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What is wrong with some women!

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Alltheshoes74 · 13/05/2024 10:08

Went out for a few cocktails with my husband Saturday evening, we were sat at the bar having a lovely time. I went to the loo and got chatting to some girls in there. Later in the evening they passed us and said hi and stopped for a chat. One was local and one was not - the local girl was mid 30's, single mum. We are older - she could be my husbands daughter! I didn't notice anything odd then as we left it turns out she asked my husband for his number!! What on earth! I mean his ego is now bursting out but we were amazed at the absolute brazenness of it all. Am still horrified that someone would do that - even when i was young and single I'd never dream of doing that.

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DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 13/05/2024 14:32

OP

What action did you take??

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 13/05/2024 14:30

KimberleyClark · 13/05/2024 10:16

Is this a stealth brag!

😂😂

BigAnne · 13/05/2024 14:28

Alltheshoes74 · 13/05/2024 11:01

No, that's not him at all - he's not that kind of man, he was as horrified that she'd done it as I was

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I doubt he was horrified. He'll be bragging about it to all his mates 😂

SheepAndSword · 13/05/2024 14:26

I wouldn't like that, but just brush it off @Alltheshoes74

Starlight330 · 13/05/2024 14:22

Age means nothing if attractive, especially if they're not looking for a relationship. Young men too also try it on with attractive women old enough to be their mother. As the old saying goes 'The older the fiddle the better the tune' 🤣

Mothership4two · 13/05/2024 14:20

Wondering why she asked him for his number and didn't just give him hers? This would have been normal back in the day to indicate an interest in someone - maybe things have changed?

Howbizarre22 · 13/05/2024 14:19

I think your DH is bullshitting you. It never happened

Xenoi24 · 13/05/2024 14:15

I have my own thoughts on why she did it but that's not for on here as I'm sure I'd be crucified or accused of being delusional.

She thought you are as good if better looking than her, even though you're older than her, was jealous, and wanted to prove she could pull your man?

She commented on your clothing/accessories, was jealous of your standard of living and wanted to pull your husband to get one up on you, or to try to get stuff like that for herself (thinking he's v comfortably off)?

SerafinasGoose · 13/05/2024 14:14

Likewhatever · 13/05/2024 13:42

My vocabulary is fine thank you, I chose a word which exactly describes the conduct.

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Really? It's not a word I've heard used - at least openly - in many years. That's even accounting for the fact that misogynistic attitudes to women have gone backwards in recent decades rather than progressing.

Is that the 'vocabulary' of the last century? Or the one before that?

Xenoi24 · 13/05/2024 14:07

5128gap · 13/05/2024 12:44

OP asked what's wrong with 'some women'. In this woman's case the possibilities are:
She was overcome with desire for OPs husband and has no moral qualms about his marriage.
She was overcome with jealousy of the OP and wanted to steal her life.
She did it for a bet with her friend.
She did it to test her pulling power.
She didn't do it at all and the H made it up either to cover his own approach to her or to make OP think he's still got it.
The OP is only going to be receptive to the first two of these possibilities, for obvious reasons.

There is also the possibility she does some sex work and thought he might be interested in being a client.

Jinglesomeoftheway · 13/05/2024 13:58

@Alltheshoes74

Wow OP, this is outrageous!!!!

Ignore those making excuses for her - I 100% believe it, I had a friend just like her (note the word 'had'), who loved the chase of married men. She'd get a massive confidence boost chasing married or taken men, and them choosing her over their current partners. Alcohol can make people very brazen!

DazedNotConfused1 · 13/05/2024 13:57

TheCultureHusks · 13/05/2024 11:11

That’s weird. Agree that either your husband is making it up or there would definitely be an angle he’s not worked out in his own head. Yep she absolutely could have an onlyfans and is trying to get men to look her up!

Gosh mumsnet is so misinformed when it comes to OnlyFans it’s embarrassing.

DrusillaPaddock · 13/05/2024 13:56

Just to add, If I was in my thirties with kids and single, an older guy would be a good match as guys a similar age are likely to have kids already or be aiming to start a family.
I'd assume any kids he had would be grown up and independent.
I sound very calculating (I'm really not) but I would NEVER target an attached man.

