What is wrong with some women!

Some posters are commenting about teenage girls being flirty/inappropriate. I think that is a bit different to a woman in her 30s doing it. I'm sure I had a few crushes on adult men as a teen - didn't actually act on it though.

I commented about this upthread. Only ever known people give their number or ask to swap numbers once both keen.

Our crowd figured she was probably drunk but we don't know that because you do not mention if she was drinking alcohol, only that you and husband were out for cocktails.

Our answer presumes she is drunk..

You seem to be confident that he did not give his number to her. And even though you state you were right there with him, you can't seem to answer anyone's questions about what he said and what she said so we wonder if this is fake or AI fishing for opinions to use in other forums.

If he is flattered by a drunk woman asking for his phone number when she clearly knows he is married, your husband has a maturity problem. Most people would not be flattered by anyone being disgusting enough or drunk enough to ask for their number in front of a lover. They would view that person as manipulative and potentially desperate to get her own ego stroked or even looking to see what poor sap she could potentially lure into her life to provide steady income. Most would feel sorry for such a person and not flattered. That does not mean they want to help her after feeling sorry for her. It means they see her for the sad state she is in which is a person willing to using flattery on an older man to manipulate him through stroking his ego or her own.

If your husband doesn't realize that probably was what was occurring and was flattered then it was inappropriate to brag to you about this. Trying to make someone jealous is a sign of immaturity. Maybe he can dig deep and find out where the need to get flattered is coming from. Secure people, people comfortable and secure with themselves don't need flattery. People who need flattery or want to make others jealous are vulnerable and easy prey.

She might of woke up with a blazing hangover and not even know what she did, one of the dangers of excessive drinking. Hope she walked home or took public transport.

I don't think there's any boundaries these days, it doesn't sound like it. I'd have been livid if they'd been chatting to me in the loos & then pulled a stunt like that. I think it all depends on the individual - maybe she does it all the time or it might have been a challenge - some people don't care whose toes they tread on or what grief they cause. Whatever it was, she ended up looking a twat so keep that in mind & don't let anyone get between you.

I think they people doubting the OP are probably part of the MN coterie who don't believe a younger woman could possibly be attracted to a middle aged man!

I believe you, OP!

Not just younger ones who do this, we went out as a group of couples to a wine bar. Was in there all of 2 minutes (wives stood to the side while the husbands got the drinks in) and a lady waltz straight over to the group and singled out my OH. She asked firstly ‘ooo is it boys night’ and he replied ‘no I’m with my wife she’s standing there behind you’ and she said ‘oh what a shame’ and sauntered off.
I’ve been with my other half for almost 20 years, since we were teens and I certainly wasn’t threatened by her (she probably was 10 years older than us) but I just thought how desperate. Couldn’t have even tried to catch his eye before she pounced.

we had a laugh about it but it made me feel awfully sorry for women who have weak husbands.

A few years ago I was at a one year old’s birthday party with my infant and I got talking to this girl. She was really nice and made a fuss over my baby. Later on, she found my partner on FB somehow, and was in his inbox flirting.

She knew he was with me because I had pointed out to her who I was at the party with. Partner was laughing about “still having it” and shower me and that’s when I recognised her.

I grew up in a town like that, loads of cheap slappers with no morals.

So sorry. I hope you found happiness again. 🌺

That's horrible OP, I'd be horrified. Sorry you had that.

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@loropianalover exactly!! (OP also im very guilty of making new friends in ladies loos.) Regardless, wouldnt she leave HER number, if stealth, than ask for his?? especially if she wanted to be friends with you both?? perhaps he is winding you up. or... x

Teen girls used to get crushes on my dad 🤮 who was a senior teacher and to be fair was good looking. He dealt with it kindly and firmly and made sure he was never on his own with a teenage girl like most male teachers he was terrified of false accusations.

The thing to note is that is was one of them. It is a small minority of young women who have this preference, but they do exist.

we’ve been married for 15 years and it began when we were dating and continues now. Even when we’re out as a family.
I feel sorry for some of them. They want to be loved. Some are sleezes who would revel in being the cause of a break up. So much for sisterhood.

I agree the lack of specifics is odd. Surely you asked your husband to exactly what this woman said, given your outrage?

There absolutely are women (and men) like this, but if it were me I’d want to know exactly what was said, so I could understand whether I should be annoyed or whether we should find it funny.

No excuse for her behaviour whatsoever

I'll tell you what is wrong with some women, they have no self respect and think they're gods gift to men (which is why half of them end up single with kids) .... the one would have seen how much you were enjoying yourselves and thought it was a good opportunity "by talking to you in the toilets" knowing full well she would get your husband's attention before the day was out "while you're back was turned" and craftely asked for his phone number .... These women are desperate little sla##ers and do not care who they hurt, or make to feel uncomfortable. I would advise whenever you go out again, don't acknowledge any woman, speak too but just be wary.... they are like flies on sh#t.

Of course, that must be it. Her DH is a window cleaner 🙄

Cheeky mare!

He wasn't taken, he chose to walk away.