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What is wrong with some women!

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Alltheshoes74 · 13/05/2024 10:08

Went out for a few cocktails with my husband Saturday evening, we were sat at the bar having a lovely time. I went to the loo and got chatting to some girls in there. Later in the evening they passed us and said hi and stopped for a chat. One was local and one was not - the local girl was mid 30's, single mum. We are older - she could be my husbands daughter! I didn't notice anything odd then as we left it turns out she asked my husband for his number!! What on earth! I mean his ego is now bursting out but we were amazed at the absolute brazenness of it all. Am still horrified that someone would do that - even when i was young and single I'd never dream of doing that.

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Sweden99 · 14/05/2024 19:08

That is happened it not that strange, no matter how insecure people might be about it.
The question is why did OP's husband tell about it?

Pippetypoppity · 14/05/2024 19:07

I bet it was indeed awful. How grim and unsettling. You poor thing Op. I really feel for you. It’s wretched to think you were disrespected so badly, especially after chatting with them and being pleasant earlier. Clearly that woman has absolutely zero decency and standards. What an absolute sneeze and how bizarrely odd her behaviour is. I hope you pointed out to your husband that it is NOT flattering to be propositioned by the sleeziest most lowly behaved woman in the place. She might well ask every bloake she talks to - and for who knows what dodgy reason. Might even be another Martha look out !

cornflakecrunchie · 14/05/2024 19:04

@Alltheshoes74 I'm sorry that your post has been twisted. :-(
I an absolutely believe it happened just as you said, & hope the woman had had too much to drink & is now mortified, but I doubt it..
Think of the opportunities that you now have for teasing your husband, though!

Sweden99 · 14/05/2024 18:58

Again, how about a small minority of young women are into older men, but have very few single attractive ones available to them.
This thread is like a mural to insecurity.
As a middle aged man, I had the most glamorous teenage girl in our small village giddy over me. It was mortifyingly embarrassing and my wife was amused.

OldPerson · 14/05/2024 18:54

Are you sure your husband is telling you the absolute truth?

It would be quite hard for your husband to mask giving his phone number, as you both left the venue. One of them would have had to get out a phone and dial the other's number or a pen and paper to write down the number.

If this "brazen behaviour" is usual for her - it would be easier to have her name and number written down and slip it to her intended target and suggest he calls her.

She may well have paid him a harmless compliment, which he's turned into "she asked for my number", because he's milking it.

But at the end of the day, no numbers were swapped, and you both got home safely. The only drama going on now is your "entitled" outrage.

MarvellousMonsters · 14/05/2024 18:41

KimberleyClark · 13/05/2024 10:16

Is this a stealth brag!

100% stealth brag!

Also lacks a little context, did she know he was the OP's DH? Was it for something non-sleazy like a squash game or whatever. Local bowls league? Pigeon racing club...?

AHG123 · 14/05/2024 18:35

The young woman who took my husband from my sons and I, 25 years ago, altering the course of our lives.

SerafinasGoose · 14/05/2024 18:30

Polishedshoesalways · 14/05/2024 18:14

God awful song so disempowering. Torture that it’s now in my head too, thanks for that 😂

<Hangs head in shame>

AllyArty · 14/05/2024 18:27

No sisterhood there then. Some men might have said yes because they were flattered and curious, some men may not be as happily married as you say you and your DH are and would have said yes. Think of the destruction that would have caused. Shame on her.

ExpatAl · 14/05/2024 18:21

I can believe it happened. The cheek and grubbiness of it!
My husband is tall and gorgeous and I’m short and built for famine. Women walk past him repeatedly, brush against him and actually tut when they see I’m with him. One asked him what he was doing with me and another told me I was selfish. He does not encourage in any way. Not all men are awful.

Rescuedog12 · 14/05/2024 18:16

Some girls ARE like that.i was on a first date.we were queuing outside a bar and a girl inside was flirting with him through the window.He was flirting back and I stood there feeling foolish and pretending I hadn't noticed.Once inside she walked past us several times, smiling at him.i went to the toilet.when I came back she was there.i announced I was leaving.he at least had the decency to get a cab and drop me at my car which was parked outside his house.we said not one word.i got home and he sent a text." Sorry for being a git".And that was it.

Polishedshoesalways · 14/05/2024 18:14

SerafinasGoose · 14/05/2024 18:10

I now have Dolly Parton's 'Jolene' bouncing around in my head and can't stop singing it.

I am blaming this thread ...

God awful song so disempowering. Torture that it’s now in my head too, thanks for that 😂

Annierob · 14/05/2024 18:14

What a cheek! Might have been a dare or just a wish to cause trouble.

SerafinasGoose · 14/05/2024 18:10

I now have Dolly Parton's 'Jolene' bouncing around in my head and can't stop singing it.

