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This needs reporting so it can be investigated

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yesthatsmyactualname · 12/05/2024 23:02

I have been hearing rumours about an old colleague from various sources, let's call him Sid.
Sid is a gay man in his 30s. He has had a series of long term relationship with men younger than him but not crazy young, 3-5 years younger.
He is also involved in a lot of amateur dramatics. Apparently, his most recent relationship ended after he took a young guy to Blackpool for the weekend. They are just good friends but this is a lad of 18 and Sid was on the production team of the show.
Rumours about Sid being too friendly with a number of young boys. Being someone to look up to, being a mentor. It all could be completely harmless but the grooming rumours going round both the am-dram community and in schools, is a lot.
I feel these rumours should be passed on to either be dismissed and stopped or to stop him from harming children.
My colleague that told me the rumour isn't going to say to anyone in authority because they don't want to be involved or make malicious claims with no evidence.
I have even less evidence so would I be unreasonable to pass on what I've heard?

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movingonsaturday · 12/05/2024 23:24

What's eh accused of exactly? Having with relations with an 18 year old? Thats legal?

Psychoticbreak · 12/05/2024 23:23

You could send the idea to netflix and see if they can make a show out of it.

yesthatsmyactualname · 12/05/2024 23:22

@TedWilson It was someone much closer who told me. Others have mentioned little comments in the past but nobody would confront him.

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Guavafish1 · 12/05/2024 23:21

I think don't get involved

ExtraOnions · 12/05/2024 23:21

It may be immoral, but, don’t think it’s illegal. We don’t have morality police in this country.

yesthatsmyactualname · 12/05/2024 23:20

I just worry that this is like an open secret that lots of people know but everybody turns a blind eye.
The photos of the Blackpool trip were all over Facebook.
I hope that staying out of it, is the correct though.

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TedWilson · 12/05/2024 23:18

You seem to know a lot about an old colleague? If you know this then presumably those closer to him also do. If it's the am-dram group he is involved with they have a duty of care for safeguarding if indeed his choice of companion is getting younger but at 18 he isn't technically doing anything wrong regardless of personal opinions.

misszebra · 12/05/2024 23:15

rumours... not your business. stop trying to stir the pot.

GentlemanJohnny · 12/05/2024 23:12

Report what? Rumours? Hearsay at best with no evidence? Why has no one else passed them on?

Plus there's the law of slander to consider.

Do nothing is my advice.