Benthany · 13/05/2024 13:50

GaryLurcher19 · 13/05/2024 10:51

Because OP still hasn't told us exactly what was said to give her this perception, despite being asked to elaborate by several pp.

Also, asking to stay in touch with people whose company you enjoyed isn't necessarily “being a twat“

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Most of us have social media for that. You don't nessarily need someone's number to stay in touch.

DrusillaPaddock · 13/05/2024 13:50

Super blunt:
She's a single Mum who's probably had one or more crappy relationships. She decided to make a play for a much older man as she knows they will be more likely to treat her better than men her own age. He will also likely have a higher status job and more assets than guys around her age.
That he looks good for his age means two things: The first, obviously, is that he is attractive. The second, that he hasn't gone to seed in a long-term relationship or with middle-age, so he won't with her. (I have a theory that older men and women who make the BEST of themselves - attract attention generally, even from younger people)
Finally, because he is happily paired up, it shows that another woman wants him - so he should be decent.
I also think she lacks morals, but that's a more personal take!

Wingingnoise · 13/05/2024 13:49

Good for your @5128gap

And it definitely happened @Sunnyandsilly

Conkersinautumn · 13/05/2024 13:48

Collecting as many numbers as possible or they thought you were swingers?

Walkingqueen · 13/05/2024 13:46

Are you 100% certain that your dh wasn't playing you up?

My ex was apparently irrefutable to women. Even the hairdresser in a relationship came onto him.

I never witnessed any of this either my own eyes funny enough.

Likewhatever · 13/05/2024 13:42

5128gap · 13/05/2024 13:23

Do you? Personally, I find it possible to discuss a person's actions without resorting to offensive misogynist slang. However I appreciate that some individuals have limited vocabulary and perhaps also get a little buzz out of saying bad words about women.

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My vocabulary is fine thank you, I chose a word which exactly describes the conduct.

Sugarcoatedalmonds · 13/05/2024 13:28

Wingingnoise · 13/05/2024 12:00

There is a restaurant near me that employ very beautiful waiting/bar staff, expensive place, attracts the wealthy. One waitress was known for being on the lookout for a partner from the client base. One night she slipped her number to man who was sitting at a table with his wife. She didn’t realise he was an investor in the restaurant. She was sacked that night.

As if 🙄

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 13/05/2024 13:27

DarkGlassesAndHat · 13/05/2024 12:43

I’ve had a handsome fiance who women did try it on with when we were together, despite me being next to him and flashing my ring at them.

This sounds like some weird animal courtship thing that I can imagine David Attenborough narrating. Maybe some species of monkey/primate?

"The female of the courting couple bends over and flashes her ring at the competing female to ward her off..."

😳

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Ha! Well it either did or didn’t work… I’d come back from the toilets in a bar or pub with some woman talking to him (he was Canadian but on leave/living in England so the Canadian accent probably had an appeal to them too). At least one time I got back and he was saying “I told you my fiancée would be right back”. I couldn’t be arsed with speaking to her so I recall I just sat next to him in her viewpoint showing my quite large engagement ring to her, as a kind of “hands off he’s mine” statement.

5128gap · 13/05/2024 13:23

Wingingnoise · 13/05/2024 13:12

I think a woman passing her number to a man who is clearly with a romantic partner can rightfully be called a slapper tbh @Sunnyandsilly

Do you? Personally, I find it possible to discuss a person's actions without resorting to offensive misogynist slang. However I appreciate that some individuals have limited vocabulary and perhaps also get a little buzz out of saying bad words about women.

Sunnyandsilly · 13/05/2024 13:19

Wingingnoise · 13/05/2024 13:12

I think a woman passing her number to a man who is clearly with a romantic partner can rightfully be called a slapper tbh @Sunnyandsilly

It’s a horrible mysogynstic dated term and you’ve no idea if it even happened. Never mind condoning posters hurling abuse

CherryBombe · 13/05/2024 13:14

What is the relevance of her being a single mum?

Wingingnoise · 13/05/2024 13:12

I think a woman passing her number to a man who is clearly with a romantic partner can rightfully be called a slapper tbh @Sunnyandsilly