I am blaming this thread ...

PUGMEISTER21 · 14/05/2024 17:52

YoureStuckOnMeLikeATattoohoohoo · 13/05/2024 10:18

Sure she did 🤣

I think your dh might be trying to make you jealous.

The post doesnt say that her husband gave the woman his number. Just says she asked himnfor it. Prob a dare.

Mimimimi1234 · 14/05/2024 17:47

When I was young and still on the dating scene I used to aspire to be in a nice relationship, with kids, a house, a job all those things. It seems like an impossible dream. Sounds like she wanted what you have. I would never dream of doing that either, but Ive seen all sorts in my years and this doesn't surprise me, which is why I am extremely wary of people that are over friendly, I find they usually want something from you or want to mess with you. I had my drink spiked by a woman in a bar once as we spoke in the toilets and I could tell she was jealous for some reason I don't actually know why, then she was all around me in the bar and I ended up in an ambulance. I absolutely think that there are some terrible people out there that would do this.

thebestinterest · 14/05/2024 00:14

😯 with you here, op. Desperation.

Now I’m curious… did he give her his number?

GaryLurcher19 · 13/05/2024 23:39

Redpaisely · 13/05/2024 23:26

She explained that in the moment she was talking the other lady. There is not more to analyse. Her husband told her what happened and knowing her husband she believes him.

When did OP explain that? OP has said a number of things including that the woman asked her DH "slyly" - though she refused to elaborate on that - and also that OP couldn't hear because of the music. Now you say OP was talking to the other lady.

Many explanations for OP not hearing a conversation that she claims happened right beside her.

I agree that there's nowt to analyse. OP won't even tell us what was said.

ILikeBakeryStuff · 13/05/2024 23:29

I agree some people can be very forward.

These days could be a woman trying her luck and failing (and all that comes from it is a laugh and an ego boost), or something much more deliberate such as the start of a scam. Maybe she picked you and your husband as the target.

Redpaisely · 13/05/2024 23:26

GaryLurcher19 · 13/05/2024 22:05

What happens? OP refuses to tell us.

Women sometimes come on to married men. Absolutely true.

But all we have here is someone asking for a phone number after enjoying a social evening. Dunno if it was a come on or not because despite bringing it to Mumsnet, OP doesn't want to share specifics. 🙍

She explained that in the moment she was talking the other lady. There is not more to analyse. Her husband told her what happened and knowing her husband she believes him.

Redpaisely · 13/05/2024 23:24

Sunnyandsilly · 13/05/2024 11:32

We all beleive her. It’s rhe husband we are not sure about.

many options here.

him, I’d love to meet you again .
her, ok. Give me your number,
Tells wife half the story

him, id love to see you again can I have your number
tells wife she asked him just in case the op sees the women again and they tell her.

him, she asked for my number, ,,,just to make op jealous.

or, in his scenario. He showed no interest, and a much younger woman asked for his number in front of his wife.

i know which one i find the least likely.

You don't know OP's husband and making such confident assumptions about him. This thread has taken misandry to another level.

Also, he can be both horrified and flattered at different times. First his reaction was of being horrified that a woman who met his wife first has suddenly asked for his number and later felt that he still has got that appeal.

Razorwire · 13/05/2024 22:33

She might be looking for new business for her “service” industry . She’s not picky, any man ok as long as they pay.

GaryLurcher19 · 13/05/2024 22:05

DodoTired · 13/05/2024 21:02

Of course it happens. So strange that some don’t believe you, WTH. 🤷‍♀️

What happens? OP refuses to tell us.

Women sometimes come on to married men. Absolutely true.

But all we have here is someone asking for a phone number after enjoying a social evening. Dunno if it was a come on or not because despite bringing it to Mumsnet, OP doesn't want to share specifics. 🙍

anothernamitynamenamechange · 13/05/2024 21:50

Alltheshoes74 · 13/05/2024 11:48

Thankyou - I put this post up because I was genuinely annoyed that someone would do this. The replies have been an eye opener. Yes he is handsome and a nice guy - this was a blatant arm chance from the girl - I have my own thoughts on why she did it but that's not for on here as I'm sure I'd be crucified or accused of being delusional.

Do you think she did it to compete with you in a weird way? I know that sounds strange, but when an attractive woman is with a guy that can make the guy more desirable in the eyes of some women (like this one). Almost like trying to prove she's better than you. I wondered if you were also thinking that from your "I'd be cricified" comment (you probably would if you said it was because she was jealous of you but that doesn't make it not true)

BigMandsTattooPortfolio · 13/05/2024 21:45

This happens to my BIL - only with Gay men. He & my sister laugh about it.

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