What is wrong with some women!

The words this woman said are the whole issue, no? And it seems odd to expect everyone to agree that those words amount to bad behaviour without even telling us what they were.

I don't disbelieve OP, I just think there's a lot of room for misunderstanding and her DH's reactions don't make sense.

This ^ 🧐👏🏻👏🏻

So she asked the number of an obviously married man when his wife's back was turned. A man twenty years her senior? After befriending the wife?
Those must have been some STRONG cocktails they serve in this bar!

Its nothing to do with all men are bad. It's to do with a bunch of women who all at some point have been young women, some who still are, who know young women and what is usual amongst them, who may be married to middle aged men, and the collective experience that tells us how very very rare it is for young women to give out their numbers to men their dad's age in front of their wives.
When you're presented with a situation that's as rare as hens teeth, but could be interpretated in a way that would be much more typical, it's human nature to consider the more likely may be true.

Of course she did OP😂

OP should take the same leaf from the same book. Write her off as an arsehole and move on with your day. Your husband turned her down. Nothing bad has happened. She will continue to be a cunt. Worse things happen at sea etc etc.

The MN options:

a) Didn't happen
b) Husband's fault

Drunk attractive woman who’s either not heard or seen the man is married. Or waits as this seems to be the case for the woman to be out of sight then asks for his number. I’ve been in bars where this definitely could happen. Could or should it happen? No of course not.

I’m not doubting you at all. I’ve had a handsome fiance who women did try it on with when we were together, despite me being next to him and flashing my ring at them. Some women are brazen. But this was when I was about 21/22.

I’m not doubting that a younger woman would flirt with an older married man but most younger women I know have other fish to fry shall we say.

If I lost my head over the number of complete stranger 'absolute cunts' I encountered in everyday life, I'd spend my life angry. Unfortunately, they are everywhere and come in all demographics and both sexes.

Some things are worth getting het up about. Others are not.

Yeah that is particularly brazen. It’s one thing asking a married man for his number, but to do it while his wife is with him is another level.

Typical of Mumsnet for everyone to doubt the OP, assume the husband must've done something wrong because MEN BAD, and treat it like they're a bunch of amateur detectives

"What were her exact words OP? What colour shoes was she wearing? Was her handbag blue? What was the exact time of day that the event happened? I'm just not sure I believe you."

I believe you. I too am blessed with a handsome husband and women try it on with him quite a lot. It's illegal to admit that women can just be absolute cunts on this website, but there is definitely a breed of woman who gets off on the idea of being so alluring she can get a married man to cheat. It's just low self esteem.

Horrified?

This is seriously small stuff. She's a stranger. If he doesn't accept her kind invitation then there is absolutely no harm done to anyone.

If he does, then the problem is not the behaviour of 'some women'. It's him.

Asking a married man for his number while his wife is right there is not a big deal? Plenty of married men give their numbers out? You must mix in circles with a low priority for respect

We all beleive her. It’s rhe husband we are not sure about.

many options here.

him, I’d love to meet you again .
her, ok. Give me your number,
Tells wife half the story

him, id love to see you again can I have your number
tells wife she asked him just in case the op sees the women again and they tell her.

him, she asked for my number, ,,,just to make op jealous.

or, in his scenario. He showed no interest, and a much younger woman asked for his number in front of his wife.

i know which one i find the least likely.

I believe you. Things like this do happen. Some people have no shame unfortunately. Of course it would be an ego boost if someone asked for your number as it shows they find you attractive. Just not nice when they clearly know you are in a partnership.

Very true, very true.

We don't even know what the woman said let alone whether anything sexual was suggested.

😂

Didn't happen.

You mean for a threesome or something?!

It does seem strange behaviour from the woman. Most of them especially if they know the man’s married steer well clear, even flirting, as they know that he’s off limits, more so stay away if the wife is about.

It does sound like something a married man might say to his wife to get her jealous or prove he’s “still got it”. Whatever “it” is 🤣!

Quite a few posters on here seem to be enjoying trying to gaslight the OP!

OH IS a bit dim in this area, but in this scenario he would likely assume she was asking for our number and probably brought me into the conversation.