with her friend, because no one gets THAT drunk.

LocalHobo · 13/05/2024 21:02

I'm surprised that people don't believe this scenario.
Twice, in an admittedly long marriage, women have approached my DH with their contact details. In each situation we were in part of a larger group so maybe eye contact was made and attraction occurred before they knew DH was married (and accompanied by me!)As soon as they sashayed over asking for his phone to put their details in, DH said words to the effect "I'm flattered but I'm happily married to this lady" I was briefly looked up and down but it didn't immediately make them scuttle away.
In both cases I suspect drink had been consumed and in their defence, my DH has the most amazing eyes.

DodoTired · 13/05/2024 21:02

Of course it happens. So strange that some don’t believe you, WTH. 🤷‍♀️

SnuffyAndBigBird · 13/05/2024 20:46

She’s a sad slapper who has gone after an older man who probably seemed to be a good catch. She got blown off. She’s probably at home feeling very sorry for herself.

Don’t be mad, feel sorry for her.

Matronic6 · 13/05/2024 20:41

I can vouch that there are indeed women like this. One time we were out when I was pregnant, we stopped in DH's fav bar for a drink. I left DH for the toilet and came back to find him chatting to a woman. Didn't think anything of it and sat back down to join their conversation when it became clear she only had eyes for him, touched his chest at one point. DH had minimal experience with any woman aggressively flirting with him and had no idea what to do. He ended up abandoning his pint.

I don't know if was guts or desperation but I was shocked by how forward she was.

SincereH · 13/05/2024 20:40

Wow, that’s quite a story! I suppose it’s not every day that you encounter such forwardness, especially in a social setting where respect for personal boundaries is expected. I think it’s natural to feel a bit taken aback by such an unexpected request. It’s a reminder that social norms can vary widely, and what might be considered too bold for some may be just another way of making connections for others.

In my experience, the best way to handle these kinds of situations is with a sense of humor and a bit of grace. It’s okay to be surprised, but it’s also okay to laugh it off and appreciate the lighter side of life’s unexpected moments. After all, it’s these little stories that make for interesting conversations later on!

Please don't think I'm crazy. If I were you, I'd lose my temper and pull that bitch's hair out. It's just that right now I'm thinking about this situation sensibly without any aggression. Thank God you didn't behave like me :)

LondonFox · 13/05/2024 20:38

silverfullmoon · 13/05/2024 19:14

I’m sure if we stick around long enough we’ll see people suggesting she may have mental health problems or a hidden disability that makes her unable to not ask for the numbers of married men

😂😂😂The OP's husband should sleep with her - "be kind".

Ahahah fuck I woke children lauging about this.

Maybe husban should use "gentle hands" whild he is "being kind"?

SloaneStreetVandal · 13/05/2024 20:35

SerafinasGoose · 13/05/2024 20:28

He wants to put his massive tool in her box!

#milkmendoitonyourdoorstep #shithappens

SerafinasGoose · 13/05/2024 20:28

SloaneStreetVandal · 13/05/2024 19:57

The OP's husband is so gorgeous, the police want to put him under arrest (iykyk 🤣)

He wants to put his massive tool in her box!

TheaBrandt · 13/05/2024 20:17

My old flat mate in her twenties used to sleep with married colleagues for a laugh. The wives would ring up yelling and she would laugh. There aren’t many women like this but they do exist! We didn’t stay in touch!

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 13/05/2024 20:15

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 13/05/2024 20:12

I’ve known of women who do this. Or say they do it. Never really known it happen in front of the wife. Unless the woman proposing it wants her features rearranged.

I think this woman would have. She was blatant about trying it on with any "attractive" man at any work event. No shame.

My husband stayed behind me whenever she was around, because she scares him slightly! Very aggressive in the way she approaches men.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 13/05/2024 20:12

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 13/05/2024 20:01

I worked with a girl who once sat herself on the desk of my friend, who is a very happily married man, and offered him the time of his life. He turned her down.

I know this is true and not just "his version" of events because she also told me. Whilst accusing me of sleeping with him which meant he wouldn't sleep with her. Because in her head, it was only that he was already cheating on his lovely wife that he didn't want her.

To be clear, I was not sleeping with him. Also very happily married.

I’ve known of women who do this. Or say they do it. Never really known it happen in front of the wife. Unless the woman proposing it wants her features rearranged.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 13/05/2024 20:12

Polishedshoesalways · 13/05/2024 20:08

I find it more odd that you only go out together? Do you each not have friends?

Of is it because most women want to bed him on impact?!

My DH and I have our own friends and on occasion go out separately. But we both would rather spend our precious "fun money" and spare time on something we want to do together, or as a family (small DC). I don't think it's that unusual to want to spend time with your spouse?

Polishedshoesalways · 13/05/2024 20:08

I find it more odd that you only go out together? Do you each not have friends?

Of is it because most women want to bed him on impact?!

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 13/05/2024 20:03

MonsteraMama · 13/05/2024 11:41

Typical of Mumsnet for everyone to doubt the OP, assume the husband must've done something wrong because MEN BAD, and treat it like they're a bunch of amateur detectives

"What were her exact words OP? What colour shoes was she wearing? Was her handbag blue? What was the exact time of day that the event happened? I'm just not sure I believe you."

I believe you. I too am blessed with a handsome husband and women try it on with him quite a lot. It's illegal to admit that women can just be absolute cunts on this website, but there is definitely a breed of woman who gets off on the idea of being so alluring she can get a married man to cheat. It's just low self esteem.

This.

I believe you too. I've known these women. They exist. They shouldn't (sisterhood and basic respect). But they do.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 13/05/2024 20:01

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 13/05/2024 11:22

It does seem strange behaviour from the woman. Most of them especially if they know the man’s married steer well clear, even flirting, as they know that he’s off limits, more so stay away if the wife is about.

It does sound like something a married man might say to his wife to get her jealous or prove he’s “still got it”. Whatever “it” is 🤣!

I worked with a girl who once sat herself on the desk of my friend, who is a very happily married man, and offered him the time of his life. He turned her down.

I know this is true and not just "his version" of events because she also told me. Whilst accusing me of sleeping with him which meant he wouldn't sleep with her. Because in her head, it was only that he was already cheating on his lovely wife that he didn't want her.

To be clear, I was not sleeping with him. Also very happily married.

SloaneStreetVandal · 13/05/2024 19:57

The OP's husband is so gorgeous, the police want to put him under arrest (iykyk 🤣)

What is wrong with some women!
IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 13/05/2024 19:57

PhuckyNell · 13/05/2024 11:06

Op deep deep down they are all that kind of man 😂

No they aren't. That's as generalising as OPs title.

hayleyrabbit · 13/05/2024 19:54

Oh god - another amateur novelist. What a load of bull.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 13/05/2024 19:47

5128gap · 13/05/2024 12:44

OP asked what's wrong with 'some women'. In this woman's case the possibilities are:
She was overcome with desire for OPs husband and has no moral qualms about his marriage.
She was overcome with jealousy of the OP and wanted to steal her life.
She did it for a bet with her friend.
She did it to test her pulling power.
She didn't do it at all and the H made it up either to cover his own approach to her or to make OP think he's still got it.
The OP is only going to be receptive to the first two of these possibilities, for obvious reasons.

I think this post pretty much covers it.

(unless one chooses to add in that DH is a bit deaf and misheard what she way saying or that OP is making it up)

SloaneStreetVandal · 13/05/2024 19:39

Very bizarre behaviour, so much so I think it must've been a dare. Dares are a massive thing on social media (among stupid adults as much as teens!). There's probably a video of it on tiktok 😂

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